UGH! Can't people dress up anymore??

[monkey68]

I wear flip flops alot. They are swarvoski crystal flip flops that cost me over $100 and go very nicely with dress pants in the warmer weather. Sorry, I would have never dreamed that I was offending anyone and take a lot of pride in my appearance. I get tons of compliments from people and inquires as to where they can purchase my shoes. Not everyone feels the same way and to each their own I suppose.

I'm not the poster, but I'm thinking that the poster probably was talking about those rubber type flip flops that they sell at Old Navy. There's a time and place for those, and I'll agree that a nice restaurant is not the place for it.

I do think people dress more and more casual nowadays. For me, it's fun getting dressed up every now and then and go to a nice restaurant. Although generally, what people wear don't bother me, but for myself, I enjoy getting all jazzed up and going somewhere nicer.

 

[C.Ann]

Sounds as though there was no dress code, so people chose to dress in whatever was comfortable to them..

I dress appropriately for occasions and that's all that matters to me.. I really don't care what other people around me are wearing because it's not a situation I can "control".. If I can't "control" the situation, I prefer not to allow it to spoil my day, evening, or whatever..

 

[PattnFmly]

Gee, my boys don't usually even own shoes! The few times I've bought them for a holiday or to wear on stage they only wore them once and then I had to pass them on! $25 for a pair of shoes to wear only once really bites! But we don't go to anyplace for dinner with a dress code as a family. DS's wouldn't enjoy it at all, (actually neither would DH) and it would be a waste. We only do family/casual places. Fits our lifestyle much better! We go where we feel comfortable in what we're wearing, don't really care (or even have time to notice) what others are wearing. As for specialness, just getting to go out to eat (no cooking or dishes) is special to me!

 

[debster812]

Gee, my boys don't usually even own shoes! The few times I've bought them for a holiday or to wear on stage they only wore them once and then I had to pass them on!

You know what, my 11YO DS does not own shoes either. Last year my MIL passed away, and I freaked for a day or two about what he was going to wear to the wake, until I finally just put his all black skateboard sneakers on him. He had on dark grey pants, a button down shirt, and a sweater. How nice to know that there were probably people judging me at my MILs wake, because he was not dressed up enough. And did not have 'real' shoes on.

 

[almburr]

Give me the 150 you spent on those jeans dude and I will get you 5 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of dress pants to go to the ballet in O dear I guess I have been spending too much time on the budget board

Just to let you know I did not pay or ever will pay $150 on a pair of jeans. I am the clearance rack queen. for that price i can get all my kids (5) whole outfits. I have problems paying full price for clothes.

 

[Papa Deuce]

In addition, how you present yourself speaks volumes. You teach people how to treat you - as quoted by Stacy and Clinton on "What Not to Wear." In university I was that student who always dressed as the professional I hoped to one day be. There was a noticeable difference in how my professors treated me. This may be "wrong" but it doesn't make it less true. Just as your diction and manner of speech defines you, so does your dress.

You're quoting those two idiots, who find amusment at other people's looks? They make fun of people for a living, hardly anybody to respect, IMO.

I don't care what anybody ELSE is wearing, but I generally try to make sure that what "I" am wearing feels right for the place we are going to.

If going to the restaurant meantioned in the OP, I would feel just fine wearing jeans, a nice shirt, and even sneakers if they were clean.

EDIT... to be fair, I should have said that I GENERALLY don't care what other people wear, but I have to admit that when I see people wearing flip flops in nice restaurants, well, that does sort of get on my nerves.

 

[Ember]

You're quoting those two idiots, who find amusment at other people's looks? They make fun of people for a living, hardly anybody to respect, IMO.

They make fun of the clothing people wear, not the people themselves. The people who go on the show always say they feel better about themselves after the experience. They also say over and over that you are worth the effort of dressing nicely, whatever your size and also that when you look good you feel good.

You don't have to care for the show, that's completely your prerogative. It doesn't make the point less valid though. How you choose to present yourself has a noticeable impact on how other people will treat you. Again, it may not be right, but that is the way it is. There have been many studies done on this phenomenon - the impact of beauty/attractiveness. Like it or not, people judge a book by it's cover and first impressions really do matter. It makes sense to present yourself in the best possible manner.

There's an interesting article by the New York Times on this here.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I can understand being irritated that people are not dressed up at a nice restaurant, but it seems overboard to care about seeing somebody's keys, or crocs. Oh my goodness, the world will end! Or Crocs. Who cares? Maybe the guy has foot problems and those are the best shoes for him.

It cracks me up when I see these threads, because I must not pay that much attention to how other's dress. I can't recall the last time I saw a muffin top, and I've never noticed the dreaded camel-toe, though by the way the people spoke on the other thread here it is prevalent. I can't recall the last time I noticed Crocs either. I guess unless it's something overly obvious (huge holes in jeans, underwear jacked up to your chest) then I don't notice it.

My cousin got married and the whole family stayed at the Ritz. We had breakfast at their restaurant, and I didn't notice one person who was dressed inappropriately. I guess I don't get why you are looking so close at people that you notice their footwear or their car keys.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I guess if they were breaking a dress code, they would not have been seated?

Maybe the guy in Crocs just had foot surgery or they're the only shoes he can wear comfortably. I agree wrinkled jeans do not belong in a nice dining room, but keys hanging out of a pocket?! Maybe he didn't realize they were hanging out. I mean, my goodness, that's getting a little picky.

