Troubles

[Tink-a-boo]

Alright, so heres my situation. I have this really good friend, he's a blast to have around! Today in the hall he was being all serious and was going to ask me something, his buddy interrupted him, thank god! I have a good idea of what the question is and im scared. If you haven't got it by now, he wants to date me, but i on the other hand don't like him like that at all. I just want to be friends and i hope this situation doesn't ruin our friendship. Tomorrow im planning on giving him a sincere note after and if he asks the question. The note tells him how i just like him as a friend and so on.

Do you think im doing the right thing?
What would you do in this situation?

Thanks guys!
Hayley

 

[TwistyMisty]

I would do the same thing.
And, I think your doing the right thing if you really don't like him that way.

 

[::Snow_White::]

I think you should tell him in person...not a note. Like right after he asks you. But whatever you'd like. A note I believe isn't as bad in this situation as it is in others. [Asking him out...and all that.]
But I think it's good you are doing what you'd like and still wanting to be friends with him. :]
good Luck!

 

[Babyjustrun]

Tell him. Don't give him a note. Notes can come off the wrong way (you've got not body language in notes, and no voice tone in notes).
And if you really don't like him in that way, don't let it affect your relationship. Don't start ignoring him, and don't act weird around him. Because that's probably what he's afraid of most. That if he tells you, that you'll stop talking to him.
That's why most people never ever tell people that kind of thing ;]

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

No notes
I have learned the hard way that notes are horrible because OTHER PEOPLE can always read them AND he has no idea what your actually saying.. for instance if i type :

That dog!

I could be saying it in multiple different tones

You should just say "Look were buds right? Well im really sorry but i just dont like you in that way. I hope this doesnt ruin our friendship at all and we can continue to be just buds."

Or something along that line

 

[Tink-a-boo]

Thank you all so much for your opinions!

Those of you who said that i shouldn't tell him in a note, the only reason im doing it that way is because i don't have the guts to tell him in person. I don't want to see his heart break (if it does) im having a hard enough time telling him in a note as it is.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Thank you all so much for your opinions!

Those of you who said that i shouldn't tell him in a note, the only reason im doing it that way is because i don't have the guts to tell him in person. I don't want to see his heart break (if it does) im having a hard enough time telling him in a note as it is.

I think you should still tell him.
Your voice and body language can work more for you than words in a note can.
It's hard to figure out what someone really means in a note. Because the words 'I just want to be friends' really have no meaning in a note.

 

[Vannah]

Good for you.
That you're going to tell him you don't like him anyway.

I think you should talk to him face to face.
But whatever you're comfortable with is fine.