Trip after child loss

[imthemamahere]

I have no helpful advice to offer in this situation. I just wanted to say that I am so very sorry for your loss.

Though this planning stage has got to be wrenching, I hope the trip itself brings you happiness and healing...

 

[AllieV]

My brother died when I was 7. It was important for us remaining two siblings to form new memories with just the two of us and our parents. Create a new normal, so to speak. Well into adulthood, we haven't forgotten our brother, but we have a ton of new memories with just us at Disney, so much so that it is one of our favorite places to go as an entire family (until our parents were gone, but even now we like to go with our new families). If we'd shied away from it, I think it would have become a white elephant.

We did, though, stay someplace new. We spent a lot of time camping and outdoors instead of at the Polynesian. I think mother felt less cooped up liked looking up at the stars at night . . . you know, like maybe he was up there with us.

I wish the best new normal possible for all of you.

 

[SweetMissy]

OMG, I'm so sorry!! I can't even imagine planning a vacation after such a loss and so soon. I wish you luck...I'm so sorry!

 

[PrincessWhite]

I am sorry for you and your family! Please know you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I'm so sorry this happened to your sweet child. Since your 9yo wants to go I would do all I could to continue with the trip. I agree with the pp to bring something special of your son's to carry with you to the parks , he will be there in spirit enjoying every minute of the trip with you.

 

[MSSANDRA]

Just hugs and prayers as you continue through this journey. There are no wrong or right answers and what seems right one day, may not the next. Whatever you decide is the right thing to do,

 

[lorenni]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Disney has always been a favorite place of mine and my sister's. When her infant son passed a couple of years ago, we did take a family trip around the 1 year anniversary both because her older daughter wanted to go and had been asking, and because it is our happy place.

As the prior poster who lost her child said - it hurts every day. It will hurt at Disney just like it hurts standing in the kitchen, brushing your teeth, breathing. So you go on and you go to Disney or to the beach or wherever it is that you can continue to make happy and joyful memories with your children. Be well and know you and your family are in the thoughts of so many of us.

 

[Julie711]

Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you & your family!

 

[SFailla]

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you & your family as noone should have to go through what you are experiencing. I have nothing to add but agree with what others have posted. Your post brought many tears to my eyes & I will pray for you & your family. I am sure that whatever you decide will be the best decision you can make. Sending you lots of hugs, love & strength.

 

[DisneyBliss7]

I'm so sorry for your loss...Many hugs and prayers to you and your family!

 

[cornichon]

Just wanted to say that I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

 

[2b1gMom]

Thanks to all who replied. We went to the beach week before last and it was hard without him, but a good time for the other two. I let my older son help plan Disney so we are booked 10/31-11/4. I know it will be painful but I know my other two will have fun. My daughter was only 2 last time, this time she will be 4 and will enjoy so much more. My 5 year old was really not into a character. He enjoyed meeting them all last time, but he was more into the rides. He was tall enough at almost 4 that he loved tower of terror. He couldn't wait to be tall enough to ride more rides. I miss him so much more than I could ever explain.

 

[slbee627]

There are no words that can bring the comfort you need, but your family is in our prayers. We lost our 10 month old daughter in December and everyday brings a unique challenge. We are taking our son (3yo) this September for the first time and there will be some very hard moments, I'm sure. What we like to do, though is try to dedicate a moment or two each trip to her. It reminds us all that she is with us and just how special all our moments are. I pray for comfort and peace for you all and hope you enjoy your trip!

 

[prettylittlelady]

I am so sorry for your loss..my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Cindermama]

I am so very sorry for your tragic loss. I can't begin to imagine how difficult and bittersweet this must be for you. I know there will be sadness and tears. But I hope there can also be some peaceful moments of honoring and remembering your son. And maybe even some smiles as you do new things with your other two kiddos. Big hugs.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Sorry for your loss.

This article may be of interest to you.

http://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2014/04/12/a_tribute_fit_for_a_fallen_princess.html

 

[scoutie]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful child.

Sending you love and peace.

 

[mrsap]

We lost our 5 year old in April. He was on our sidewalk when a drunk driver drove through the grass and killed him. We are going to Disney on 10/31. He had only been with us once (and once while I was pregnant with him)....he was so excited about going. I know I need to carry on with the trip for the other two kids but just the planning stages are hard. I got a travel agent yesterday because I just couldn't do it myself. Anyone been in this situation? Any advice?

I am so very sorry. My heart and prayers are with you and your family. I wish I could hug you through the screen.

 

[DisneyParkLover]

I just want to say I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with everyone else that you should try to go on the trip. Let the TA do the planning for you.

 

[sam1998]

I am so sorry for your loss. I am in KY and remember hearing the story on the news. I am glad to hear you are going to take the trip. I hope your family can find some happiness and create some new memories. (((HUGS)))