UGH!! Punished my DS but myself at the same time! - UPDATE! Post #1

[kbkids]

You think I'd learn! DD is spending the night with a friend tomorrow night. DH is out of town working. So, asked Grandma if DS could spend the night with her. Was so looking forward to a night alone. Well, he's been awful all day! Whiny, mean, not listening, wouldn't eat his dinner. Last straw, told him to clean up his room - ignored me - told him it was last warning or he wasn't going to Grandma's. The moment the words came out of my mouth, I thought, "Oh no! Now I've done it!" But it was too late. Ten minutes later, he's in his sister's room playing. I go look at his room - nothing has been touched! He sees me and gets this look of horror on his face. I was ticked - "That's it! You're not going to Grandma's!" Oh Lord, then the screaming and tears started. He had that room clean in 30 seconds, but too late. He's been crying for 30 minutes. I'm about to pull my hair out. So needed a night to just rent a movie and veg out on the couch!



Thought you might you know how my night ended up. It obviously was so not meant to be. Took DD over to her friend's house, draggin DS crying and whining the whole time. Got home, gave him some cold medicine (he really did have a stuffy nose - the drowsy side effects was just an added benefit ), and he went to bed a little earlier - not much. Anyway, ended up staying up late wrapping presents since I couldn't start until DS was asleep. All in all, still a quiet night, went to bed around midnight. At 4:00 the phone rings, DD is throwing up and running a 102 fever.

When DH got back in town, I told him that I knew what I wanted for Christmas. I wanted to just go to a nice hotel somewhere for just one night and be completely alone! His response, "Oh, that sounds great! Who's going to keep the kids so we can go?" He obviously missed the "be completely alone" part.

 

[Free4Life11]

Send him anyways...let her deal with him

 

[aloysius1992]

Ouch. Eat out fast food, rent a chic flick movie and veg out anyway.

 

[lewdyan1]

Hey...that's the price of being a great parent...keep up the good work!

 

[kbkids]

He finally quit crying about 15 minutes - honestly figured he had fallen asleep until I heard him playing with his trains. He just walked out here and gave me a big hug and said, "Mommy, I'm being nice."
Guess he thinks it's now kiss up time. Is there a rule on how many good deeds outdo a day of rotten behavior?

 

[disykat]

Don't you just hate that? You set the punishment and then dread carrying it through. I don't know how old he is, but I'd think about sending him in to his bedroom early and having the time to yourself anyway.

 

[kbkids]

Don't you just hate that? You set the punishment and then dread carrying it through. I don't know how old he is, but I'd think about sending him in to his bedroom early and having the time to yourself anyway.

He's 4. But DD is going over to her friend's at 3:00, so I had planned to drop him off at mom's at the same time. A whole afternoon to wrap Christmas presents instead of sitting up late at night trying to get them done. Then order a pizza, turn on the Christmas tree lights, and watch TV, take a bubble bath, curl up in bed - Oh, now I'm just downright depressed!

 

[golfgal]

I hear you. DS13 will be officially grounded Monday night after his parent teacher conference when I officially get his mid-term grades. He has a "C" in math because he just didn't feel like doing any work, so he is grounded until the NEXT report card which is MID-JANUARY. Oh, well, that is life but it is going to stink.

 

[kbkids]

I hear you. DS13 will be officially grounded Monday night after his parent teacher conference when I officially get his mid-term grades. He has a "C" in math because he just didn't feel like doing any work, so he is grounded until the NEXT report card which is MID-JANUARY. Oh, well, that is life but it is going to stink.

Ooo! So I shouldn't complain about missing just ONE night, huh? Good luck!

 

[minkydog]

Yep, better read the fine print on you Parent Card.It's all right there--under "follow through". Hopefully, after he sees that you mean what you say you won't have to repeat this lesson(too much.)

 

[Sandcass]

I also think you should follow thru. BUT.... don't let him being home ruin your plans. I think he's old enough to understand. When he wants to play with you, or watch tv in the family room, or whatever, you say "No, you're home because you got in trouble, I was planning on watching a movie tonight." He should have to pretty much entertain himself while you still have your time to veg. And a nice early bedtime of course!

Good luck! BTW, glad to hear there's other "mean" mommies out there that follow thru! We have to stick together

 

[Jenn Lynn]

He's 4. But DD is going over to her friend's at 3:00, so I had planned to drop him off at mom's at the same time. A whole afternoon to wrap Christmas presents instead of sitting up late at night trying to get them done. Then order a pizza, turn on the Christmas tree lights, and watch TV, take a bubble bath, curl up in bed - Oh, now I'm just downright depressed!

I have a 4 year old also and can relate to the whole story!

Hang in there!

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

I also think you should follow thru. BUT.... don't let him being home ruin your plans. I think he's old enough to understand. When he wants to play with you, or watch tv in the family room, or whatever, you say "No, you're home because you got in trouble, I was planning on watching a movie tonight." He should have to pretty much entertain himself while you still have your time to veg. And a nice early bedtime of course!

Good luck! BTW, glad to hear there's other "mean" mommies out there that follow thru! We have to stick together

Agree on follow thru but don't cater to him that day at all. Let him know that his behavior isn't going to change YOUR plans at all. He can entertain himself for one nite with his room full of toys and his own videos, right?

 

[kbkids]

Good luck! BTW, glad to hear there's other "mean" mommies out there that follow thru! We have to stick together

Well, now according to him and his last final attempt at kissing up before going to bed tonight, I'm the "bestest Mommy in the whole world!"

 

[Sandcass]

Well, now according to him and his last final attempt at kissing up before going to bed tonight, I'm the "bestest Mommy in the whole world!"

that's so sweet, aren't little boys the best!

 

[JoenAdamnErinnSam]

Of course you are the bestest Mommy!!! I agree!! Merry Christmas!!

 

[NCDisneyMom]

Oh yeah...I've been there and done that! I've learned to think my threats through before I make them, because I have actually punished myself in the process. Good for you for sticking to your guns, though!!

 

[Marseeya]

I hear you. DS13 will be officially grounded Monday night after his parent teacher conference when I officially get his mid-term grades. He has a "C" in math because he just didn't feel like doing any work, so he is grounded until the NEXT report card which is MID-JANUARY. Oh, well, that is life but it is going to stink.

My DS is going through the same thing right now with math and I don't get it! After having math be his best subject all these years, he has just up and decided that his teacher is an idiot and "who needs math anyway?"


I liked him better when he was 4.

 

[KAMLEM]

You have to be so careful when you punish your kids. The number one rule is to not let it be a punishment to you, too! I used to punish DD by not letting her go outside with the other girls in the neighborhood but that just ended up as torture for me. Now I just do things like take away her computer or TV time. My 11 yr old DD very rarely gets punished, I can't even recall the last time she was, so of course my 9 yr old thinks I play favorites. She doesn't see that the older one doesn't do anything to get punished!

 

[kbkids]