Ughh.....my daughter was offensive.....

[DisneyJen0504]

Well said FayeW!
I couldn't have said it better!

 

[dis4me]

Very well said

All I can speak to is my own industry (finance), where you need a bachelor's to get a job as an administrative assistant; however, you'll start at $40K. I can speak firsthand to three major companies in finance who start new college grads at $55K + bonus. I'll take any of that over McD's, anyday. Third-year investment banking bonuses this year averaged $66K, so you have literally thousands of 25 year olds with elite bachelors degrees are walking around this year making $150K. I don't think people realize how wide the gulf between degreed and non-degreed has become. Today is not 1970. There are always going to be slackers with Ph.D.s and serious character flaws. There are always going to be millionaires next door who strike magic with tenth-grade educations. But a degree makes your shot at a better life, where you're well-compensated and well-respected for a normal workload that engages your brain, far more likely, and I want my future 12-year-old to know that. If she makes an insensitive joke about it, I'll tell her to cut it out. There are a lot of truths in the world that are inappropriate for humor. Chalk this one up as one of those.

P.S. If another mother goes nuclear on my kid with a relatively minor event like this as provocation, I will defend my daughter like the mama bear I will be, even if she is wrong. She's mine, and I'll lay down in front of the truck for her.

 

[cleo]

My kid could have (likely, would have!) said the same thing. Friends of his have said equally dorky things while in my company, totally harmless statements appropriate to the circumstances, if a bit 'blunt'. You're not alone, your daughter did nothing wrong and hopefully it's all blown over by now.

We took one friend of DS's on a long weekend trip this summer and he spent the entire time contradicting everyone, telling us he'd 'seen better, done more' etc, making negative comments throughout the entire trip, insisting he wanted steak for dinner each night, etc, until we finally told him to knock it off. We know he's a 12 year old boy and 12 year old boys sometimes have the manners of a baboon. Would we take him on another trip? Sure! He's a fun kid! I would hope if my son said something a friends parents (or parents friends) thought was out of line they'll remember he's a kid. Remind him to use his manners if necessary, then let it drop.

 

[Caradana]

Very well said

Thanks. OceanAnnie, you too.