Twice in one year???

[drymalski]

Ok, I am not trying to sound like I am ungrateful, but I hope you all understand. I have been busy booking a trip to DisneyWorld this past month, to go at the end of January. Well, my parents and I are close, so I asked them to go with too. My mom's sister lives 20 mins away from DisneyWorld, and my parents were going to visit her anyway. So, my parents said they would stay at the parks a few days so they can go around with us and my boys. Well, I have spent a lot of money and time on this, and am excited to go. Well, yesterday I got 2 itineraries in the mail and called and found out that my mom booked a Grand Gathering for my whole family for Thanksgiving of next year (she booked it the same day I did, knowing I was booking this January trip). I hate to say it, but I am a little upset about this. I am grateful for the present, but I would never have booked our trip in January if I knew we would all be going as one big family sometime next year. I asked her before I booked everything if we could all go, and she said that my brother and sisters are busy moving and probably wouldn't go. So, I ditched that effort to make it a big family thing, and made it just our family and grandparents. Well, now I don't know if she is paying for everything over Thanksgiving (I find it hard to believe as that would be 10K+), so I am guessing we will have to pay for some stuff- airline I am guessing, maybe park passes. She hasn't told anyone about this, and I am having a hard time being excited knowing I just spent so much money on a trip, and now to go twice in one year, that's a lot. I wish I could have saved my money and gone another year- my 5 year old will enjoy it this year, but my 1 year old won't really get it. I want to be excited at Christmas when she gives the gift, but it's hard for me right now. Am I being selfish or overreacting?

 

[daisyduck123]

I understand, sort of, how you feel, but if I were in your place....I'd just GO twice. Maybe your parents will surprise you & say they are paying for the entire trip.

I'm probably not the best person to give her viewpoint on this because we're going 3 times in 2007 (8-10 days each time).

 

[tinkandpan]

If it is a money thing- you could check into the penalties for moving it to the Thanksgiving trip instead, that could work. If it is a matter of not wanting to go two times in the same year- plan to do a more laid back trip this time around and know you will be taking more in when you go for a grand gathering. Good luck and have fun.

 

[disykat]

I would have an extremely hard time being excited about a Christmas gift that was going to cost me lots of money - no matter what it was. "Surprising" someone with an obligation that is going to cost them money and vacation time is no gift.

 

[Carpool Candy]

It will be awkward but I would just flat out ask the money question- then you can decide if you can afford it. Due to a partial refund on our traveling cost, we went 2x in one year to Disneyland and it was great. As far as a one year old, we went with a 14 month old and again when he was 25 months. He had more fun with the characters as a one year old!!! Take advantage of the whole thing...you never know when you'll get to go again. (note- I understand the being mad thing. Actually, I would be, too!)

 

[ChristmasElf]

Ok, I am not trying to sound like I am ungrateful, but I hope you all understand. I have been busy booking a trip to DisneyWorld this past month, to go at the end of January. Well, my parents and I are close, so I asked them to go with too. My mom's sister lives 20 mins away from DisneyWorld, and my parents were going to visit her anyway. So, my parents said they would stay at the parks a few days so they can go around with us and my boys. Well, I have spent a lot of money and time on this, and am excited to go. Well, yesterday I got 2 itineraries in the mail and called and found out that my mom booked a Grand Gathering for my whole family for Thanksgiving of next year (she booked it the same day I did, knowing I was booking this January trip). I hate to say it, but I am a little upset about this. I am grateful for the present, but I would never have booked our trip in January if I knew we would all be going as one big family sometime next year. I asked her before I booked everything if we could all go, and she said that my brother and sisters are busy moving and probably wouldn't go. So, I ditched that effort to make it a big family thing, and made it just our family and grandparents. Well, now I don't know if she is paying for everything over Thanksgiving (I find it hard to believe as that would be 10K+), so I am guessing we will have to pay for some stuff- airline I am guessing, maybe park passes. She hasn't told anyone about this, and I am having a hard time being excited knowing I just spent so much money on a trip, and now to go twice in one year, that's a lot. I wish I could have saved my money and gone another year- my 5 year old will enjoy it this year, but my 1 year old won't really get it. I want to be excited at Christmas when she gives the gift, but it's hard for me right now. Am I being selfish or overreacting?

What is the problem here? When you go in January, consider buying Park Hoppers for 10 days or even Annual Passes. Since you will be going twice in 1 year, you would then save the money on admission media come November when you would be returning.
If your Mom hasn't already booked the rooms, consider staying in a vacation home or even a large condo where a few families could all chip in on the room costs. With a condo or vacation home, you would also have a kitchen to save a TON of money on meals.
As far as the airline tickets go, start looking for bargains on the different airlines as soon as they start taking reservations.