TTC thread take 2

[cherbear]

oh and THANK YOU so much for the prayers and encouragement!

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

Sorry about AF Kronks!

 

[Kronk's girl]

We have been trying for 2 years. Yeah, my DH said it was up to me to tell my parents when I am ready, so he isn't forcing me, he just thinks it's a good idea. And for my husband's family we would only tell my MIL and SIL, and leave my FIL in the dark because he is not a nice person and they are divorced.

This whole telling people idea goes against my recent idea of "let's just forget about it for a while" . I also found out this weekend that the two weddings I am in next summer both want corset style bridesmaid dresses, I couldn't help but think in the back of my head...hmm, if I did get pregnant, how would I fit in that?

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

Well, I called and set up an appointment with my RE for mid August to discuss the next step. I think I am ready to say that we are done, but my DH wants to make sure we have no regrets. I am OK with knowing all the facts before we stop, I just want to make sure we don't go forward without a decent chance.

 

[Kennywife]

I went to see my neuro ( I this man....he's a fab dx!!!!!) and he okayed me for the Depo should I need it. Also told me that going on my trips was the best thing for my seizures and to keep doing it. So, I guess I'm under dx's orders to go to Disney now.....

Bad side: gained 4 pounds. I've been ah, munching due to stress. Momma drama, family drama, etc. Gotta cool it on that.

Other than that, a good day.


Gabbie

 

[Kennywife]

Have you ever met someone who just rubbed you the wrong way? Maybe they didn't mean to, but they did? That happened to me yesterday.

I was in the neuro's office waiting to go in when this mother and her adult daughter come in. We get to chatting (I make friends everywhere I go) and the mother asks me if I have kids. I say no and admit that I've been diagnosed with infertility.

She says and I quote, "I'm sorry." And then, in the very next breath says, "Well, I have five kids and 20 grandkids and they're my life." I just sat there. I had just said I had infertility. This is not what I wanted to hear. What I wanted to say was, "Congratulations. Here's your cookie." Maybe I'm just petty, but I felt really bad about her going on and on about her family when I may never be able to have kids. To me, it was like she was rubbing it in. Now maybe she was just making conversation and didn't realize how she made me feel. I ended up going home and eating two whole bowls of ice cream just to make myself feel better.

Gabbie

 

[cherbear]

We have been trying for 2 years. Yeah, my DH said it was up to me to tell my parents when I am ready, so he isn't forcing me, he just thinks it's a good idea. And for my husband's family we would only tell my MIL and SIL, and leave my FIL in the dark because he is not a nice person and they are divorced.

This whole telling people idea goes against my recent idea of "let's just forget about it for a while" . I also found out this weekend that the two weddings I am in next summer both want corset style bridesmaid dresses, I couldn't help but think in the back of my head...hmm, if I did get pregnant, how would I fit in that?

oh, that sounds like it's the best thing. I didn't realize your MIL and FIL were divorced. Good then! LOL

Corset dresses? What are the odds that both of them would want a corset dress? That must mean you WILL be pregnant.

Well, I called and set up an appointment with my RE for mid August to discuss the next step. I think I am ready to say that we are done, but my DH wants to make sure we have no regrets. I am OK with knowing all the facts before we stop, I just want to make sure we don't go forward without a decent chance.

Good luck!! I hope the appointment sheds a new light

I went to see my neuro ( I this man....he's a fab dx!!!!!) and he okayed me for the Depo should I need it. Also told me that going on my trips was the best thing for my seizures and to keep doing it. So, I guess I'm under dx's orders to go to Disney now.....
Bad side: gained 4 pounds. I've been ah, munching due to stress. Momma drama, family drama, etc. Gotta cool it on that.

Other than that, a good day.

Gabbie

man I sure need a dr that will prescribe Disney vacations!!

I hear you on the weight gain. Same here...Yesterday I had tuna salad and crackers for dinner....I need to make some changes whenever I can!

Have you ever met someone who just rubbed you the wrong way? Maybe they didn't mean to, but they did? That happened to me yesterday.

I was in the neuro's office waiting to go in when this mother and her adult daughter come in. We get to chatting (I make friends everywhere I go) and the mother asks me if I have kids. I say no and admit that I've been diagnosed with infertility.

