Traditions/Superstitions!

[Tink_Kel]

How many of you, that are co-habitiating with your DF's, spent the night with your groom the night before your wedding?!

Me & DF have "sleep-overs" (I know, sounds juvenile), but don't live together. I told him I have to have a separate room the night before...I'm not really superstious, but geeze, don't want to jinx anything either!

Are there any special traditions/superstitions that you will be following on your wedding day?

 

[MysticalBeauty]

I won't be following alot of superstitions and things of the sort...we will prob. spend the night together{we are having an evening ceremony at 6p.m.}but seperate during the day to get ready and we won't see eachother until the ceremony.

 

[DaDivatude]

I'm a traditionalist on these things so here are the superstitions I am going to adhere to.
1) I am borrowing something from a HAPPILY MARRIED PERSON (if you borrow from anyone else, it's suppose to borrow their unluckiness, since you borrow to gain luck for your marriage.)
2) I will wear some type of white, probably ivory.
3) I will not see the groom the day of.
4) I will not get married in May (According to the rhyme it's the worst month to get married and I know absolutely no one who got married in may that's still married so I won't for personal reasons.)

For traditions I will be jumping the broom in line with the African-American tradition and will possibly be tying the knot with cowry shells. I will also be doing mother's roses.

 

[bridetobe789]

DF and I actually live together now but will not be spending the night before the wedding together.. Since our ceremony is @ noon we will have to get up early to do the hair and makeup and all so he can definitely wake up later than me but we just don't want to see each other before the ceremony! If we had a late evening ceremony like 6 or so we may have done it different!

 

[Tink_Kel]

I'm a traditionalist on these things so here are the superstitions I am going to adhere to.
1) I am borrowing something from a HAPPILY MARRIED PERSON (if you borrow from anyone else, it's suppose to borrow their unluckiness, since you borrow to gain luck for your marriage.)
2) I will wear some type of white, probably ivory.
3) I will not see the groom the day of.
4) I will not get married in May (According to the rhyme it's the worst month to get married and I know absolutely no one who got married in may that's still married so I won't for personal reasons.)

For traditions I will be jumping the broom in line with the African-American tradition and will possibly be tying the knot with cowry shells. I will also be doing mother's roses.

WOW!! You should have the luckiest wedding day ever! I'm getting married in May, so we'll be the first couple you know of that will be "till death do you part"...but then, if he dosen't toe the line, death might be sooner than later!

I think it's so cool that you'll be jumping the broom! I've heard of that tradition, but have never heard of anyone these days doing it! I wish I could claim some type of heritage tradition...but I'm a heinz 57

 

[Lisacope]

I'm a traditionalist on these things so here are the superstitions I am going to adhere to.

4) I will not get married in May (According to the rhyme it's the worst month to get married and I know absolutely no one who got married in may that's still married so I won't for personal reasons.)

QUOTE]

Ummm.... I was married on May 28, 1988 and just celebrated my 20th anniversary with a DFTVR!

I think that is quite a silly superstition!

 

[polynesianbride]

I don't plan on following any of the "rules". I was married once before at the age of 21. I was very religious and married a "good christian boy". I was a virgin on my wedding day, I did not spend the night with him the night before (or any night before), I didn't see him the day of the wedding, I had something old, new, borrowed, and blue, and on and on... anyhow 2 years later the marriage ended horribly when I found out he had been cheating on me almost the entire time we were married with various different people . It's a long story but the point is... I don't think it matters WHAT you do the day of the wedding, I think it matters WHO you marry! Do what you WANT, and what works with your wedding schedule! I am just happy I am getting a happily ever after this time around and throwing the rules out the door! If we end up getting married in the morning we will probably stay at different hotels so getting ready is easier... If we get married in the afternoon or evening we will stay in the same room and spend the day at the park together and then he'll probably get ready in his parents room. I may even wear white! Do what you're comfortable with and just enjoy your wedding!

 

[BecBennett]

I'm not really supersticious, but there will be a few traditions that we stick to, just coz they're fun.

We won't see each other the day of, or spend the previous night together, even though we've been living together for 6 years.

I'm going to go with the whole old, new, borrowed and blue thing.

And I'm going to be wearing white, or some variation of it.

