tough question

[disgirl1234]

I have a friend who is struggling with a tough decision. Her little girl was abused by someone in the family they thought could be trusted. Her daughter was too young too understand at the time what happened. But now she is older and asks a lot of questions, like why the rest of the family does not speak to this person. My friend doesn't know if she should let sleeping dogs lie and try to protect her from the truth. Or if she should be honest with her and tell her what happened so she can accept it and move on. My friends therapist suggested telling her because until then she is just going to keep wondering and making herself more anxious.

I suggested my friend tell her because she is a strong girl and I know she can handle the truth especially with the support of her family and knowing is better than her driving herself crazy wondering. What would you do?

 

[JulesMom]

I think she should tell her.

Secrets always have a way of coming out.

 

[s&k'smom]

Oh gosh I wish I was a really wise person right now. But if her therapist feels telling her the truth is best I have to agree. Then it's out there and this little angel will know she didn't do anything wrong and has nothing to be ashamed of. I hope your friend and her daughter find peace.

 

[Serena]

Speaking from experience, the child needs a therapist and the truth.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

You didn't say how old she was. If she is still young you could say "he is a bad man we stay away from" to if she was older maybe provide more details as age appropriate. I would be careful as a childs perspective is not an adults and keep that in mind.
{{{HUGS}}} to your friends child. I hate people that hurt kids!

 

[AMClvsMKY]

She has the right to know what happened to her, for me it would just be a question of when to tell her. I think it depends on her age and maturity level as to when she would be ready to hear what happened.