She says and I quote, "I'm sorry." And then, in the very next breath says, "Well, I have five kids and 20 grandkids and they're my life." I just sat there. I had just said I had infertility. This is not what I wanted to hear. What I wanted to say was, "Congratulations. Here's your cookie." Maybe I'm just petty, but I felt really bad about her going on and on about her family when I may never be able to have kids. To me, it was like she was rubbing it in. Now maybe she was just making conversation and didn't realize how she made me feel. I ended up going home and eating two whole bowls of ice cream just to make myself feel better.

Gabbie

Oh Gabbie!!

During the past couple of years, I've heard so many stories like this. Comments like this from strangers, medical staff, family members. You name it..if they've never experienced infertility, most people just don't understand. I guess we can't expect them to understand?? I dunno, I've struggled with this a lot. I just can't seem to put myself in their shoes, to really know what I'd say if I'd never had a problem with infertility myself.

Many times I think, "well I'm just ultra-sensitive about my infertility, maybe I shouldn't let it bother me". But then I read comments that other infertiles make and I realize that I'm most DEFINITELY not alone in my feelings.

When I read jokes about how people were conceived (you know, THOSE jokes) I actually begin to boil inside a little. But then I think back, and I've probably made one of those jokes before I knew we'd have all these problems conceiving.

Well, I didn't mean for this to turn into a psychological babbling about infertility, but I think I needed to get that out. Anyone feel the same? Vent it out!

 

[skuttle]

Have you ever met someone who just rubbed you the wrong way? Maybe they didn't mean to, but they did? That happened to me yesterday.

I was in the neuro's office waiting to go in when this mother and her adult daughter come in. We get to chatting (I make friends everywhere I go) and the mother asks me if I have kids. I say no and admit that I've been diagnosed with infertility.

She says and I quote, "I'm sorry." And then, in the very next breath says, "Well, I have five kids and 20 grandkids and they're my life." I just sat there. I had just said I had infertility. This is not what I wanted to hear. What I wanted to say was, "Congratulations. Here's your cookie." Maybe I'm just petty, but I felt really bad about her going on and on about her family when I may never be able to have kids. To me, it was like she was rubbing it in. Now maybe she was just making conversation and didn't realize how she made me feel. I ended up going home and eating two whole bowls of ice cream just to make myself feel better.

Gabbie

Oh Gabbie, people just don't think about it when they haven't gone through it! I'll never forget when I was doing one of my IUIs, the nurse felt the need to tell me how she gets pregnant just by looking at her DH and called herself "fertile Myrtle." Gee...thanks. You would think the NURSE helping with my IUI would know better.

 

[cherbear]

the freaking NURSE?? Geez, was it her FIRST day on the job by chance?? I would have complained to the dr, honestly.

I had one person use that term a few months back. My aunt, cousin, and some other women were talking. I'm sitting right there between the two of them...all well aware that I've been struggling for quite some time. They are getting into the topic b/c my cousin's SIL just had a baby. Cousin has 1 child already, in school right now so she was saying she wanted to wait til after school, wasn't sure if she should get off birth control early to adjust and was voicing those thoughs. Then my Aunt (her mom) pipes up... "Oh you don't want to get off too early because you're like me, you'll get off the pill and be Fertile Myrtle!"

Although my aunt knows about me, I almost would expect that from her since I don't see her all the time....but my cousin made NO mention of my feelings or anything. I think I literally took my brain out of this world for a few minutes, thinking maybe I can just float away. Apparently they don't see me sitting here anyway.

 

[ead79]

So...AFM, it looks like IVF may be in our near future! We have an opportunity to do something great for someone else in the process. So, if yall don't mind, keep me in your prayers that this works out!

Prayers being said for you!

Morning ladies. AF is here right on time, so it's confirmed- I won't have a baby before I'm 30. Oh well, I had zero expectations this month.

On a good note, we finally got the bill for the clomid monitoring from 2 months ago and for some reason (even though my insurance said nothing would be covered), they ended up covering all but $54!!! We were supposed to pay a little over $500 for everything. I was thrilled.

On a yucky note... my husband thinks it's time we tell our families about our infertility. He thinks we should let our parents know because he knows my parents are hoping/waiting for grandkids. I really don't want to tell anyone- ever. I don't want to open ourselves up to dumb advice or pity looks, and I don't want to break my parents' hearts. We are their only chance for grandkids. And my FIL is an idiot, so I don't want him to know. I also don't want to go through the actual act of telling anyone. Not sure what to do

Anyway, thinking of you all everyday! And best of luck with trying the IVF route Cherbear! I can't wait to root you on!

