Torn between trip PLEASE HELP!

[Doc CW]

I have a problem and need advice. My baby sister was just born and my family wants to do a WDW trip, well here's the problem. We have a trip planned for Nov and that would be DM, DD, baby sister and I, that's it. Then my Dgrandpa and DStep-Granny started asking when we were going to take baby sister to WDW and the suggestion came up that we go in May for her 1st bday. Now that two of the grandparents heard about this idea and they seem to want to do it on her bday. Worse news is not all Grandparents can afford to go, and none of the Grandparents know about the Nov trip.
So what I'm asking you is what should we do? Go in Nov and just keep the already scheduled trip, or cancel Nov trip and go on bday with GP who can afford to go, or cancel Nov trip, go on baby sister's bday without any GP's? What would you do and why?

 

[Mr._The_King]

The more loving adults you have the easier the trip will be.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

Can you tell them about the November trip and have them go with you then?? Do you want them to go? LOL!

Since she won't remember either trip, I don't see why you should wait really for her first birthday.

Talk to them and see what they say

 

[Going Broke]

The more loving adults you have the easier the trip will be.

I completely agree. IF you want the grandparents with you, the May trip sounds like a wonderful option. It is a very nice time of year to be in WDW. We are lucky to always have my DM with on our trips to WDW with my two DD's!

 

[Disney Spaz]

As Doc CW's mom I am a little biased in my opinions. I would love to have DD's first b-day there but the question is who do we leave out and how does that affect the family members who would be left out. My mother wouldn't care but my older DS and my mother-in-law would be disappointed. Matbe i should vote to go in Nov then plan a trip for her 2nd or 3rd birthday in WDW with just those who can afford to do it.

 

[hollyb]

Could you make up the difference for the grandparents? I would do that.

Congrats to the new baby.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I think a quiet 'just us' trip now and a future planned trip for the whole family is an awsome idea. It would give you guys some quiet time and everyone else a chance to save for the family trip. B.D. & Holiday gifts can come in the form of Disney Dollars which would help everyone. Maybe even those who can't afford it can save up enough for a modest trip if someone were to rent a minivan and drive down instead of flying.

 

[kkevcamsmom]

I voted to go in Nov. I think you should keep your plans as they are. If the Grandparent really want to go for her 1st b-day let them help pay for the cost instead of buying her presents.

I agree with the mom and wait until the new DD is a bit older.

Congrats on the new family member!

Lori

 

[Disney Spaz]

I just wanted to say thank you to those who responded to my DS's thread. His little sister means so much to him as does his grandparents and he has felt torn about wanting to take her for her b-day and making that special and including the grandparents he adores. I think after listening to you guys and thinking some more on it we may let all the grnadparents know we are looking at a trip for her 2nd or 3rd b-day and that would give those who would struggle several years to save up if they want to try and go. Thanks again.

 

[iHEARTflorida]

go w/ ur Gparents, they will love hat u want them to come

 

[Doc CW]

I would like to thank you for posting and voting to help me decide and get a good idea of what I should do Thank you .

 

[lovesmurfs]

Oy. My parents and inlaws get along for short spells, like a dinner (maybe), but the competition (particularly since one set is better off financially than another) takes over really quick, and I'm constantly hearing jabs from both sides...nothing to start a war, but I can never turn "off" -- I'm always performing for one or the other.

More power to you if you can all travel together for any length of time -- not even in my nightmares would I try ours.

 

[Mickeyroks247]

I would wait to go because the more people the better

 

[HopperFan]

What a cool kid you are

You love your new sister and want a good trip or birthday for her, you love your grandparents who want to share with you, you love your grandparents who may not be able to go. As the parent of a teen DS with a big heart like yours I can tell you will grow to be a wonderful young man !

My thoughts - go in November with the plans you have. The weather will be cooler and better for your sister. It will also be less crowded. She will also be at a great age that she will be easy to handle at the parks, sleeping, eating and watching you have fun

I know you want her birthday to be special, but ya know, at one years old she won't remember any of it. Have a nice party at home with all your grandparents there to celebrate her special year ! They will remember that and she'll have pictures with all her family there !

Then, like Mom says, start to plan a trip for her 2nd or better yet 3rd birthday (I think 3 is the perfect age for a first trip 'cause she'll be so excited to meet the princesses). Maybe that would be enough time for other family to save up their money to go on the trip with you. You sister will remember that trip !! My DS went the first time when he was 3 and still (at 17) remembers the first time he saw the castle. She'll be real princess then

Keep that wonderful heart of yours !

 

[4chitlins]

I would wait to go because the more people the better

I agree we ususally go with a bunch of us and it's always great

 

[SadieDog]

I just wanted to say thank you to those who responded to my DS's thread. His little sister means so much to him as does his grandparents and he has felt torn about wanting to take her for her b-day and making that special and including the grandparents he adores. I think after listening to you guys and thinking some more on it we may let all the grnadparents know we are looking at a trip for her 2nd or 3rd b-day and that would give those who would struggle several years to save up if they want to try and go. Thanks again.

I think that's a great idea.

 

[robinb]

Oops. I meant to vote for "Go in May with Grandparents". Perhaps the ones that can't afford it now can work on saving for May. Or maybe your parents can rent a pool home where everyone can stay together. I know it's hard to wait for another 6 months, but it's worth it to have the whole family there!

 

[Doc CW]

Despite what I want we are sticking with the Nov trip thank you for your advice it was more than appreciated. thank you very much. Not to promote my other thread but it is something that I care very deeply for so please at least read it.

 

[Zoemakes5]

Just have to add my two cents here, too. I'd NEVER go on a trip to WDW with my parents and my inlaws. Catastrophe waiting to happen! Multiply that by the fact that both my DH and are are from divorced parents, and we have four sets of grandparents to work with! YIKES! Plus, there's absolutely no way they will all be able to get quality time with your DD/Dsister during her b-day, and if one is better off financially, then there will be major competition.
I'd recommend planning two (or maybe more) separate vacations. Maybe soemthing like this. You stay on site for a few days with parents, then move off site to a house you pay for, thus cutting that cost for the inlaws, and then have your Inlaws come to you there. Half the time with one set of grandparents and half the time with the others. I think it would be easy to explain that you don't want dd/dear sister overwelmed by all the people and that you want each of them to have special time with her (and the rest of the kids). By dividing it up, you can be more in control of spending with the ones who are less likely to be able to afford it.
Oh, and I'd definitely go in Nov. Can't have enough WDW!

 

[lovesmurfs]

Just have to add my two cents here, too. I'd NEVER go on a trip to WDW with my parents and my inlaws. Catastrophe waiting to happen! Multiply that by the fact that both my DH and are are from divorced parents, and we have four sets of grandparents to work with! YIKES! Plus, there's absolutely no way they will all be able to get quality time with your DD/Dsister during her b-day, and if one is better off financially, then there will be major competition.
I'd recommend planning two (or maybe more) separate vacations. Maybe soemthing like this. You stay on site for a few days with parents, then move off site to a house you pay for, thus cutting that cost for the inlaws, and then have your Inlaws come to you there. Half the time with one set of grandparents and half the time with the others. I think it would be easy to explain that you don't want dd/dear sister overwelmed by all the people and that you want each of them to have special time with her (and the rest of the kids). By dividing it up, you can be more in control of spending with the ones who are less likely to be able to afford it.
Oh, and I'd definitely go in Nov. Can't have enough WDW!

Could not agree more........