TTC thread take 2

[BEloveDisney]

Negative again. No period though. I think we misinterpreted the ovulation test.

Seriously discouraged now.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Negative again. No period though. I think we misinterpreted the ovulation test.

Seriously discouraged now.

So so sorry....

 

[skuttle]

I always love the "my sister's boyfriend's cousin decided to adopt and then immediately got pregnant, so you should adopt." Or the "you should just relax"--------seriously, how can you relax when having a baby is the most important thing in the world to you and all you can think about. I can say though, I have had at least 4 friends, two in real life and 2 online that all had trouble conceiving, either from the get go or secondary. one had no problem with her first, then used IUI to have her second after years. Then boom, she got preggo naturally like 6 months after her second was born. Another friend just popped up wtih the same thing- she has an 8yo and struggled for 2 years to have a second. She just had a baby girl from IVF that is 7 months old now... she just posted on FB she is 13 weeks preggo naturally- surprise! Two more online friends had the same thing- both ended up wtih three children. CRAZY! I guess it does really happen sometimes. Unfortunately, not to me. We've been protection free for over 10 years and no luck after my first.

This is ME!! We suffered through secondary IF for 4 years. We decided to take a break from the doctors, meds, etc. and 6 months later found out DS#2 was on the way. DS#2 just turned one in January and I'm currently, shockingly, 14w pregnant! So I am proof that crazy things do happen, you just never know!

 

[BEloveDisney]

Okay. Now I'm really mad/sad. Snooki from the Jersey Shore is pregnant and I'm not. How is that fair?


Still no AF by the way...

 

[Skip2MyLou]

Okay. Now I'm really mad/sad. Snooki from the Jersey Shore is pregnant and I'm not. How is that fair?


Still no AF by the way...

I saw that pop up on my FB Life just isn't fair. Every women here deserves to get that BFP. Every negative is a new process in grief...over & over again. Over the past 6 years, I know I've stood in many places where it seemed every woman who walked by either had a bump or a new baby...and I would be screaming inside why is it so easy for them & so hard for me?

In 2008 I had just begun the IVF process. I was scared & hormones were going nuts. My best friend of 22 years called me & said she was pregnant. 17 weeks pregnant. Couldn't she have picked some time in the 2 months before to tell me. I understood wanting to wait past the 1st trimester (she had a miscarriage 6 months before), but 17 weeks?!?! And to tell me when I was just a few weeks into an IVF cycle. When I caught my breathe, I congratulated her & got off the phone to bawl. I was happy for her...really happy...but why did she have to pick that timing?

A few days later I sent her an email. I, again, told her how happy I was for her & her DH. But I was disappointed in her timing. I felt like the last to know. I got an email back telling me she did know how to tell me & felt like she HAD to be selfish & protect herself. I tried to call her & talk it out but she would never take my calls, you know like ADULTS?!. She emailed & told me that "maybe we could try writing letters". I have never been so disappointed. That one still stings.

I heard she has already had a 2nd child. I guess some people can never understand how it is to not be able to conceive a child "the normal way".

Sorry to go off on a tangent ladies. I guess my hormones are going crazy today. I started spotting yesterday & had a bad back ache. My IVF nurse put me on bedrest for rest of day & I am going in to have an ultrasound at 9:30. Last night was torcher

 

[DisneyElite4]

I saw that pop up on my FB Life just isn't fair. Every women here deserves to get that BFP. Every negative is a new process in grief...over & over again. Over the past 6 years, I know I've stood in many places where it seemed every woman who walked by either had a bump or a new baby...and I would be screaming inside why is it so easy for them & so hard for me?

In 2008 I had just begun the IVF process. I was scared & hormones were going nuts. My best friend of 22 years called me & said she was pregnant. 17 weeks pregnant. Couldn't she have picked some time in the 2 months before to tell me. I understood wanting to wait past the 1st trimester (she had a miscarriage 6 months before), but 17 weeks?!?! And to tell me when I was just a few weeks into an IVF cycle. When I caught my breathe, I congratulated her & got off the phone to bawl. I was happy for her...really happy...but why did she have to pick that timing?

