Ugghh

[LivinInTheCastle]

Very sorry to hear of this. Just remember, This too shall pass.
Good luck to you.

 

[horseshowmom]

There are posts from Feb. where she was calling herself "the wife of a fireman". So 7 months ago she was married and now she has a fiance she's been dating for 2 years?

Okay, it does sound like we've been had. I hope the OP can explain what the confusion is if there is an explanation.

 

[Buckalew11]

I used to have a client who was laways dating about 6 men. One was always proposing and some were more interested in her than she was in them. She would go into great detail about each one ie. what they did for a living, where their dates were, where they'd eaten, what movie they saw, if she liked the movie, if he liked the movie, it went on and on and was all made up.
It was the craziest thing...and so is this thread.

 

[CowboyCO]

Edited because it looks like this thread is possibly BS

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

Edited because it looks like this thread is possibly BS

It's a shame people feel the need to get attention that way, huh?

I read your post and it was very enlightening. I love that Garth Brooks song and it rings so true! I had a situation much like yours with an ex, and I thank God for my unanswered prayers every day when I look at my DH and two DDs.

To the OP: I hope that this is all a bunch of BS and not your DH that is the firefigher that has done this to you.

 

[hucifer]

I know....you've already heard it a million times...

You are better off without him.

You are missing what you thought he was...not what he actually is.

Get out of the house proceedings now, if possible, unless it's a place you really love and would want to be in no matter what. In that case, get him out of the house proceedings.

Understand that you will be sad for a while, but time will heal....

Think about the relationship...and I mean really think...and learn the lessons it is supposed to teach you.

May I respectfully say that this statement that you made:

"this man has been my whole world for the last 2 years...he is the first thing I think of the second I opened my eyes and the last thing I thought of before I fell asleep to dream about him"

needs some careful consideration on your part. It's never good to make someone your whole world, as you are finding out. Because when soemone is your whole world, and then they are gone, you have a whole world, instead of part of a world, to rebuild. And yes, I learned that from experience.

So, here's what you do. You work on you. You work on finding interests, hobbies, friends....things that you like, that you are attracted to, that you have always wanted to do, and you DO THEM! You build your life, and then when the man who is supposed to be in it arrives, you will have a life to share with him.

I really remember how hard this was.

Great post.

 

[hucifer]

This post is from earlier this month:

Well...my wonderful husband bought some hockey tickets froma guy at work for him and I to go to. Well I got very sick at work and sent home. I was in excrusiating pain and my son took me to the ER. Well my wonderful husband comes over 2 hours later after work and asks me why I couldnt of sucked it up for 1 more day. And all he was worried about were those #&^$@!^ tickets. I offered to repay him the money for them if he stayed with me. Well my wonderful husband called a friend and went. Not knowing what was wrong. At that time they were calling ina surgeon cuz they thought it was my appendix. It ended up being I have diverticulitis. He kept calling my son and would not let him answer the phone. Now tell me how selfish that is?

Huh.

 

[djy252]

My GOD.....I can see the confusion but I dont understand the meaness of some people. The person married to the wonderful fireman is my sister. She is the one who told me to come here and I would get alot of wonderful advise from people. That she has been on this site for years. I have never heard of it and I did give it a try. I shared an extremely hurtful situation I am going thru, my goodness, who on earth would make up something so horrible. I think the ones who have given extremely helpful advise and I am sorry to have bothered some with my horrible life at this time. I have removed my story and will nno longer come on this site.

 

[wvjules]

My GOD.....I can see the confusion but I dont understand the meaness of some people. The person married to the wonderful fireman is my sister. She is the one who told me to come here and I would get alot of wonderful advise from people. That she has been on this site for years. I have never heard of it and I did give it a try. I shared an extremely hurtful situation I am going thru, my goodness, who on earth would make up something so horrible. I think the ones who have given extremely helpful advise and I am sorry to have bothered some with my horrible life at this time. I have removed my story and will nno longer come on this site.

Well alrighty then, that explains it.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My GOD.....I can see the confusion but I dont understand the meaness of some people. The person married to the wonderful fireman is my sister. She is the one who told me to come here and I would get alot of wonderful advise from people. That she has been on this site for years. I have never heard of it and I did give it a try. I shared an extremely hurtful situation I am going thru, my goodness, who on earth would make up something so horrible. I think the ones who have given extremely helpful advise and I am sorry to have bothered some with my horrible life at this time. I have removed my story and will nno longer come on this site.

So you were using your sister's account to get advice?

And people do make up stuff here and posters feel stupid when they think they have been had.

So it goes both ways.

I hope that things turn out well for you.

 

[Boxley]

My GOD.....I can see the confusion but I dont understand the meaness of some people. The person married to the wonderful fireman is my sister. She is the one who told me to come here and I would get alot of wonderful advise from people. That she has been on this site for years. I have never heard of it and I did give it a try. I shared an extremely hurtful situation I am going thru, my goodness, who on earth would make up something so horrible. I think the ones who have given extremely helpful advise and I am sorry to have bothered some with my horrible life at this time. I have removed my story and will nno longer come on this site.

Umm...why wouldn't you just make up your own name or at least tell people that you are the sister? I don't get it.Is the OP blaming the site> I don't think anyone was being mean here but rather confused because of past threads.

Methinks someone got called out out B.S. personally.

