I watched this episode, though I'm not a religious follower of the show.
I have seen a few episodes where I was actually impressed with the children and their parents (though very rarely). This episode was NOT one of them.
One thing that breaks my heart is when the parents are stressing out about the way their children look, and they say something in front of their children. Kind of like "Your hair looks like a rat's nest." I remember when I was young and I was getting ready for a dance recital. My mother had taken me to a beauty college to have my hair fixed, and they had not done very well. As she was trying to fix it 30 minutes before I had to be on stage, she said "You look like a &^% idiot!" Looking back, I know she was expressing her frustration and NOT insulting my
looks, but that stayed with me for years, and since I already suffered from low self-esteem, this did not help.
These young girls are learning that looks are more important than anything else. If their parents continue to make such comments and place so much importance on beauty, these girls will end up with eating disorders, drug addictions, and severe emotional issues.
Like others, (and I HATE to admit this), I was relieved when Danielle didn't win. I was appalled when she either ACTUALLY smacked or nearly smacked the other girl. And all the mother did was say "Do you want to go home?" Are you KIDDING me? Had I been her mother, I would've yanked that brat up right there, put her in the car, and drove her home, explaining that until she decided to act like a human being and show good sportsmanship, her pageant days would be OVER. (And had that been my child, I would've AT LEAST confronted Danielle's mother.) Danielle is old enough to know better - she's been around other kids and she's been in school. Since her mother won't teach her how to act, she should be learning how to act from other situations.
I do feel sorry for her, since she's being raised to believe that the world owes her everything. And yes, a competitive attitude is essential for success in today's dog-eat-dog world, but geez, teach your kid how to tone it down and keep all of the ugliness to herself, at the very least!
As for Mackenzie, I mostly felt sorry for her. Yes, she's a brat, but her mother is making her that way, and you could tell she was tired, cranky, and stressed.
I was both happy and confused as to why Charlotte won Grand Supreme. I actually thought her sister would win more, since she was happier and more smiley. Still, as long as Danielle didn't win, it's good. (I know that sounds horribly mean, but Danielle struck me as the sort of kid who needs to suffer a few losses in order to put things into perspective, though I'm not sure age 9 - 10 is old enough to be able to do that. I'm sure she was heart-broken, but after the way she behaved, it seems she needs to learn how the world REALLY works.)
I have mixed feelings on pageants in general. I think if the child is old enough to express a strong desire in competing, and if the parents stay grounded and keep their child grounded, it can be a very good thing. The child can learn about good sportsmanship, poise, AND the value of inner beauty, believe it or not. The drive to win should come solely from the child, and if/when it does, THEN the parent should support the child in her endeavor without putting pressure on her.
If the child isn't really young enough to have the desire to compete, then I don't think it should be taken too seriously. Sure, if you want to have fun with your 18 month old and enter her into a pageant with no expectations of winning, I see no harm in that. If your baby is a ham, and you want to show that off and use the pageant as an excuse for a celebration of your baby, then no harm. However, those that set so much in store by these pageants when their children aren't old enough to make a lucid decision about competing need to reevaluate a few things.
Above all, the self esteem of children should be preserved. It KILLS me to watch parents insult their child's looks, even if they don't mean it in the sense of "My child is ugly" but "The hairstylist should be fired." Children can't make that distinction, just like I couldn't at age 7.
The truth is, I have yet to see a truly aesthetically "ugly" child. I've seen ugly behaviors, but every child I have ever met or known has been adorable in his or her own way. Chlidren face enough judgment based on their looks from jealous peers, and girls are worrying about their weight, their hair, their teeth, their clothes, and their skin at younger and younger ages. It's heart-wrenching, because it's a formula for an eating disorder, which is something that, once begun, will stick with that person for the rest of his/her life.
Just a little more than my two cents. . .