A few days later I sent her an email. I, again, told her how happy I was for her & her DH. But I was disappointed in her timing. I felt like the last to know. I got an email back telling me she did know how to tell me & felt like she HAD to be selfish & protect herself. I tried to call her & talk it out but she would never take my calls, you know like ADULTS?!. She emailed & told me that "maybe we could try writing letters". I have never been so disappointed. That one still stings.

I heard she has already had a 2nd child. I guess some people can never understand how it is to not be able to conceive a child "the normal way".

Sorry to go off on a tangent ladies. I guess my hormones are going crazy today. I started spotting yesterday & had a bad back ache. My IVF nurse put me on bedrest for rest of day & I am going in to have an ultrasound at 9:30. Last night was torcher

Your friend was very insensitive. I had a very dear friend get pregnant right before our IVF cycle. She was a dear about the whole thing. They sent us an email literally the day they found out to let us know. That is exactly how I wanted to find out, so I was very touched. I was able to grieve quietly and then congratulate her face to face later. I plan to let people in my life suffering with infertility know in a similar manner so they can feel free to react however they want in the privacy of their own home, away from me.

Also - I have heard spotting is really, really common in twin pregnancies. I have read so many stories on message boards/blogs of women with spotting, and everything turns out to be fine! Can't wait to hear how your ultrasound went.

I had my first ultrasound this morning at exactly 6 weeks! Baby measured 6 weeks, 3 days and we saw a little heartbeat of 116 - it was amazing! I am still so incredibly worried something can go wrong. I have read all the horror stories, and just praying this baby stays put until October.

 

[cherbear]

Thank you! I'll have to check it out. It is even harder too because I haven't told many people. I just don't want to have to deal with people asking how it's going etc etc. So the people who say insensitive things to me have absolutely NO clue that they are. My cousin posted on a picture of my husband and I on Facebook the other day jokingly berating us for not having any kids yet. She meant it in a good natured way but I just wanted to cry!

I was the saaaame way. I was then glad we didn't tell anyone that we were trying because we would have been bugged for 3 long years that it took!

As far as that comment, we had gotten that a lot too. Most people that haven't been through it (or at least know someone close who has) are completely ignorant to the fact that for some people it's not all about a "choice" to have children. 1 in 8 couples make that CHOICE and then realize that they have to work much much harder than the other 7 couples! And sometimes they still can't. It just seems so unfair, then it makes it harder when you have people like your cousin commenting and/or poking fun at people without children.

Okay. Now I'm really mad/sad. Snooki from the Jersey Shore is pregnant and I'm not. How is that fair?


Still no AF by the way...

now THAT is unfair! I wanted to scream when I heard! There are so many deserving women here who want to be pregnant too....

PS. didn't she JUST get a new tattoo like 2 weeks ago?

Your friend was very insensitive. I had a very dear friend get pregnant right before our IVF cycle. She was a dear about the whole thing. They sent us an email literally the day they found out to let us know. That is exactly how I wanted to find out, so I was very touched. I was able to grieve quietly and then congratulate her face to face later. I plan to let people in my life suffering with infertility know in a similar manner so they can feel free to react however they want in the privacy of their own home, away from me.

Also - I have heard spotting is really, really common in twin pregnancies. I have read so many stories on message boards/blogs of women with spotting, and everything turns out to be fine! Can't wait to hear how your ultrasound went.

I had my first ultrasound this morning at exactly 6 weeks! Baby measured 6 weeks, 3 days and we saw a little heartbeat of 116 - it was amazing! I am still so incredibly worried something can go wrong. I have read all the horror stories, and just praying this baby stays put until October.

what a wonderful friend! That's definitely the RIGHT way.

yes spotting is common. Hopefully all is well!

And woohoo for your u/s!! I put in that HR on babybpm.com and it says girl Just a fun thing to do -- it doesn't mean that it will be a girl. (My first HR gave a boy reading, then it read GIRL every time after that.....and the majority was right, it's a girl )

Praying for a happy & healthy 9 months for you!

