Tux, Tea dresses and FLIP FLOPS????

[barkley]

a family wedding was held this past weekend-we did'nt attend but mil did. called to ensure she got home o.k. and asked how the wedding was. she said it was "very nice" but mentioned the clothing of the bride/groom/attendants. all were in formal attire (tuxes, tea length dresses) but opted to wear flip flops "just for the fun of it" (not all matching-just whatever black flip flops they happened to own).

i'm all for doing your own thing at your wedding-but this was a heavily church centered ceremony in a faith that has traditionaly advocated dress standards (nothing extreeme-no jewlery, no sleeveless shirts/dresses at church events, with the exception of a dressy heel type- sandles would likely not be appropriate at sabbath service or other held in the sanctuary). since the dress concept is pretty widely known, non members visiting or attending events usualy make an effort to conform out of respect.

i tend to think there is no-way the bridal party cleared this with the church ahead of time (figuring if they were'nt told 'no' it could'nt come back at them)-and my opinion is that it was disrespectful to the church and the family/friends who went to the time/effort and expense to dress appropriatly.

i dunno-maybe it's just me, but i just think it's tacky (and i imagine there were some less than thrilled parents of the attendants who shelled out some major bucks for their "formal wear" thinking they'de get some nice wedding photos to look back on).

any opinions?

 

[buddy&wooz]

Did they wear the flip-flops for the ceremony or just the reception? For the ceremony I agree, formal footwear would be in order. But for the reception, I'm all for comfort, at most weddings I go to the bridal party and half the (female) guests end up barefoot anyway.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

If the ceremony--TACKY.

If the reception--I wouldn't care.

Unless a wedding at the beach--then whatever footwear appropriate for the beach is fine during the ceremony. Though I'd personally want everyone to match.

 

[hentob]

My opinion? God really doesn't care what you wear

I wouldn't do it. But really, I betcha Jesus wore some type of sandal/flip flop to synagogues back in the day

 

[lulugirl]

Wouldn't have bothered me. When I'm invited to a wedding I generally feel honored to be a guest, I won't spend even a moment judging the couples choice of foot wear. Who cares?

 

[pozey]

It's THEIR wedding. End of story, in my opinion.

 

[barkley]

wore them for the ceremony (had a very short reception because they wanted "to focus on the spiritual aspects of the ceremony").

i think the people who care are the non members who took the time to contact the bride/groom to find out what type of clothing was approprate for the ceremony, and were given the church guidlines and adhered to them even if it was'nt to their personal taste) and also the long standing members who knew it was in no way appropriate.

i'm sure nothing was said to offend the wedding party. but i tend to think at least that individual church will end up putting a clause in their wedding paperwork that forbids the practice in the future (we got married in another denomination's church that had a whole list of "no-no's" all based on past experiences wherein someone thought it would be fun/funny to do something that in actuality was very offensive to the particular faith's beliefs/practices).

 

[SadieDog]

It's their wedding and I would never judge anyone for what they wear on their feet.

 

[azgal81]

I do plan on wearing flip flops at my wedding ceremony and reception! Don't care about tacky I'm all for comfort!

As far as the attendents I would love if I was in a wedding where the groom/bride wanted all the attendants to wear flip flops!

 

[pozey]

No flames here, but I just have to ask.....What denomination church is this that doesn't allow jewelry to be worn in church? Just curious. I've never heard of that before.

 

[barkley]

No flames here, but I just have to ask.....What denomination church is this that doesn't allow jewelry to be worn in church? Just curious. I've never heard of that before.

seventh day adventist-while it's more accepted to wear it at all now, the actual tradition of the church is to not wear jewlery of any type (alot of older members if they wear wedding bands keep them very simple-and for the most part there is no "exchange of rings" as part of the ceremony).

 

[Daxx]

That womens volleyball (or swim?) team wore 'em to meet the president at the White House. They seem to have made it ok to wear flip flops where ever!

Would you have had more of a problem w/flip flops or if they all walked barefoot down the aisle like Julia Roberts did when she married Lyle Lovitt!?

