TinkerFairy
If you don't know where you are going, any road wi
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2006
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Okay.
I know a lot of you got some sort of opposition from one person or another when it came to planning and holding your DFTW.
Now of all people in my family, and soon to be family, I would have never expected the drama to unfold where it is coming from.
To give a little bit of backround into this situation, I was brought up Disney. My parents took me at least once a year if not two or three times since the age of three. My whole childhood, I told my mom that I would get married at Disney when the day came, and now, things are falling into place and the dream is coming true.
Now, I expected some problems along the way, but never in the form of where they are coming from. My family is Catholic, so I expected my grandmother to be totally against this, yet she loves it. My mother loves it, and even my future mother in law is so excited about the whole Disney fairy tale magic wedding, that I think she is more geeked up then I am about it!
Enter my moms sister.
First of all, we are planning an intimate wedding. DF and I both agreed we wanted a small, intimate ceremony that would be magical for everyone we involved. We are having a huge reception when we come home, and wanted our wedding to be private and special. So naturally I invited my grandmother and my closest aunt, who played a big part in my childhood. I didn't however, invite my mom's middle sister.
She of course found out about our plans, and basically invited herself.
Now normally, I would have went along with it, we had enough spots for guests open to allow for them to attend. I will admit it made me mad that she didn't even ask if she was invited, just assumed.
Then comes the drama.
Not a day after she heard of the plans, (this was back in July mind you), she started calling me.
Telling me not to stay at this hotel, don't do this, why on earth did you invite so and so, ect.
Being brought up Disney, we ALWAYS stayed on site, I think I can be a pretty good judge of where I'd like to stay for my wedding and Disneymoon, and my guest list, my business.
And from there ladies and gents, it only escalates.
My mother had picked out a beautiful dress to wear, and we had narrowed down the flower girl dresses to two styles. ( i'll be having three flower girls)
On Saturday we all, (me, DF, FMIL/FFIL, My mom/dad, DF's Sister/Husband/Kids, my moms sister and grandaughter), went out to look at the flower girl dresses together.
Instantly she starts picking up other styles because they're cheaper, telling me to put the girls in 3 different dresses because the store had discontinued markdowns, basically driving me beyond a breaking point, at which point I walked out of the store followed by DF to let off some steam.
Then my mother re-tries on the dress she had picked to show FMIL how it looks. At which point my aunt tells her she needs a size bigger, it makes her look silly with the way the zipper falls. Any nasty thing she could think of to say, she did. My mom looked crushed. The dress is perfect for her, she looks gorgeous in it.
I'm about one comment away from telling her where to go and what to do.
Since I never actually invited her, is it going to make me come out the horrible one by telling her that I think it's better for her to not come?
Nothing but her has been stressful to me thus far.
For not even having my DFTW booked yet, the entire reception back home is paid for and planned. Decorations are taken care of, DJ is almost decided on, and I have not had one bit of stress.
With all her negativity so far, I'm just expecting the entire Disney magic to be ruined by her comments and idiot remarks.
She is proving our point in why we wanted a destination wedding to begin with, to not have to deal with uneeded stress the day of the ceremony. All I can think about is the ways she could ruin our day. For someone who is only paying for her trip and a flower girl dress (and who invited herself), she acts as though she is paying for every single aspect of our special day, and I'm ready to tell her to take a hike.
I know a lot of you got some sort of opposition from one person or another when it came to planning and holding your DFTW.
Now of all people in my family, and soon to be family, I would have never expected the drama to unfold where it is coming from.
To give a little bit of backround into this situation, I was brought up Disney. My parents took me at least once a year if not two or three times since the age of three. My whole childhood, I told my mom that I would get married at Disney when the day came, and now, things are falling into place and the dream is coming true.
Now, I expected some problems along the way, but never in the form of where they are coming from. My family is Catholic, so I expected my grandmother to be totally against this, yet she loves it. My mother loves it, and even my future mother in law is so excited about the whole Disney fairy tale magic wedding, that I think she is more geeked up then I am about it!
Enter my moms sister.
First of all, we are planning an intimate wedding. DF and I both agreed we wanted a small, intimate ceremony that would be magical for everyone we involved. We are having a huge reception when we come home, and wanted our wedding to be private and special. So naturally I invited my grandmother and my closest aunt, who played a big part in my childhood. I didn't however, invite my mom's middle sister.
She of course found out about our plans, and basically invited herself.
Now normally, I would have went along with it, we had enough spots for guests open to allow for them to attend. I will admit it made me mad that she didn't even ask if she was invited, just assumed.
Then comes the drama.
Not a day after she heard of the plans, (this was back in July mind you), she started calling me.
Telling me not to stay at this hotel, don't do this, why on earth did you invite so and so, ect.
Being brought up Disney, we ALWAYS stayed on site, I think I can be a pretty good judge of where I'd like to stay for my wedding and Disneymoon, and my guest list, my business.
And from there ladies and gents, it only escalates.
My mother had picked out a beautiful dress to wear, and we had narrowed down the flower girl dresses to two styles. ( i'll be having three flower girls)
On Saturday we all, (me, DF, FMIL/FFIL, My mom/dad, DF's Sister/Husband/Kids, my moms sister and grandaughter), went out to look at the flower girl dresses together.
Instantly she starts picking up other styles because they're cheaper, telling me to put the girls in 3 different dresses because the store had discontinued markdowns, basically driving me beyond a breaking point, at which point I walked out of the store followed by DF to let off some steam.
Then my mother re-tries on the dress she had picked to show FMIL how it looks. At which point my aunt tells her she needs a size bigger, it makes her look silly with the way the zipper falls. Any nasty thing she could think of to say, she did. My mom looked crushed. The dress is perfect for her, she looks gorgeous in it.
I'm about one comment away from telling her where to go and what to do.
Since I never actually invited her, is it going to make me come out the horrible one by telling her that I think it's better for her to not come?
Nothing but her has been stressful to me thus far.
For not even having my DFTW booked yet, the entire reception back home is paid for and planned. Decorations are taken care of, DJ is almost decided on, and I have not had one bit of stress.
With all her negativity so far, I'm just expecting the entire Disney magic to be ruined by her comments and idiot remarks.
She is proving our point in why we wanted a destination wedding to begin with, to not have to deal with uneeded stress the day of the ceremony. All I can think about is the ways she could ruin our day. For someone who is only paying for her trip and a flower girl dress (and who invited herself), she acts as though she is paying for every single aspect of our special day, and I'm ready to tell her to take a hike.
