UGH my DS and his friend just googled...

[RadioNate]

I'd also ask him if he had any questions about what he saw or read. I'd hate for him to have misconceptions or hold something in about anything sexual, if it is bothering him.

I did. He didn't seem to want to ask anything but I'm going to have DH talk to him tonight.

We are pretty open about this stuff. He has spelled some of what the friend typed and he didn't know what those words meant. They were the crude versions of the biological names. We don't use those words. He has seen me nurse DD and seen her parts on occasion so he knows about the differences etc.

I just really wasn't expecting to face this today!

 

[MM27]

Kids tend to think of dumb things to do when they are in pairs and small groups. I wouldn't necessarily think the kid was a bad seed, unless there are other indications, but rather just a curious kid that found the right opportunity to act on one of those stupid ideas.

 

[Imzadi]

Me, too. Unfortunately the internet is not your father's National Geographic or Playboy.

Also, from what I've heard, the old Sears catalogue's lingerie section.

 

[OctMtnWoods]

Me, too. Unfortunately the internet is not your father's National Geographic or Playboy.

I forgot about National Geographic.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Also, from what I've heard, the old Sears catalogue's lingerie section.

Oh my gosh, that reminds me. When I was little, probably about 7, my mom and her friend were looking at a (I think) J.C. Penney catalog. All of a sudden they just cracked up laughing, but wouldn't let me see what they were laughing at. Years later, I found out that there was a picture of a male model in underwear and he...well, his underwear needed to be an inch or two longer.

Then a couple of years ago, I googled to see if I could find it. I did! I'm trying to find it again now, though, and I haven't yet.

Ok, I found it and it was Sears. Is that what you were talking about? If anyone is interested, they have something at Snopes.com on it.

 

[JessicaR]

Me, too. Unfortunately the internet is not your father's National Geographic or Playboy.

Oh boy how true is that!

Years ago my youngest son and his cousin were caught in the act. They were 8-9 around there. I looked at the history to see where else they had visited and my husband and I laughed hysterically. Apparently they were looking for Playboys website except they werent certain on the spelling. They typed in palyboy and pallyboy over and over.
We still laugh and tease him to this day and my husband occasionally says,"hey palyboy come here!"

This too shall pass. Those that say oh my child would never think to do that are usually the ones teaching all the others.

 

[mamacatnv]

I would not panic, kids are curious and there is always a ring leader, if its not this kid another one will come along. MY DS was the ring leader and my DD is the follower, I have dealt with both sides of this fence. At least with this kid you have an idea of what you are dealing with and you have communication with the Mom, could be a lot worse. This gives you a real good opportunity to start talking, even if your DS is not yet asking questions, you can still talk and chances are he will be listening even if he doesn't admit he is listening.

My dad had a dictionary of American slang.....that was one cool dictionary my Bro and I would scan it for hours when Mother was not home or sleeping. Neither one of us is permanently scarred, well not much at least

I totally respect your authority but I think you were a little harsh on an 8 year old. If you make it that big of a taboo, you inadvertantly make it something that all of a sudden becomes very mysterious and really peaks the curiousity of a child. That is purely my opinion.

 

[RadioNate]

I would not panic, kids are curious and there is always a ring leader, if its not this kid another one will come along. MY DS was the ring leader and my DD is the follower, I have dealt with both sides of this fence. At least with this kid you have an idea of what you are dealing with and you have communication with the Mom, could be a lot worse. This gives you a real good opportunity to start talking, even if your DS is not yet asking questions, you can still talk and chances are he will be listening even if he doesn't admit he is listening.

My dad had a dictionary of American slang.....that was one cool dictionary my Bro and I would scan it for hours when Mother was not home or sleeping. Neither one of us is permanently scarred, well not much at least

I totally respect your authority but I think you were a little harsh on an 8 year old. If you make it that big of a taboo, you inadvertantly make it something that all of a sudden becomes very mysterious and really peaks the curiousity of a child. That is purely my opinion.

Actually, my best friend works for Playboy so we really don't make this stuff too taboo. In fact my DH was at the mansion last weekend.

The problem was that a friend was here and DS knew what he did was against the rules. He can always come to DH or I but we do stress that this kind of thing should be brought to friends as their family may have different values etc.

I don't think 2 weeks off the computer is too harsh and a week w/out friends coming over isn't either but I am open to suggestions as this is really the first incident we have had like this.

I think it'll take us at least a week to get the computer reset and get the new software etc.

He is still allowed to go to a friend's birthday tomorrow and we are meeting his cousin at WDW on Sunday so he is hardly deprived! He's sad right now and watching Hannah Montana.

 

[gladstoneganderfan]

My DS is 10 and that would never even cross his mind. Thankfully!

Oh boy how true is that!

Years ago my youngest son and his cousin were caught in the act. They were 8-9 around there. I looked at the history to see where else they had visited and my husband and I laughed hysterically. Apparently they were looking for Playboys website except they werent certain on the spelling. They typed in palyboy and pallyboy over and over.
We still laugh and tease him to this day and my husband occasionally says,"hey palyboy come here!"

This too shall pass. Those that say oh my child would never think to do that are usually the ones teaching all the others.

I was thinking the same thing!

 

[N&B'smom]

I was thinking the same thing!