 

[barkley]

That womens volleyball (or swim?) team wore 'em to meet the president at the White House. They seem to have made it ok to wear flip flops where ever!

Would you have had more of a problem w/flip flops or if they all walked barefoot down the aisle like Julia Roberts did when she married Lyle Lovitt!?

actualy the church may have accepted bare feet-they do have a traditon wherin (about once per month at sabbath service) they do a "foot bathing" (defin. the service the women wear "knee highs" at vs. full length pantyhose ).

 

[barkley]

That womens volleyball (or swim?) team wore 'em to meet the president at the White House. They seem to have made it ok to wear flip flops where ever!

Would you have had more of a problem w/flip flops or if they all walked barefoot down the aisle like Julia Roberts did when she married Lyle Lovitt!?

actualy the church may have accepted bare feet-they do have a traditon wherin (about once per month at sabbath service) they do a "foot bathing" (defin. the service the women wear "knee highs" at vs. full length pantyhose ).

i have no personal issue with flip-flops, it's just if i'm going to hold/attend an event or ceremony at a location that has certain known/accepted standards for attire i respect their wishes and adhere to them (believe me there plenty of times i go insane trying to find the kids "church appropriate attire" for family events held on church grounds, they complain that they are "not in style" and they will likely "never wear them again"-but i tell them out of respect for their family members and the church they attend that we will be visiting we should make every effort to comply with their standards of modesty).

 

[Jennasis]

I wore flips flops at my wedding. GRANTED, my wedding wasn't in a church and I encouraged everyone to wear whatever would be most comfortable in the 100 degree North Carolina heat (shorts, sandals, tank tops etc...I didn't care). Plus my wedding was held on my farm. We did have a pastor officiate the wedding ceremony.

As to the OP, my personal opinion is that if anyone is offended by footwear (including the church) then they have their priorities a little out of whack. It's the couples wedding and I hope they loved every minute of it.

 

[mrsltg]

Tacky. Formal dress worn with a shoe thats name includes the word, "flop", ? Why would you go to the trouble to select the gown of a lifetime (hopefully...), get your hair and make-up done, get pretty new undies, and then finish it off with a flip flop? Clearly the bride cares what others think or she wouldn't bother with the whole thing so I kind of take it as a "look at me! See how hip I am?!"

My sister-in-law did something similar at her wedding 3 years ago. Not flip flops, but bare feet when she was wearing a floor length gown at an evening wedding. Oh well....

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I think people should adhere to the church's request or have the wedding elsewhere ...but other than that it is their day!!! I think the flip flops idea is cool!!!!

 

[singingpixie]

As far as fashion choices, I think the wedding couple has every right to wear what they please- but, if what they decide to wear violates the code of the establishment, then their choice should involve finding another location. It's the same thing as having the reception somewhere with a dress code, and then not dressing to comply there- when you choose your location, you agree to abide by the dress standards involved- doesn't matter if these standards are religiously-motivated or not.

 

[Stacerita]

I have no issue with flip flops. I was just in a wedding where the entire wedding party wore flip flops. Hey, Jesus wore sandals, so why can't we wear flip flops?

 

[ceiligh1]

There are two seperate issues flip flops and the rules of the wedding site.

I dont think that the wedding party had the right to knowingly go aginst the established dress code of the wedding site. I think if they wanted to dress diferently they should have gone elsewhere. However, if someone was concentrating on what they were wearing on their feet then they were not paying attention to the ceremony. I feel that when you go to a wedding you support the bride and groom, you agree to aid them in their marriage as a witness to the union. How can you do that if you are not paying attention?

As far as flipflops in a wedding, I wore them as a bride only a little over 3 years ago. I was married outside high up the side of a moutain not at a church (I would not wear them at my church). THe flipflops were a little eaiser to walk in then heals and as it was a very hot day at least my feet were comfortable. They were dressy and comfortable. My dress was down to the ground so no one was able to see them although I am sure that they could hear them .