- Oct 25, 2015
I liken it to asking a black person why they are uncomfortable using the "colored" restroom. We can ask a white person why they are uncomfortable using the "colored" restroom and it would not be an insensitive question. However, if we ask the same question to a black person, we are being insensitive because it is completely insensitive to tell them that they are different from white people and therefore have a different restroom and expect them to explain why they aren't comfortable with that.Thus my interest. It's acceptable (even essential) to ask the cicgendered person why they are uncomfortable. It is socially/culturally insensitive to ask a transgender person the same thing.
I ask because I'm curious, interested and open to learn. Not because I am not taking into account social/cultural context. As social/cultural context changes and grows I have to ask BECAUSE I take those things into context.
Asking a transgender person why they aren't comfortable using the opposite gender restroom is like telling them that they are different from everyone else of their gender class. It is a very insensitive and prejudice question.