 

[cherbear]

I saw that pop up on my FB Life just isn't fair. Every women here deserves to get that BFP. Every negative is a new process in grief...over & over again. Over the past 6 years, I know I've stood in many places where it seemed every woman who walked by either had a bump or a new baby...and I would be screaming inside why is it so easy for them & so hard for me?

In 2008 I had just begun the IVF process. I was scared & hormones were going nuts. My best friend of 22 years called me & said she was pregnant. 17 weeks pregnant. Couldn't she have picked some time in the 2 months before to tell me. I understood wanting to wait past the 1st trimester (she had a miscarriage 6 months before), but 17 weeks?!?! And to tell me when I was just a few weeks into an IVF cycle. When I caught my breathe, I congratulated her & got off the phone to bawl. I was happy for her...really happy...but why did she have to pick that timing?

A few days later I sent her an email. I, again, told her how happy I was for her & her DH. But I was disappointed in her timing. I felt like the last to know. I got an email back telling me she did know how to tell me & felt like she HAD to be selfish & protect herself. I tried to call her & talk it out but she would never take my calls, you know like ADULTS?!. She emailed & told me that "maybe we could try writing letters". I have never been so disappointed. That one still stings.

I heard she has already had a 2nd child. I guess some people can never understand how it is to not be able to conceive a child "the normal way".

Sorry to go off on a tangent ladies. I guess my hormones are going crazy today. I started spotting yesterday & had a bad back ache. My IVF nurse put me on bedrest for rest of day & I am going in to have an ultrasound at 9:30. Last night was torcher

yep like I said, people just don't understand.

Please update us on your ultrasound soon. Prayers to you!

 

[Skip2MyLou]

Your friend was very insensitive. I had a very dear friend get pregnant right before our IVF cycle. She was a dear about the whole thing. They sent us an email literally the day they found out to let us know. That is exactly how I wanted to find out, so I was very touched. I was able to grieve quietly and then congratulate her face to face later. I plan to let people in my life suffering with infertility know in a similar manner so they can feel free to react however they want in the privacy of their own home, away from me.

Also - I have heard spotting is really, really common in twin pregnancies. I have read so many stories on message boards/blogs of women with spotting, and everything turns out to be fine! Can't wait to hear how your ultrasound went.

I had my first ultrasound this morning at exactly 6 weeks! Baby measured 6 weeks, 3 days and we saw a little heartbeat of 116 - it was amazing! I am still so incredibly worried something can go wrong. I have read all the horror stories, and just praying this baby stays put until October.

Yes, that is the way to tell someone you care about who is going thru IF that you are pregnant. I had another friend who got pregnant a few months before that. She called me, told me & then let me off the phone. I was sad but happy for her. But at least I felt respected too.

So ultrasound was "ok" this morning. I knew not to expect too much. We had 2 sacs & could definitely see a baby in 1 of them. The other nothing, but they said its really early to see anything anyway.

The dr did an exam & my cervix was still closed. So that was good.

It is just wait & see now. He didn't put me on bedrest, but did tell me not to do anything for the weekend either. Time to get lazy I guess!

 

[cherbear]

Yes, that is the way to tell someone you care about who is going thru IF that you are pregnant. I had another friend who got pregnant a few months before that. She called me, told me & then let me off the phone. I was sad but happy for her. But at least I felt respected too.

So ultrasound was "ok" this morning. I knew not to expect too much. We had 2 sacs & could definitely see a baby in 1 of them. The other nothing, but they said its really early to see anything anyway.

The dr did an exam & my cervix was still closed. So that was good.

It is just wait & see now. He didn't put me on bedrest, but did tell me not to do anything for the weekend either. Time to get lazy I guess!

WONDERFUL NEWS!!! did they also do another beta?

there is such excitement here..I do hope that no one minds me posting a bit! I can't help it, I'm so excited for the new bfp's.

 

[DisneyElite4]

Wonderful news Skip2MyLou! Rest up and take it easy this weekend. I just know you will get great news at the next ultrasound!

