To dump, or not to dump...

[JMR859]

I've recently been seeing a girl from work who absolutely has no interest in ever visiting WDW... I was a die-hard fan before my divorce. Now I feel like I can never go back and enjoy myself. What does everyone think about this? Is it fair to her by giving up a vacation that gives me so much pleasure? And finally, if I could get her to go, it'd be only once, and I don't think she'd fall in love with the place.

 

[queendisney]

DUMP...
if you really are having to ask a question like that then the way I see it is you really aren't into her that much and you will either hold a grudge that she is stopping you from doing what you want to do, or, you will be going to see the mouse by yourself!!!!

 

[dizzi]

Honestly, what kind of person would say they NEVER HAVE any interest in seeing one of the hottest biggest attractions anywhere.....

If she really isnt willing to go with you just once to see if the Magic hits her...
then is there even a question....

she needs to go!!!!!!!!!

Not only because she wont go to Disney.....
But what else will she not be wiling to try or do or have fun with.

 

[PhoenixStrength]

Honestly, what kind of person would say they NEVER HAVE any interest in seeing one of the hottest biggest attractions anywhere.....

If she really isnt willing to go with you just once to see if the Magic hits her...
then is there even a question....

she needs to go!!!!!!!!!

Not only because she wont go to Disney.....
But what else will she not be wiling to try or do or have fun with.

I agree with the bolded. If she went one time with you and said it was not her thing, then at least she tried, but not even willing to try is different. It would be one thing if your dream vacation was wrestling crocodiles, then I could see her refusing

 

[JMR859]

...she said she went there once about 10 years ago, went on two rides, walked around, and left. I swear that's a true story!

 

[dizzi]

this is why i tell people they need to plan..............

may be you could introduce her to the boards or a quick trip on the DCL

but maybe she just needs to go.

 

[ludari]

I would take her again just to confirm her feelings about WDW. If she is still not interested in things Disney you need to asks yourself is this something you can live with but still enjoy going alone. I have friends that I enjoy hanging around that want nothing to do with Disney which is fine with me. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[harding0010]

Dump, life is to short to be involved with someone that does not like the same vacations as you.

 

[NJDiva]

everyone on here will be the first ones to tell you that Disney is the most awesome place and can never really truly understand someone would NEVER want to go. while my first reaction was just like everyone on here (dump her) ask her this....what is it about Disney she isn't willing to do? does she not like the crowds, long lines, the food, the rides....what is it? second, if she is so into you, why is she so unwilling to see something through your eyes? maybe the people she went with didn't know how to do Disney right (let's face it, we all think we know how to do it right!) and finally, how would she react if you went on this vacation without her. if she can't give you honest answers for any of these questions including how she would react if you went alone THEN I say she's got to be ditched.
I agree, if you were asking her to go bungee jumping I can see her being hesitant, but it's a freaking amusement park (ok the ultimate park, but still) it's not a suicide mission. and to me, someone that doesn't want share something that is special to you doesn't really deserve to go to the happiest place on earth....

 

[roxysmum123]

If someone not liking my fave vacation destination is enough of a reason for me to think about breaking up with them, chances are I'm prob not that into them to begin with.

 

[carrie1626]

DUMP

reading other posts on these boards about couples enjoying their WDW vacations pains me. I didn't realize when I met my husband how freaking important going to WDW was going to be, and now I have to plan all my trips without him (bummer).

I will never give up DISNEY for anything

 

[Margie J]

Working with her is reason enough to dump her. On top of that she's not into Disney. Dump but do it carefully.

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

I would say break up now.

Dating people you work with is hard and it sounds like she might not be the one for you if she's not interested in a vacation to the place you really enjoy.

 

[zianha]

I don't know how serious your relationship is but when I ended my 5 yr relationship with my DBF, I cited one of the problems as being the fact that I couldn't vacation with him because he "doesn't do WDW" anymore. It's like another poster said, he wasn't willing to do things I like (not just going to WDW) and I wasn't willing to stop doing what I like and only do what he liked.

I guess it depends if you think you 2 can still be happy with not doing things together like vacation.... Neither of you should do something the other wants if it's going to make either of you unhappy. If that makes any sense!

 

[Margie J]

I would say break up now.

Dating people you work with is hard and it sounds like she might not be the one for you if she's not interested in a vacation to the place you really enjoy.

Exactly! Her being a coworker is a bigger potential problem. If you continue the relationship and then break up it will be even more awkward for both of you and even other coworkers.

 

[rafiki14]

If she's that into you, she'll go on AT LEAST one WDW trip with you. She'll give it a try and try and see it your way.

If she's not willing to give it a shot, then maybe it's time to reconsider.

Good luck! Don't dump her on assumption.... maybe she'll surprise you?

 

[DFD]

I've recently been seeing a girl from work who absolutely has no interest in ever visiting WDW... I was a die-hard fan before my divorce. Now I feel like I can never go back and enjoy myself. What does everyone think about this? Is it fair to her by giving up a vacation that gives me so much pleasure? And finally, if I could get her to go, it'd be only once, and I don't think she'd fall in love with the place.

this really depends on how much you want to make it work...

a. you need to really sit down with her as early as now and explain this passion of yours about WDW or any other thing you enjoy that she might not want to do.

b. if you already have invested time and emotions... how willing are both of you to compromise.... eventually... couples do stuff separately also.. like if she want to have a girl week and you can have your Disney vacation... if this is something you both can handle then its an option that need to be dissected.

c. or if there's nothing much invested... cut your losses as early now..

Whatever you decide... I hope it is something that will bring you joy and comfort not just today but also tomorrow...

Goodluck!

 

[JMR859]

Thank you to everyone who responded. I appreciate everyone's sincerity. It's nice to be part of a group that looks out for each others well being. I have decided to " nip things in the bud " and end things...

 

[NJDiva]

Thank you to everyone who responded. I appreciate everyone's sincerity. It's nice to be part of a group that looks out for each others well being. I have decided to " nip things in the bud " and end things...

good luck! hopefully your work environment will not suffer too much. and just know you have an entire group of people right here that would be more than happy to hang with you when you decide to go!

 

[JennMouse32]

i gotta go with dump..

my new boyfriend is already excited over our trip in 2013..he had never been. He is coming over friday to watch the vacation planning dvd with me to start planning