trying to have a baby

[Tink2000]

My husband and I want to try to have another baby. There are several concerns, we have one child whom is almost 10. Is this going to be a good thing or a bad thing with the age difference? The other issue is our first child is an invitro baby so we may not be able to do this anyway but want to try. I am excited but nervous at the same time. By the way I am 37 so age is not really on my side either.

 

[HFC1969]

Go for it

Click on the link below to see our adoption blog... We now have a 10 year old and now our daughter who is 3... LOVE IT. We are blessed....

Im 40... DW is 35...

 

[Mkrop]

I am 10 years older than my brother and 14 years older than my youngest brother. My mom had problems getting pregnant, had a cyst removed from her ovary and voila.

It was weird going from being an only child to suddenly having siblings. I did resent him a little at first because he got so much attention as the new baby. Even my friends wanted to come over and play with the baby.

My parents also made me babysit all the time, which was frustrating.

Also make sure you do things that work for the whole family like vacations. My dad tried to take me when I was way too old to a kiddie amusement park when I think going somewhere that had both older kid rides and little kid rides would be a better fit, like Disney! We went there when I was 17 and they were 7 and 4 and we had a blast.

If you can not make those same mistakes I think all will be fine. I am very close with both of my brothers.

 

[MarilIncredible]

My mom and her sister are 6 years apart, and I will say that you can't really expect children with such a huge age gap to be friends while growing up. My mom and my aunt became friends after they both were adults, married, with children b/c they had more in common then. The upside, I suppose, is that they didn't fight much as kids b/c there wasn't much to fight over.

Also, I am 36 and having my first baby and the pregnancy for me has been very easy so far. We did the genetic testing and no problems identified and the anatomy scan looks very good.

You can always try and just deal with whatever happens.

 

[Stitchnut]

My kids are 7 years apart, a boy and a girl and it works fine. Who says a family has to be a certain way??? I had a lot of trouble getting pregnant and so both times were miracles. Good luck to you!

 

[minkydog]

Well, we have a saying in our family--"we can't figure out how to do it until we hit 35." My sister has two sons. they are exactly 14 yrs apart. Those boys are very tight with one another.

We had a lot of infertility issues, as well. I was 30 when I finally had my first child(after 5 years of trying.) I lost the next one, and then I had baby #2 at age 37. And BAM! got pregnant again with #3!~ So I was almost 40 when the last one came along. DS23 prayed specifically for a sister when he was 6 because he was lonely. He got a sister, so he immediately started praying for a brother. After he got a brother we shut down the factory.

So my kids are almost-24, 17 & 15. Even though their ages are spread out, they are very close. DS23 & DD17 are best friends. DS15 is very mentally handicapped(not an age-related birth defect, BTW), so they don't have the same relationship with him, but they are very protective of him. I have never had to arbitrate a fight between the kids. Never. They get along better than any kids I've ever seen. I don't know why. I take no credit. They just love each other.

 

[tar heel]

I have three sons. The older two were 10 and 6 when their little brother was born on my 39th birthday. They were both wonderful with him and continue to adore babies. He is almost 16 and is close to both his older brothers, but in different ways. Interestingly, he was always closer to the oldest until the past couple years. Now, he is interested in playing and listening to music like the 22-year-old and they have really bonded. It's been wonderful to have someone I trust to take my 14-15 year old to the cool concerts! I also had at-home babysitters for years!

 

[DisneyFan06]

My wife and I are 8 years apart. She has a child from a previous marriage who is 14. She is currently pregnant and due in October.

Go for it! She is 31.

 

[JVL1018]

My husband has 2 brothers, they are 11 and 13 years older than him. The oldest moved out of state when my husband was like 8, so didn't see him much, maybe once a year.
He felt like an only child growing up and because of that wanted our kids close together, BUT now as an adult is closer to both of his brothers than they are to each other, so it works out how it works out.