I'm hitting that odd age-related emotion too. Not that I feel old or anything, it's just that we started trying shortly after I turned 30. Now I turn 31 in a few weeks, and still no pregnancy. The other day I realized that if I don't get pregnant in the next few months, I would be 32 before the baby came. I was driving myself insane, but I finally realized that I have to trust God's timetable for me rather than worry about numbers on a chart. It's hard, but I'm focusing on trusting.

Also, I don't know what to do about telling our families either. My parents are really supportive and great, so I know they would be kind to us. I also know that my mom was just about to see a specialist when she finally got pregnant with me, so I think she knows at least a bit of what the waiting game feels like. DH's mom, on the other hand, would be pushy I think. We don't have a super close relationship, so I'm thinking we won't tell her as soon as we decide to tell my parents. For right now I think we won't mention it, but eventually I think we'll need to unless we get pregnant relatively soon.

Well, I called and set up an appointment with my RE for mid August to discuss the next step. I think I am ready to say that we are done, but my DH wants to make sure we have no regrets. I am OK with knowing all the facts before we stop, I just want to make sure we don't go forward without a decent chance.

Good luck with the appointment--I think having all the facts is a good plan. That way at least you know where you stand.

 

[D&DDisney]

Morning ladies. AF is here right on time, so it's confirmed- I won't have a baby before I'm 30. Oh well, I had zero expectations this month.


On a yucky note... my husband thinks it's time we tell our families about our infertility. He thinks we should let our parents know because he knows my parents are hoping/waiting for grandkids. I really don't want to tell anyone- ever. I don't want to open ourselves up to dumb advice or pity looks, and I don't want to break my parents' hearts. We are their only chance for grandkids. And my FIL is an idiot, so I don't want him to know. I also don't want to go through the actual act of telling anyone. Not sure what to do !

We have been trying for 2 years. Yeah, my DH said it was up to me to tell my parents when I am ready, so he isn't forcing me, he just thinks it's a good idea. And for my husband's family we would only tell my MIL and SIL, and leave my FIL in the dark because he is not a nice person and they are divorced.

This whole telling people idea goes against my recent idea of "let's just forget about it for a while" . I also found out this weekend that the two weddings I am in next summer both want corset style bridesmaid dresses, I couldn't help but think in the back of my head...hmm, if I did get pregnant, how would I fit in that?

Well if you buy the dresses now you're sure to get pregnant.

Oh and for all those who think they're out just cuz they turned 30. I didn't get pregnant until I was 33. You're just fine!!!

 

[si-am]

My mom knows about the infertility thing. There was really just no getting around that because she would be bugging me for grandchildren constantly otherwise! She has been pretty good about it. Actually I feel pretty bad for her sake that she might not get grandkids more than even for myself!

My husband finally told his parents recently because they were starting to ask. The last thing I wanted was for them to start asking ME. At least this way they avoid it when we talk.

I used to play all coy when people would ask about having kids, like "oh, maybe one day" whatever. But I've started telling people now. Those nosy coworkers, nothing shuts them up quicker than an infertility story! I am just taking the stance that it's nothing to be embarrassed about, and I'd rather get it out of the way quickly than keep saying "maybe" and have them keep asking! It took 3 years of TTC before getting brave enough to take it public, though.

And I just turned 36 (have been trying since I was 32) so time is REALLY running out for me.... my "egg test" at the RE came back really good though, so maybe there's still hope!

 

[D&DDisney]

Those nosy coworkers, nothing shuts them up quicker than an infertility story! I am just taking the stance that it's nothing to be embarrassed about, and I'd rather get it out of the way quickly than keep saying "maybe" and have them keep asking!

Amen!

 

[cherbear]

My mom knows about the infertility thing. There was really just no getting around that because she would be bugging me for grandchildren constantly otherwise! She has been pretty good about it. Actually I feel pretty bad for her sake that she might not get grandkids more than even for myself!

My husband finally told his parents recently because they were starting to ask. The last thing I wanted was for them to start asking ME. At least this way they avoid it when we talk.

I used to play all coy when people would ask about having kids, like "oh, maybe one day" whatever. But I've started telling people now. Those nosy coworkers, nothing shuts them up quicker than an infertility story! I am just taking the stance that it's nothing to be embarrassed about, and I'd rather get it out of the way quickly than keep saying "maybe" and have them keep asking! It took 3 years of TTC before getting brave enough to take it public, though.