Cheri, we don't mind you hanging around here at all! It is so nice to have the encouragement and reassuring from someone who has been there.

I did not know about that heartbeat website - pretty cool! Of course we will be happy with anything, girl or boy, but it's fun thinking about it. Right now I am just taking it day by day.

 

[Skip2MyLou]

WONDERFUL NEWS!!! did they also do another beta?

there is such excitement here..I do hope that no one minds me posting a bit! I can't help it, I'm so excited for the new bfp's.

Yes, a beta, progesterone level & estrogen level too. I am on pins & needles waiting for that phone call. I paid out of pocket to get my results today.

I certainly don't mind you posting! Like Disney Elite said... it so good to hear from encouragement from someone who has been there!

Wonderful news Skip2MyLou! Rest up and take it easy this weekend. I just know you will get great news at the next ultrasound!

Cheri, we don't mind you hanging around here at all! It is so nice to have the encouragement and reassuring from someone who has been there.

I did not know about that heartbeat website - pretty cool! Of course we will be happy with anything, girl or boy, but it's fun thinking about it. Right now I am just taking it day by day.

Getting lots of rest, promise!

 

[andapanda]

My friends were discussing how selfish it was of other people to only have one child. I nearly exploded, but just calmly stated that you shouldn't judge others' decisions because you don't know their circumstances - some people can't have more than one child. They looked at me like I was crazy. That's when I realized that no one in that room had a clue what it's like to be on the infertility side of the battle. It was like arguing with a brick wall.

 

[Vickie1016]

Hi everyone - hope you all had a great weekend & everyone is doing well.

I have a questions for you ladies whole used follistim. Did anyone ever have very sever bloating while taking follistim? I started stims on Sat 2/25 - follistim 225. By Thurs I had such sever bloating (like the stay puff marshmellow man). By this past Sat, the bloating has eased up with the help of gas-x, but I am still not 100%. RE said it is a very uncommon side effect.

Good news is that at today's ultrasound right ovary has a 17, 15, 14 & several smaller follicles & the left has a 14, 10 & several smaller ones as well. RE said it looks as if trigger shot of lupron will be on Wed & IUI Fri.

Have a great day!!

 

[meelkes]

My friends were discussing how selfish it was of other people to only have one child. I nearly exploded, but just calmly stated that you shouldn't judge others' decisions because you don't know their circumstances - some people can't have more than one child. They looked at me like I was crazy. That's when I realized that no one in that room had a clue what it's like to be on the infertility side of the battle. It was like arguing with a brick wall.

Selfish?! Seriously?! What an ignorant thing to say! I'm glad you kept your cool, because I couldn't have. There's plenty of families out there who choose to have one child for a multitude of different reason, be it infertility, money, they had a really rough pregnacy/labor/delivery. Whatever the reason, no one should judge them. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that andapanda, (

 

[Skip2MyLou]

Hi everyone - hope you all had a great weekend & everyone is doing well.

I have a questions for you ladies whole used follistim. Did anyone ever have very sever bloating while taking follistim? I started stims on Sat 2/25 - follistim 225. By Thurs I had such sever bloating (like the stay puff marshmellow man). By this past Sat, the bloating has eased up with the help of gas-x, but I am still not 100%. RE said it is a very uncommon side effect.

Good news is that at today's ultrasound right ovary has a 17, 15, 14 & several smaller follicles & the left has a 14, 10 & several smaller ones as well. RE said it looks as if trigger shot of lupron will be on Wed & IUI Fri.

Have a great day!!

I don't know if it was specifically from the follistim but with our 1st round of IVF I thought I bloated really bad. I looked about 3 months pregnant for a few days. They did tell me that my ovaries were quite large (grapefruit size) due to the amount of follicles I had. So it could have been from that & not actual bloating.

 

[Skip2MyLou]

Ok TTC ladies, I am in need of advice. Let me tell you the reason 1st.

Lots of TMI in this post so if that gets to you, stop reading now.