 

[bridetobe789]

4) I will not get married in May (According to the rhyme it's the worst month to get married and I know absolutely no one who got married in may that's still married so I won't for personal reasons.)

What is the rhyme ? I have never heard of this before.? Just curious!

 

[DWPromise]

DF and I live together and are planning to spend the night before together. I look at it this way...

We have a party the night before that will probably go a little late and we have a morning ceremony. I have to be up really early and will be going to my parents' room to get ready so, it's more like we're just napping together the night before.

I do believe in most of the traditions and we've tried to follow them, but this one we are breaking the rules. I just sleep better with him there.

 

[BecBennett]

What is the rhyme ? I have never heard of this before.? Just curious!

I found this info at this website

Advice on which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:

Married when the year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true.
When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know.
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day.
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go.
Those who in July do wed, must labour for their daily bred.
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine.
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember.
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.
Marry in May and you'll live to rue the day
May has been considered an unlucky month to marry in for a number of reasons. In Pagan times the start of summer was when the festival of Beltane was celebrated with outdoor orgies. This was therefore thought to be an unsuitable time to start married life. In Roman times the Feast of the Dead and the festival of the goddess of chastity both occurred in May. The advice was taken more seriously in Victorian times than it is today. In most Churches the end of April was a busy time for weddings as couples wanted to avoid being married in May. Queen Victoria is thought to have forbidden her children from marrying in May.

Marry in Lent, live to repent

Lent was thought an inappropriate time for a wedding as this was a time of abstinence.

June was considered to be a lucky month to marry in because it is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of love and marriage.

The Summer as a whole was considered a good time to marry and this is partly to do with the sun's association with fertility. In Scotland one popular custom was for the bride to "walk with the sun" to bring her good. She would walk from east to west on the south side of the church and then continue walking around the church three times.


I found it interesting, I don't believe in it, but looking into where these things came from is always interesting.

 

[PrincesCJM]

I will have my somethings. We won't be taking formal pictures ahead of time because I want the first time he sees me is to be when I'm walking down the aisle. I was already planning for us not to spend the night together (we've lived together for 3+ years) but had not yet mentioned it to him yet. Well, my mom took care of that for me when she told him that he would have to spend the night somewhere other than her house the night before the wedding (we're getting married near my hometown and we now live 2.5 hours away). I think he was a little hurt at first but understands why. He'll just spending an extra night in our wedding night room. We are flying out the next day for our honeymoon, with 8 of the night at POFQ and 3 nights on the east coast of FL!!

 

[Tink_Kel]

I found this info at this website

Advice on which month to marry in is given by the following rhyme:

Married when the year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true.
When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know.
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden and for Man.
Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day.
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go.
Those who in July do wed, must labour for their daily bred.
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine.
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember.
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.
Marry in May and you'll live to rue the day
May has been considered an unlucky month to marry in for a number of reasons. In Pagan times the start of summer was when the festival of Beltane was celebrated with outdoor orgies. This was therefore thought to be an unsuitable time to start married life. In Roman times the Feast of the Dead and the festival of the goddess of chastity both occurred in May. The advice was taken more seriously in Victorian times than it is today. In most Churches the end of April was a busy time for weddings as couples wanted to avoid being married in May. Queen Victoria is thought to have forbidden her children from marrying in May.

Marry in Lent, live to repent

Lent was thought an inappropriate time for a wedding as this was a time of abstinence.

June was considered to be a lucky month to marry in because it is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of love and marriage.

The Summer as a whole was considered a good time to marry and this is partly to do with the sun's association with fertility. In Scotland one popular custom was for the bride to "walk with the sun" to bring her good. She would walk from east to west on the south side of the church and then continue walking around the church three times.


I found it interesting, I don't believe in it, but looking into where these things came from is always interesting.

Thanks for sharing! That's pretty interesting...though like you, I wouldn't put a lot of stock in it! It's so funny how they come up with these little rhymes, and how people actually let them make life choices!

 

[adisneygal]

I'm a traditionalist on these things so here are the superstitions I am going to adhere to.

4) I will not get married in May (According to the rhyme it's the worst month to get married and I know absolutely no one who got married in may that's still married so I won't for personal reasons.)

