Too much fun at your table?

[tarzanman]

That is a great pic. We were a little more low key than that. We were sitting down most of the time but still dancing.

 

[tarzanman]

We have never done the back to back cruises before. We are going to stay at the BWV DVC resort during the three day layover between the Thursday when we get off of the ship and Saturday when we get back on. We can't wait. It should be a blast. If you need a reference to verify how crazy our group is just ask WebMaster CathyCanada. She has seen it first hand. Haven't you Cathy?

 

[tlens]

Along with Horace, I'll be the odd one out. I personally would have been the "stuffy" one if put in that situation. Before all of you judge the other couples, you need to realize all people are different. That shouldn't give people license to make fun of them. We don't know the other people's side of the issue.

My reason's for being the stuffy one are that of consistancy with my daughter 3.5YO. We would NEVER allow her to act that way at home or a restaurant during dinner time and therefore wouldn't change that rule just because we are on vacation and should "lighten up". I am raising my child to have proper manners and etiquette and to be considerate of those around her. How often do we hear on these boards all the complaining of people who don't care about anyone but themselves or children who are unruly? I'm am trying to avoid this by being consistant.

This is not a slam of tarzanman. I don't know you or how you raise your children. The decisions you make for your family are yours alone. But please respect those who may choose not to participate in your fun.

 

[tarzanman]

No disrespect intended. I was just wondering what people thought about other people acting afool. Thank you for your input. It is much appreciated.

 

[BeanoC]

tarzanman, you can bet that your tablemates this year won't complain about you enjoying yourselves at dinner!

I appreciate tlens' opinion of consistancy in teaching her children proper manners. Perfectly appropriate and admirable parenting!!

As for us, our kids know their parents well enough, and have cruised with us enough to know the difference between how we let loose on vacation as opposed to how we would act in, for example, Denny's restaurant. Therefore we have no hesitation to 'get in the moment' and have some fun at dinner, as long as we are not disturbing others or being rude. Embrace life and enjoy it. Not a bad thing to teach your kids either, is it??

(JMHO)


'Beano'

 

[tarzanman]

Thanks for your input BeanoC. You wouldn't happen to be dining in the future with any people like this would you?

 

[Horace Horsecollar]

Originally posted by BeanoC
Therefore we have no hesitation to 'get in the moment' and have some fun at dinner, as long as we are not disturbing others or being rude. Embrace life and enjoy it. Not a bad thing to teach your kids either, is it??

I agree completely. Absolutley, "embrace life and enjoy it!" But the key phrase is "as long as we are not disturbing others or being rude."

I certainly don't mind hearing laughter from tablemates or from surrounding tables.

But, yes, I would mind if the enjoyment of dinner with my family was degraded because somebody thinks that I should enjoy their rude, obnoxious behavior. I would mind is I had to put up with someone who has no regard for dinner manners.

I'm not accusing tarzanman of being rude and obnoxious or having no manners. But in the post that started this thread, tarzanman wrote, "we got a little bit rowdy and fun." The word "rowdy" jumped out at me. The definition of rowdy is "disorderly and rough." He further posted that, "The other two families at our table that both had children under 10 were not amused by our fun antics and told their children that they did not need to act like us." That made me think that perhaps these "antics" were disturbing others -- and that I was glad we weren't seated at a table where we needed to apologize to our children for the bahavior of adults and teenagers.

 

[tiptoen]

My family has a zest for life. And I for one am glad of it. My children are very well behaved and know proper etiquette probably better than I. I feel there is a time and a place for everything, and a conga line on a cruise ship is a time to party.

Tip

 

[tarzanman]

No offense taken by any of the comments. I did try to explain that it was in Parrot Cay and it was on the night of the whole limbo and dancing stuff. If they were bothered by us, the people at our table would have been bothered by the whole dinner atmosphere. All the other tables appeared to be having fun. Maybe not as much as we did but definitely fun. The teenagers we were with had never been on vacation in their lives. This was a one itme experience for them and we lived it up. I just think that it was too bad that the people that we were with did not have a good time at dinner.

I always think its a shame when I see kids think things are dumb because their parents aren't into it or think that something is not cool enough for them. I see at WDW all the time with older kids and characters. If the parents are into it, so are the kids, or its the other way around. Kids get most of their interest based on their parents reactions. The actions of the parents at Parrot Cay just bothered me that day. It was supposed to be fun. Our wait staff was even dancing. Oh well. Maybe they will next time but probably not.

 

[mmouse37]

keep on dancing!!! We got up and joined the conga line at Parrot Cay and the rest of our party was napkin waving to beat the band....this includes jaded teens!!!! How often do teen get into a celebratory mood with their parents!!! It was a moment none of us will soon forget!!!!

My son also had a great time in Animator's Palate when our server game him her Viking hat that she wore during the parade around the dining room!!! He wore it all through dinner!!! And he was 17!!!!