Last week I was spotting, but it was just a little and dark. Pregnancy seems to make me constipated. Yesterday I was finally able to go. Its been a while. Well when I went, I also started to bleed ******lly...BAD. Bright Red and quarter sized clots.

I called the dr office, but of course they were getting ready to close so they said to put my feet up & come in the morning. I couldn't wait that long so we went to the ER. I never go to the ER. Hate it. Anyway.... long story short... Ultrasound showed TWINS! Both had heartbeats. The ER dr said, with bleeding like I was having, there is still a 10% chance I could miscarry but as long as they both had heartbeats, its unlikely. Baby A had heartbeat 117 & baby B was 113. But they couldn't figure out why the bleeding.

Very excited & happy about that part of it. I never expected Twins. I really didn't. Yes, I knew it was possible. But with my daughter, we had put in 2 grade A embies & only 1 took. So this time was an A & B... I was convinced we would only get 1.

Here is my dilema. We rent a house and its small. Neither of our cars will hold 3 car seats. I've tried it before. Doesn't work, can't close the doors. I own & operate a small in home daycare. I have 4 families. If I have to close it is detrimental to our finances. My OB had told me, with twins I would be put on bedrest. As early as 28 weeks. With all this bleeding I am concerned it will be sooner, rather than later. I was not prepared for these complications this early.

Every time I close it puts my families in a jam. I can't do that to them. I can't hire someone to come in to work because that would eat up all my $ and make it pointless.

So I am thinking about giving the families notice to start looking for other daycare & my landlord that we will move out in month. We can stay with my mom & put our things in storage. Her house is so tiny tho too. But I think we could save enough money for a down payment on a house & getting a vehicle before the babies come. Then I could look for a job after the babies are born & hopefully have one by the time they are 2 months old. I know, if all else fails, I can substitute teach & make decent money doing that.

We get along good with my mom. She can just get to be a bit much occasionally...and with the tight living conditions....IDK.

I am concerned that every week I am having to close for a day or 2 so that I can lay down...that is not fair to the families I work with.

Sorry so long... just working all my thoughts out too. I may post this on the main community board & see if I can get some twin moms to tell me their experience.

 

[meelkes]

Ok TTC ladies, I am in need of advice. Let me tell you the reason 1st.

Lots of TMI in this post so if that gets to you, stop reading now.




Last week I was spotting, but it was just a little and dark. Pregnancy seems to make me constipated. Yesterday I was finally able to go. Its been a while. Well when I went, I also started to bleed ******lly...BAD. Bright Red and quarter sized clots.

I called the dr office, but of course they were getting ready to close so they said to put my feet up & come in the morning. I couldn't wait that long so we went to the ER. I never go to the ER. Hate it. Anyway.... long story short... Ultrasound showed TWINS! Both had heartbeats. The ER dr said, with bleeding like I was having, there is still a 10% chance I could miscarry but as long as they both had heartbeats, its unlikely. Baby A had heartbeat 117 & baby B was 113. But they couldn't figure out why the bleeding.

Very excited & happy about that part of it. I never expected Twins. I really didn't. Yes, I knew it was possible. But with my daughter, we had put in 2 grade A embies & only 1 took. So this time was an A & B... I was convinced we would only get 1.

Here is my dilema. We rent a house and its small. Neither of our cars will hold 3 car seats. I've tried it before. Doesn't work, can't close the doors. I own & operate a small in home daycare. I have 4 families. If I have to close it is detrimental to our finances. My OB had told me, with twins I would be put on bedrest. As early as 28 weeks. With all this bleeding I am concerned it will be sooner, rather than later. I was not prepared for these complications this early.

Every time I close it puts my families in a jam. I can't do that to them. I can't hire someone to come in to work because that would eat up all my $ and make it pointless.

So I am thinking about giving the families notice to start looking for other daycare & my landlord that we will move out in month. We can stay with my mom & put our things in storage. Her house is so tiny tho too. But I think we could save enough money for a down payment on a house & getting a vehicle before the babies come. Then I could look for a job after the babies are born & hopefully have one by the time they are 2 months old. I know, if all else fails, I can substitute teach & make decent money doing that.