 

[Papa Deuce]

They make fun of the clothing people wear, not the people themselves.

Same thing if you ask me.

BTW, I once had a thread here. Someone who works for my wife was on that show, so I watched it. I thought that those two were incredibly mean spirited. Would never watch it again.

 

[bicker]

I'm not sure it is "the same thing" but putting aside these two specific people (because I don't know what they specifically say), how often do people really just make fun of clothing instead of insinuating something about the person wearing the clothing? I rather doubt that many people make disparaging remarks about attire within intending, in some way, to impugn the people choosing to wear that clothing.

 

[pfishgirl]

DH & I, even DS who is 18 LIKES to dress up now and again. You'll never seen any of us in Jeans or T-shirts or Flip Flops, not even Nice ones in a fancy restaurant.. We dress the part of where/what we are attending..

Not to start a flame war thing... but... Why should I be forced to look at some "lady's" or "gentleman's" Gut rolling over their waistband, dirty, holed or patched Jeans, thong, boxers or a crack of their Tush or even their ****s or a bared hairy chest.. when I'm trying to eat??

and BEFORE anyone says.. well if it bother's you, then don't look..

How can I not? You are so out of place (in a fancy place) or in my face so to speak.. Why do I have to give up my favorite places to go, just because you fail to show some respect for apparently not only your self but all the others around you..

I'm not saying buy a Ball Gown or a Tuxedo.. but something more appropriate would be highly appreciated when the situation calls for it..

 

[My sister's princess]

Just to let you know I did not pay or ever will pay $150 on a pair of jeans. I am the clearance rack queen. for that price i can get all my kids (5) whole outfits. I have problems paying full price for clothes.

I wasn't saying you were I'm sorry. I bet you are a thrifty shopper, I could tell you were poking fun.

 

[Tink888]

They make fun of the clothing people wear, not the people themselves. The people who go on the show always say they feel better about themselves after the experience. They also say over and over that you are worth the effort of dressing nicely, whatever your size and also that when you look good you feel good.

You don't have to care for the show, that's completely your prerogative. It doesn't make the point less valid though. How you choose to present yourself has a noticeable impact on how other people will treat you. Again, it may not be right, but that is the way it is. There have been many studies done on this phenomenon - the impact of beauty/attractiveness. Like it or not, people judge a book by it's cover and first impressions really do matter. It makes sense to present yourself in the best possible manner.

There's an interesting article by the New York Times on this here.

OT for just a second but it's still a little mean and cruel. How is what they do any different from a kid on the playground making fun of a little girl's outfit on the playground. In that scenario it would be teasing and bullying - on tv it's adults and the audience laughs about it. Well okay, on tv the person is a willing participant - I answered my own question - but still, a little mean IMHO.

And I do agree with you that it's true - in society we are judged by appearance and how we present oursevles and it does, in a sense, dictate how we're treated.

Back on topic - it doesn't really bother me how others dress, to each their own. My concern is only my family and myself. I will admit though that I have noticed a lot more people out in sweats and pajamas at restaurants.

It is nice also to look through old photos of my grandparents and see how nice everyone was dressed all of the time. Days gone by.......

 

[Ohiodislover]

They make fun of the clothing people wear, not the people themselves.

No, I've watched a few episodes when the were really rude, and poking fun of the client. Particularly when the client is larger.

 

[SavvyMom]

DH & I, even DS who is 18 LIKES to dress up now and again. You'll never seen any of us in Jeans or T-shirts or Flip Flops, not even Nice ones in a fancy restaurant.. We dress the part of where/what we are attending..

Not to start a flame war thing... but... Why should I be forced to look at some "lady's" or "gentleman's" Gut rolling over their waistband, dirty, holed or patched Jeans, thong, boxers or a crack of their Tush or even their ****s or a bared hairy chest.. when I'm trying to eat??

and BEFORE anyone says.. well if it bother's you, then don't look..

How can I not? You are so out of place (in a fancy place) or in my face so to speak.. Why do I have to give up my favorite places to go, just because you fail to show some respect for apparently not only your self but all the others around you..

I'm not saying buy a Ball Gown or a Tuxedo.. but something more appropriate would be highly appreciated when the situation calls for it..

I totally agree. I love to dress up go out, but there are fewer and fewer places where that is not out of place. And, once you've spotted crack, you can't avoid it! Admit it, it's true!

 

[Pomlover2586]

As many PP's have said I too dislike those "what to wear" shows because of how they treat the guests. Yes these people may feel better after the experience but some of the things that are said to them are beyond rude.

Personally I don't care what people wear.....the only times I feel people should be obligated to dress appropriately are weddings, and funerals. Depending on the church/religion you attend I suppose baptisms etc would also count

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP, I agree with you but when it's winter in Ohio, my first consideration is to dress for warmth!

TC

 

[tinker&belle]

I usually don't pay too much attention, but DH and I got to go to the theatre to see a show with his company in the fall. A lady there was wearing (LOUD)pajama pants and SLIPPERS that had cow print! I couldn't believe it! If she wore black sweats and sneakers at least it would have blended a little better. I thought that was a little over the top since some people were borderline black tie.

 

[Cindy B]

I went to the mall this afternoon around 3 pm. There were some kids in the 8 to 10 year old range wearing thier full PJ's out in the mall with slippers.

See little kids in blanket sleepers is ok, especially if the child is an infant or in a stroller.

But to see these kids walking around in matching tops and PJ's was a bit much.