Trying to plan but may need to cancel - what should I do?

[MrInfinity]

Heh I get it. Really.

But seriously. If you want flexibility, then don't be buying from timeshare exchanges. Stay in the hotels. You can book them up to the minute and cancel any time. Travel insurance is a waste. Just book what you want, and go with it if it works or cancel and rebook if not. You'll go eventually right? So just buy the tix. We have a trip coming up and we moved it all at about 100 days out, so you definitely do not need a year. Really anything outside 60 days is good. Unless you absolutely need some htg dining reservation, and even those you can get if you're persistent. Thanksgiving is a long way off -- you have 4 months before you can book your FPs. Just plan as if you'll go, and have in mind the reschedule time frame for if you're bummed that you have to move it. If you go in the spring you'll catch Art & Wine... or Flower & Garden... Ditch anything that's going to lock you in or take your money if you cancel, now. There's no need for that stuff. Don't go w/o your SO unless that's the intent from the start.

 

[VFL]

My father was very ill for a few years. Every trip I booked I used Allianz travel insurance. If booked within 14 days of making the reservation it covers pre existing conditions and the death of a family member. There are a few different tiers that you can compare. I felt they were very reasonable price wise and offered pretty good coverage. You just need to read carefully to make sure your situation would be covered. At the end of the day do what's best for your situation.

 

[cadawson]

OP - It sounds like your spouse is the primary caregiver for his mother. Each person’s cancer and end of life journey is different, so it’s difficult for you to see your spouse be under such stress when your past experience with a dying person was different. My mom did not want to depend on “strangers” either - it put a lot of the weight on my siblings and me - cooking, cleaning, caring for her. She didn’t like the idea of a cleaning lady coming or the nurses didn’t do things the way we would for her - it’s all true - we did a better job bc we loved her - but it still made those months and years stressful. If he has someone else in the family that can share his burden, encourage him to ask for help. He needs to take care of himself and his relationships too. It sounds like this is fairly new (less than a year). Maybe your MIL is depressed - maybe she doesn’t want to fight bc the cancer burden is heavy - you can’t make those choices for her - it is her journey. When T’giving comes, he can lovingly tell her that you’ve had this short trip planned and he’ll check in each day, but he’ll leave the nurses to care for her. If he does not want to miss the Thanksgiving traditions (it could indeed be her last Thanksgiving) perhaps you could modify your travel dates. To some degree, his and your life needs to go on, but you also want to be sensitive to his fear of missing these last times particularly if they have family traditions. Remember, your spouse is actually beginning the grieving process. I hope things become clearer for you as your travel date comes nearer, and I hope your family finds peace in these difficult days.

 

[GADisneyDad14]

OP’s question has been answered with helpful options/ideas. Closing since the ongoing discussion is not theme parks attractions and strategies related.