 

[robinb]

I also didn't see anyone being "mean" unless there were some posts that were removed. People appear to just be confused about conflicting information. OP, if your partner is indeed cheating on you I hope that things work out for you. You did get some good advise here on that front.

 

[lillygator]

My GOD.....I can see the confusion but I dont understand the meaness of some people. The person married to the wonderful fireman is my sister. She is the one who told me to come here and I would get alot of wonderful advise from people. That she has been on this site for years. I have never heard of it and I did give it a try. I shared an extremely hurtful situation I am going thru, my goodness, who on earth would make up something so horrible. I think the ones who have given extremely helpful advise and I am sorry to have bothered some with my horrible life at this time. I have removed my story and will nno longer come on this site.

why would you use your sister's account and does she know?

 

[dogodisney]

OP, Sorry you are going through this bad time in your life but be thankful that you found out now. Time does heal.
What I don't understand is why you are upaet with this site and the people that have posted to this thread. You were the one that failed to mention that you were using your sister's account, so of course people are going to question the discrepencies.



I hope everything works out for you.

 

[djy252]

Look, I am very very sorry if some people thought the wrong thing. I am a 44 year old woman and I dont play high school games. I would never make up such a story. To be honest I didnt even know of sex sites like that existed. I am staying here at my sisters for awhile until I figure out what I am going to do with my life. Going back with him is NOT an option. My sister and her family have been such a great help and so have some of the people who responded to me. I had no idea about going on someones name or that I had to make my own name. Please dont bash my sister for something she didnt do except try to help her sister. And why would someone care if I went on my sisters name or not. It really isnt anyone elses business. Im truely sorry to have upset some people.

 

[diznygirl]

Look, I am very very sorry if some people thought the wrong thing. I am a 44 year old woman and I dont play high school games. I would never make up such a story. To be honest I didnt even know of sex sites like that existed. I am staying here at my sisters for awhile until I figure out what I am going to do with my life. Going back with him is NOT an option. My sister and her family have been such a great help and so have some of the people who responded to me. I had no idea about going on someones name or that I had to make my own name. Please dont bash my sister for something she didnt do except try to help her sister. And why would someone care if I went on my sisters name or not. It really isnt anyone elses business. Im truely sorry to have upset some people.

I've been following this thread with great interest.

I think it's amazing that the poster should be angry. No one was mean to them. Using another person's log-in created the confusion - that's why it isn't done.

Now we don't know what is or isn't the truth. The end result will be to ignore this user name because it will be associated with this confusion.

 

[lillygator]

Look, I am very very sorry if some people thought the wrong thing. I am a 44 year old woman and I dont play high school games. I would never make up such a story. To be honest I didnt even know of sex sites like that existed. I am staying here at my sisters for awhile until I figure out what I am going to do with my life. Going back with him is NOT an option. My sister and her family have been such a great help and so have some of the people who responded to me. I had no idea about going on someones name or that I had to make my own name. Please dont bash my sister for something she didnt do except try to help her sister. And why would someone care if I went on my sisters name or not. It really isnt anyone elses business. Im truely sorry to have upset some people.

you do realize this is a public internet message board right?

 

[brittsmum1998]

I've been following this thread with great interest.

I think it's amazing that the poster should be angry. No one was mean to them. Using another person's log-in created the confusion - that's why it isn't done.

Now we don't know what is or isn't the truth. The end result will be to ignore this user name because it will be associated with this confusion.

I agree, on a side note, cudos to A1Tink for copying the original thread whereas the poster has gone in and deleted the original post which unfortunately makes me more suspicious.

 

[beattyfamily]

My GOD.....I can see the confusion but I dont understand the meaness of some people. The person married to the wonderful fireman is my sister. She is the one who told me to come here and I would get alot of wonderful advise from people. That she has been on this site for years. I have never heard of it and I did give it a try. I shared an extremely hurtful situation I am going thru, my goodness, who on earth would make up something so horrible. I think the ones who have given extremely helpful advise and I am sorry to have bothered some with my horrible life at this time. I have removed my story and will nno longer come on this site.

Thank you so much for coming back and explaining the confusion...not that I really cared. I always believed you and figured there was a logical explanation. I hope that even though you are upset by a few of the "we've been had" posts, that you still got some good and useful advice out of posting.

I totally understand if you've never been here before and your world has been turned upside down and your staying with your sister and she suggests you post here for advice, and then you just post and your sister was probably already logged in or she just said 'use my account' and so you go ahead and post. Don't sweat it. It NOT a big deal. You have more important things to think about.

I know you are devastated but you will get over him. I promise you that. You will heal sooner than you think. Good luck.

 

[Vallie]

Look, I am very very sorry if some people thought the wrong thing. I am a 44 year old woman and I dont play high school games. I would never make up such a story. To be honest I didnt even know of sex sites like that existed. I am staying here at my sisters for awhile until I figure out what I am going to do with my life. Going back with him is NOT an option. My sister and her family have been such a great help and so have some of the people who responded to me. I had no idea about going on someones name or that I had to make my own name. Please dont bash my sister for something she didnt do except try to help her sister. And why would someone care if I went on my sisters name or not. It really isnt anyone elses business. Im truely sorry to have upset some people.

in your original post you said you were stayign with a friend while you were tryign to figure out what to do.

weird.