We get along good with my mom. She can just get to be a bit much occasionally...and with the tight living conditions....IDK.

I am concerned that every week I am having to close for a day or 2 so that I can lay down...that is not fair to the families I work with.

Sorry so long... just working all my thoughts out too. I may post this on the main community board & see if I can get some twin moms to tell me their experience.

FIRST, congratulations on the twins!!! How exciting!!!!

Don't get too stressed out, that's not good for you or the pregnancy.

I think your plan sounds very reasonable, I know you hate putting the parents of your daycare in a bind but you need to do what's best for you and your family. I'm not a twin mom, but do know that you are in my thoughts and prayers! Sending you a big internet hug!!

 

[Vickie1016]

Ok TTC ladies, I am in need of advice. Let me tell you the reason 1st.

Lots of TMI in this post so if that gets to you, stop reading now.




Last week I was spotting, but it was just a little and dark. Pregnancy seems to make me constipated. Yesterday I was finally able to go. Its been a while. Well when I went, I also started to bleed ******lly...BAD. Bright Red and quarter sized clots.

I called the dr office, but of course they were getting ready to close so they said to put my feet up & come in the morning. I couldn't wait that long so we went to the ER. I never go to the ER. Hate it. Anyway.... long story short... Ultrasound showed TWINS! Both had heartbeats. The ER dr said, with bleeding like I was having, there is still a 10% chance I could miscarry but as long as they both had heartbeats, its unlikely. Baby A had heartbeat 117 & baby B was 113. But they couldn't figure out why the bleeding.

Very excited & happy about that part of it. I never expected Twins. I really didn't. Yes, I knew it was possible. But with my daughter, we had put in 2 grade A embies & only 1 took. So this time was an A & B... I was convinced we would only get 1.

Here is my dilema. We rent a house and its small. Neither of our cars will hold 3 car seats. I've tried it before. Doesn't work, can't close the doors. I own & operate a small in home daycare. I have 4 families. If I have to close it is detrimental to our finances. My OB had told me, with twins I would be put on bedrest. As early as 28 weeks. With all this bleeding I am concerned it will be sooner, rather than later. I was not prepared for these complications this early.

Every time I close it puts my families in a jam. I can't do that to them. I can't hire someone to come in to work because that would eat up all my $ and make it pointless.

So I am thinking about giving the families notice to start looking for other daycare & my landlord that we will move out in month. We can stay with my mom & put our things in storage. Her house is so tiny tho too. But I think we could save enough money for a down payment on a house & getting a vehicle before the babies come. Then I could look for a job after the babies are born & hopefully have one by the time they are 2 months old. I know, if all else fails, I can substitute teach & make decent money doing that.

We get along good with my mom. She can just get to be a bit much occasionally...and with the tight living conditions....IDK.

I am concerned that every week I am having to close for a day or 2 so that I can lay down...that is not fair to the families I work with.

Sorry so long... just working all my thoughts out too. I may post this on the main community board & see if I can get some twin moms to tell me their experience.

Congrats on the twins!! It must be a very exciting time!! You must have been very nervous with the spotting. I think if I was in that situation I would have also gone to the ER. Best wishes for a speedy 9 months!

Your plan sounds good & I hope it all works out for you & your family.

Also, thanks for you info on the follistim & bloating. The bloating has gotten alot better, but I am still not 100%. Today's ultrasound did show that I should be ready for trigger shot of lupron tonite & IUI for friday (just awaiting bloodwork results for confirmation)

Again, congrats on the twins!!

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Skip2MyLou Congrats on the twins!!!!!!!!!!

We transferred 2 grade A embryos and had twins with strong heartbeats. At 14 weeks lost a twin. No bleeding or any symptoms that anything was wrong so please relax take care of yourself & start to celebrate!!!!!

I think warning your families is very kind and they will appreciate it.
Living with your Mom is a good idea to get ahead and also need much needed help when your on bed rest.

Maria