And I just turned 36 (have been trying since I was 32) so time is REALLY running out for me.... my "egg test" at the RE came back really good though, so maybe there's still hope!

wow I don't know if I'm brave enough to play the blatantly honest card, hehe, but I HAVE daydreamed about it a lot. Just thinking about my "comebacks" and how people might react. How it would get so many people off my backs for so many things (my coworkers, for instance, wondering why I didn't apply for a great new job that I qualify for and kinda hounding about...the job is 50 miles from home and 65 miles from my RE)

 

[cherbear]

Oh by the way...Our IVF financing is approved!!!!

Thank y'all for the prayers. Please keep 'em coming if you don't mind. I'm so ready to start this process!! The new cycle at the RE starts Aug 13 and I just want to be able to get in!

 

[Kennywife]

Oh by the way...Our IVF financing is approved!!!!

Thank y'all for the prayers. Please keep 'em coming if you don't mind. I'm so ready to start this process!! The new cycle at the RE starts Aug 13 and I just want to be able to get in!

Oh girl, congratulations!!!!!! That's great news!

Ok. I have a problem......I'm an obsessive Disney planner. LOL.

Here is my revised adr's for the 4th time:

10/26--open for Via Napoli

10/27--breaky at POR

Le Cellier 1:10 p.m.

Cali Grill 9:05 p.m. (Wishes)

10/28--EMH @ MK 8-9

Crystal Palace 9:30 a.m.

Sci-Fi 4:45 p.m. (not sure about this one....Kenny looooves Reubens. LOL)

Yachtsman Steakhouse 9 p.m.

10/29--

breaky--open

Universal/IOA/WWOHP!!!!!!

Mythos or Hard Rock Cafe or Margaritaville. Kenny likes Jimmy Buffet, so that's a consideration.

Crystal Palace 6:20 p.m. MNSSHP

10/30--

Boma--7:55 a.m.

lunch?

Raglan Road--6 p.m. (Downtown Disney nite/Boardwalk)

10/31--Cape May 8:55 a.m. (perfect theme....we're leaving on the Wonder today!!!!!!)

So, that's what I have so far. Trying to fit in HOB and maybe ESPN. I would love to find a character meal that includes Mickey and not Chef Mickey....was not impressed.

Gabbie

 

[WDWAurora]

Oh by the way...Our IVF financing is approved!!!!

Thank y'all for the prayers. Please keep 'em coming if you don't mind. I'm so ready to start this process!! The new cycle at the RE starts Aug 13 and I just want to be able to get in!

Woohoo! As always, if there are any questions I can answer, I'm happy to. The process is much easier and much less scary than it sounds.

As far as stupid comments...I went to my OBGYN when I had a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy or something (never got an answer). I had a follow-up in 2 weeks. When I was scheduling, the girl asked which doctor I wanted. I told her the one I had just seen, and she explained that I needed to see all of the doctors during my pregnancy. I stayed calm, but said something to the effect that I was there because I wasn't pregnant and I wanted to see MY doctor. Read the form, lady.

 

[ead79]

Oh by the way...Our IVF financing is approved!!!!

Thank y'all for the prayers. Please keep 'em coming if you don't mind. I'm so ready to start this process!! The new cycle at the RE starts Aug 13 and I just want to be able to get in!

That's great about the financing! Praying for you as the new cycle comes up.

 

[cherbear]

Woohoo! As always, if there are any questions I can answer, I'm happy to. The process is much easier and much less scary than it sounds.

As far as stupid comments...I went to my OBGYN when I had a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy or something (never got an answer). I had a follow-up in 2 weeks. When I was scheduling, the girl asked which doctor I wanted. I told her the one I had just seen, and she explained that I needed to see all of the doctors during my pregnancy. I stayed calm, but said something to the effect that I was there because I wasn't pregnant and I wanted to see MY doctor. Read the form, lady.

oh that is SUCH crap. Sorry you had to deal with that, girl. Guess we can't expect them all to be perfect but REALLY? geez

Recently, my cousin started as a new patient at my OBGYN's practice (but a diff doctor) and then a week later she got a letter in the mail congratulating her on her pregnancy. (She is/was NOT trying to have a baby). She knew it had to be a mistake on their part and politely called them and said she thought she got a letter meant for someone else. LOL

oh yeah, and at my RE office there is one nurse that just kept getting things wrong. She asked me on TWO separate occasions, if we had the post-coital test yet....and BOTH times I had to point out we were using donor. I, like you, was like LOOK AT THE FREAKIN CHART LADY!!

 

[cherbear]

Thanks everyone. I'm VERY excited and VERY nervous