Our servers told us that had the most fun with our table then they had in a long, long time. They like the vibrant ones and really do not enjoy the guests that don't show some spark....they do the same job day in and day out and I am sure the reactions of the guests play a huge role in the attitude of the servers!!!!

MJ

 

[BeanoC]

Horace - I think we all agree with what I assume you are referring to: That loud, drunk guy who draws attention to himself by being obnoxious, and expects you to think he is as funny as he does??

Nobody wants to put up with that guy!!!

We all have different ways and degrees of having fun and expressing ourselves. As long as we respect other's boundaries, and they ours, there is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself in the manner you like!


(tarzanman, I have no plans of dining with anyone who would act the way YOU do! )




'Beano'

 

[tarzanman]

Well said mmouse37!!! That is what I am talking about. If you are too uppety and have to be proper all the time, then don't sit at my table. I have a pretty political job and have to be pretty proper most of the time. I can really appreciate the fun that CM's have when they get the guests involved in.

 

[PAGirl]

Can you request a table just for your family or do you get luck of the draw and might be with other families?

 

[Horace Horsecollar]

Originally posted by mmouse37
keep on dancing!!! We got up and joined the conga line at Parrot Cay and the rest of our party was napkin waving to beat the band....this includes jaded teens!!!!

Absolutely! The conga line and napkin waving after dinner were a lot of fun.

Originally posted by tarzanman
If you are too uppety and have to be proper all the time, then don't sit at my table.

Mr. tarzanman, were the familes at your table were being "uppety" after dinner during the conga line and napkin waving? If so, I see your point.

Or were they bothered by your party's "rowdy" [dictionary definition: disorderly; disturbing the public peace; loud and rough] "antics" [dictionary definition: ludicrous or extravagant acts] at the table while they were trying to enjoy a multi-course dinner with their children in a fine-dining restaurant on the ship? If so, I believe you know the answer to the question that you asked at the the top of this thread, "Were we wrong?"

Please keep in mind that cruise guests are assigned to tables. So think about the advice, "don't sit at my table."

Again, please don't consider this a personal attack. Please consider this to be attempt to respond to the question about "antics" at dinner that you raised at the top of this thread.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Do we have a little debate going here!!!????

I guess I do not need a dictionary definition of the fun that Tarzanman describes at his table... We are talking about music, singing, dancing, cuttin' up a bit, etc... on a Disney Cruise ship, probably encouraged by the band and the CM's.

I certainly did not assume that anyone was rough or ludicrous. And, have not read anything here that would lead me to think so.

If a person (like those at tarzanman's table) is opposed to music and dancing and laughing, cuttin' up a bit, at their meal. Then I think that Parrot Cay on DCL was probably not the place for them to begin with. I totally agree that there are issues in teaching table manners to toddlers... (Had plenty of those with DS!!!) So while I really understand the thoughts of concerned parents. Well, this is a Disney Cruise ship, not the DCL institute of proper etiquette.

My question for you seasoned Wonder Cruisers is this... Is there usually this much fun and activity at Parrot Cay on the 4-nite cruises??? I hope so!

 

[tlens]

tarzanman: You seem to have left out some very important information in your original post. I was under the impression that you were acting "rowdy" during the dinner, not the show (if I can call it that)...ie: conga line etc. That to me is a different issue. You had every right to act however you wished during this part of the evening. I wouldn't have appreciated this while I was trying to eat.

I wouldn't have stopped my daughter from joining in on the events that were designed by Disney to get people involved. That is part of the atmosphere.
It was something encouraged and accepted by the crew. I wouldn't have let her participate if we were the only table in the restaurant doing so and it was disturbing others.

A couple of posters have mentioned the unruly drunks. You don't need to be drunk to be annoying. SOme people who are perfectly sober make bigger fools of themselves than the drunks. Being sober doesn't justify actions any more that being drunk does.

 

[tarzanman]

On our particular cruise, which was a 7 night Western(it is just as fun on the 4 night), the Parrot Cay CM's were dancing along with the steel drum band and we were SITTING down in our seats doing silly dances with them like the hand jive, going sizzler(butter churn), among others. Each person in our party led their own set of hand motions. We went around the four of us a couple of times. The limbo and conga line were later on that night. This was all prior to that. We were kind of laughing and having fun like normal people do but in a tone a little bit "rowdier" than normally at dinner. This was all prompted along by the CM's. We just improvised a little on our own. I hope this clears up any confusion.

 

[BeanoC]

t-man, you really opened up the whole can with this thread didn't you?



You just need to sit with me on your next cruise, I couldn't care less what you do at dinner!! You are on vacation, so you just go ahead and enjoy yourself! You may not want to sit with me though... I might embarrass YOU!



'Beano'

 

[tiptoen]

Can I sit with you guys too? If anyone gets embarrassed I wanna be there.

 

[atigeg]

I don't even need to be drunk to be disorderly! A few cruises ago, as I was getting up to join the conga line, I bumped hubby's wine glass and SPLAT!!! So much for conga-ing!!
Barb
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