It may not be the age gap you would have chosen, but it is what it is and it will work out. My kids beg me to have another baby-so I think they would be over the moon, even though they are 8 and 10 now. Not happening, so done here!
I would do it, in your case! Does your child ask for a brother or sister?

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

First I say go for it. I have a brother 6 years older and a sister 6 years younger. We are not close at all. Never were. But I would do anything for them and feel blessed that I have siblings. My mother used to tell us all when we got bored, "that is what friends are for", but if we got in trouble, "that is what your brother/sister are for". Good luck, and have some FUN!!

 

[mamacatnv]

Our kids are almost 10 years apart by our choice.

DS was an only for 10 years
He shared a house with his sister for 9 years, then he went to college and
DD is now the only in the house.

I love it and if I had it to do all over again I would not change a thing.

Go for it, I wish you fertility!

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

I am pg right now with my 3rd. My other 2 will be almost 10 and 3 1/2 when this one comes.

I am excited about the age gap...each child has had some time to themselves. And my oldest is super excited about having a new brother or sister.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

both myself and my one bestfriend are 10 years apart from our siblings(altho she's the "older" sister and i'm the "younger" one)

it could go either way, really. just remember that an older sibling is NOT a live-in babysitter, my bestfriends parents seemed to forget that a lot(they'd even keep her home from school to watch her sister if they had plans)


good luck i hope it works out for you!

 

[mom2travel]

Definitely go for it! There is no special magic to age differences between siblings. I have a friend the same age as me whose sister is the same amount younger than her as my sister is younger than me (and our sisters are the same age). DSis and I have always been close; she and her sister were not close until the younger sis was halfway through college. People are just different.

I also have a brother 9 years younger than me and another 14 years younger than me. I love them both. Some ages and phases we were closer than others, but we all have always known that we are there for each other, and enjoy spending time together.

 

[Piglet843]

I don't have children yet - so you can toss my comment / opinion if you want...


But I wouldn't let something as trivial as an age difference in siblings stop me from trying for another baby.

If you want a baby - have a baby!!!!
Best Wishes!!

 

[Liberty Belle]

My husband and I want to try to have another baby. There are several concerns, we have one child whom is almost 10. Is this going to be a good thing or a bad thing with the age difference? The other issue is our first child is an invitro baby so we may not be able to do this anyway but want to try. I am excited but nervous at the same time. By the way I am 37 so age is not really on my side either.

Yes.

I have two sons 9.5 years apart. There are pros and cons to the age difference, just as there are pros and cons to having children close together. If you really feel you want another child, though, I think you should try for one now. You're not at all too old, but if it takes you a while, you might start to become concerned about your age.

 

[punkin]

I was almost 9 years younger than my sister and my DDs are 6 years apart. Never a problem.

 

[Tink2000]

Thanks for all of the encouraging words.

 

[bamagirl@hrt]

My sister is 9 years younger than me. While we weren't super close when we were kids, we are now. She just turned 30 and for her birthday, we went to WDW - just the two of us and had a blast! Our mom made me spend time with my sister when she was little. I wasn't always happy about it, since I was a teen and she was a little kid, but I do think it formed the foundation for our relationship now.

Go for it! And best of luck!

 

[wenrob]

My husband and I want to try to have another baby. There are several concerns, we have one child whom is almost 10. Is this going to be a good thing or a bad thing with the age difference? The other issue is our first child is an invitro baby so we may not be able to do this anyway but want to try. I am excited but nervous at the same time. By the way I am 37 so age is not really on my side either.

Wow, are you me? My DD was 9yrs old when we decided to have another and I was 37yrs old when they were born. Yep, they, got the 2 for 1 deal. Did IVF for both, took the 2nd time both times.

My oldest has been nothing but awesome with her little brother and sister. They ADORE her and she them. We talked to her first before deciding and she's been on board ever since.

If you had to do IVF with the first I wonder why you wouldn't with the 2nd? IMHO at 37yrs old you could be wasting a lot of time trying naturally if chances are you will need to do IVF anyway.