QUOTE]

Ummm.... I was married on May 28, 1988 and just celebrated my 20th anniversary with a DFTVR!

I think that is quite a silly superstition!

Congrats on 20 yrs!

I don't plan on following any of the "rules". I was married once before at the age of 21. I was very religious and married a "good christian boy". I was a virgin on my wedding day, I did not spend the night with him the night before (or any night before), I didn't see him the day of the wedding, I had something old, new, borrowed, and blue, and on and on... anyhow 2 years later the marriage ended horribly when I found out he had been cheating on me almost the entire time we were married with various different people . It's a long story but the point is... I don't think it matters WHAT you do the day of the wedding, I think it matters WHO you marry! Do what you WANT, and what works with your wedding schedule! I am just happy I am getting a happily ever after this time around and throwing the rules out the door! If we end up getting married in the morning we will probably stay at different hotels so getting ready is easier... If we get married in the afternoon or evening we will stay in the same room and spend the day at the park together and then he'll probably get ready in his parents room. I may even wear white! Do what you're comfortable with and just enjoy your wedding!

I agree with this 100%. My first marriage was at the age of 18 and ended horribly regardless of traditions we followed. I had a small wedding with the ex. With DF, I want to celebrate because when you find the one, it's amazing!

DF and I live together and are planning to spend the night before together. I look at it this way...

We have a party the night before that will probably go a little late and we have a morning ceremony. I have to be up really early and will be going to my parents' room to get ready so, it's more like we're just napping together the night before.

I do believe in most of the traditions and we've tried to follow them, but this one we are breaking the rules. I just sleep better with him there.

Ok, I was gonna make DF leave the night before, just because I figured it would be easier to get ready since it is a very early wake up call. I bet you I will sleep horrible without him. I think I will just do like you and go to my parents room to get ready.

And sorry to stray OT on this post, but Jodi, your wedding is so close.... You're gonna make a gorgeous bride and I can't wait for details!!!!!

 

[DaDivatude]

I'm a traditionalist on these things so here are the superstitions I am going to adhere to.

4) I will not get married in May (According to the rhyme it's the worst month to get married and I know absolutely no one who got married in may that's still married so I won't for personal reasons.)

QUOTE]

Ummm.... I was married on May 28, 1988 and just celebrated my 20th anniversary with a DFTVR!

I think that is quite a silly superstition!

Congrats on 20 yrs!! I didn't mean anything by it. Like I said, everyone I know that was married in May (including my parents) ended up divorced. So to me, the rhyme has come true for so many people, I'd just rather not tempt fate. But hearing that definitely gave me hope for May!

I'm very attached to jumping the broom. I think it's something every AA couple should do just to pay homage. (Especially since my great-grandmother was the SECOND generation (born in 1907) born out of slavery, so that shows how close it is to me!) I am also probably going to tie an Ankh to my bouquet. The ankh is the Egyptian symbol for long life and fertility, two things that go hand-in-hand with weddings.

 

[DWPromise]

And sorry to stray OT on this post, but Jodi, your wedding is so close.... You're gonna make a gorgeous bride and I can't wait for details!!!!!

Aw, thank you so much! That is really sweet of you to say. I can't wait!!! I will definitely post some pictures when we get back. Your next!! You are going to be beautiful and I look forward to your photos too!

 

[mickeymom923]

We are getting married in May 2009 aboard the Disney Wonder. Maybe I'll ask him to sleep on the deck chairs the night before. Since you actually sign the marriage certificate in Florida at the port before boarding the ship, we will be meeting with our Rabbi prior to leaving for Florida to be married. No other traditions that we will be following.

Bev

 

[Stephanie218]

DH and I slept together the night before our wedding, but he did leave the next morning and I got ready with my sister...he didn't see me until I let him I'm so glad we stayed together though, I don't regret it at all. Sleeping alone, I probably would have slept less, and I needed all the sleep I could get!

 

[esbrick]

My DF will be staying at the hotel the night before and I will be staying at my parents house. It is Irish tradition that the bride and groom can't see each other after midnight! Ha! That's great!

I believe love is stronger then any superstition, however, I do love the drama of the element of surprise.

We are all going to have wonderful weddings if that's what is in our hearts!

 

[MegKate]

I'm kicking him out - he can go stay with his brother - his BestMan.