Let me assure you, not the case with my DS. I'm not saying he's perfect but he is just not interested in that sort of thing AT ALL. Don't make judgments if you know nothing about the child you're referring to, please.

 

[Tinijocaro]

If I was 8 years old, I would google every naughty word that I knew.

I think most on here would also! Come on-how many of us loved looking up bad words in the dictionary? I know I did.

 

[momz]

I completely identify with your situation. DD(8) has a friend who has an older sister. We made a rule a couple of years ago that she is never allowed to be on the internet with a friend. Both at our home and at other's homes. I completely realize that I cannot control what happens in someone else's home, but I'm hoping that DD respects the rule. I've talked with the parent of the friend and explained my feelings about this. Also, after what my daughter saw while searching the internet with her friend, I think she understands why we made the rule. What was it you ask..? She saw something that referrenced a child that was murdered at the hands of her own mother...a child abuse thing. Needless to say, my daughter (6 at the time) never knew a mother could do that. She cried and cried.... and now... she know's the internet can be a scary place.

 

[N&B'smom]

I remember my DS coming home from school this past year totally horrified that there were pictures in his social studies book with naked men or something. Stuff like that embarrasses him so much, it's cute.

 

[mamacatnv]

Let me assure you, not the case with my DS. I'm not saying he's perfect but he is just not interested in that sort of thing AT ALL. Don't make judgments if you know nothing about the child you're referring to, please.

If I have learned anything over the years I have learned to never assume anything when it comes to my kids or any other kid for that matter. They know way more than they let on, they do way more than they ever confess and they think of stuff that would make your hair curl.

Just an observation from years of dealing with parents and kids.........
The parent(s) that steadfastedly states that they are all knowing is almost always the most clueless of the bunch and usually the first to say "oh no, not my angel"............. Point to ponder

 

[gladstoneganderfan]

Let me assure you, not the case with my DS. I'm not saying he's perfect but he is just not interested in that sort of thing AT ALL. Don't make judgments if you know nothing about the child you're referring to, please.

If I have learned anything over the years I have learned to never assume anything when it comes to my kids or any other kid for that matter. They know way more than they let on, they do way more than they ever confess and they think of stuff that would make your hair curl.

Just an observation from years of dealing with parents and kids.........
The parent(s) that steadfastedly states that they are all knowing is almost always the most clueless of the bunch and usually the first to say "oh no, not my angel"............. Point to ponder

I was going to reply, but Mama, you said it all. I bow down to your wisdom.

 

[N&B'smom]

And I will state once again, my DS is not into that AT ALL. You can come to whatever conclusion you would like and I'm sure in a lot of cases that is true. In this case, you are completely wrong. I am not assuming anything, I know my kid, you don't.

Feel free to continue on making comments referenced to me and how 'clueless' I am but don't expect a response because I'm done saying what I need to say.

OP, glad the mom took it all in stride and wasn't happy about it.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

I remember finding my mom's diary from college when I was about a year older than the OP's son...along with a Playboy joke book that my dad had. I found them both in the attic of our house. My parents never knew I found them but I sure did learn a lot...not so much from mom's diary (it was just filled with information about how much she loved her boyfriend who went to the Naval Academy) but from that joke book.

 

[Starbrite]

OP ~ I've been there.

About a year ago DS12 (11 at the time) looked up "b**bies" The computer sits right in the middle of the living room, guess he just thought nobody would notice....but then the pop-ups started flying.

I wasn't too shocked - I expected it sooner or later. It surprised me more that he chose that word...of all things he could've searched.

I made sure to show him how I pull the history all the time & he was off the computer for about a week.

 

[browneyes106]

I would not panic, kids are curious and there is always a ring leader, if its not this kid another one will come along. MY DS was the ring leader and my DD is the follower, I have dealt with both sides of this fence. At least with this kid you have an idea of what you are dealing with and you have communication with the Mom, could be a lot worse. This gives you a real good opportunity to start talking, even if your DS is not yet asking questions, you can still talk and chances are he will be listening even if he doesn't admit he is listening.

My dad had a dictionary of American slang.....that was one cool dictionary my Bro and I would scan it for hours when Mother was not home or sleeping. Neither one of us is permanently scarred, well not much at least

I totally respect your authority but I think you were a little harsh on an 8 year old. If you make it that big of a taboo, you inadvertantly make it something that all of a sudden becomes very mysterious and really peaks the curiousity of a child. That is purely my opinion.

One of my friends growing up had one of those dictionaries and they were fun to look through.

 

[RadioNate]

just a small update. I finally had time to go though the history last night...man they searched some vulgar words. I really do believe my DS when he said it was the friend. I know that may seem naive however there is NO searches prior to the ones yesterday that caused the pop ups etc. I know it also sounds naive to say I don't think my DS even knew some of these words before yesterday but I don't. We are very clinical here and some of the searches were far worse than benign common slang.

I'm actually now a little concerned for his friend and how he know these words. I know he has a older brother but that kid is only 11. I'm sure, if I asked, the 10 year old across the street wouldn't know them. Some of them were the kind of language you'd hear in adult films (or a Kevin Smith movie.)

But it is done. DS is ok with the punishment. He was a little annoyed at the 2 weeks but he understood that it was going to take us a week to even get that computer back in service. He talked to DH last night too and I think that went well.

He also seems relieved that this friend is out of his life for now.