To adopt a dog or not??? UPDATE!

kkwis2

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Hi, I'm Kim and I'm a Disboards-and-Dis-Unplugged-podcast-aholic. I love them both and can't give them up.

But that's another story. I tend to spend most of my time on the Budget and Camping at Disney Boards, but I'm posting here because I know so many of you (both podcast members and listeners) are animal lovers. Here's the question: Should we adopt another dog or not? I'm having a real heart vs. head dilemma.

A quick background: We had 3 dogs - 2 springers and a yellow lab. One springer was going on 16 (we got her one week after we got married) when we had to put her down last spring. Our lab, Lanie, was just 4 when we had to put her down last fall (a year ago next week) because of kidney failure. She had joined our family two years earlier after she was abandoned by her owners. She was simply the best dog - great with the kids, gentle but playful, smiled and wagged her whole body every time we came home. We all loved her, and it was a really difficult loss. We now have Lexi, our going-on-5 yr old springer. She's a good girl, but she doesn't really have a connection with our kids. She's good with them, she just doesn't really care about them. Since the other 2 dogs have died I have said that Lexi is going to be our last dog. I'm tired of being tied down by a dog - we can't go out at night since she's been kenneled all day, we have to find a dog/house sitter for trips, even short weekend trips, etc. It's a sacrifice you make for your pet(s), I just don't to have to make it anymore (well, after Lexi passes in another 10 yrs.)

So, last Saturday there was an article in our paper about an animal hoarder from whom 34 dogs were taken, yorkies, min pins and dachshunds. I was dumb and went to the animal shelter to see them. I've fallen in love (there goes my heart!) with an 8 month old min pin mix. She's beautiful and calm and just wanted to sit in my lap while I was there today. Of course, behavior can change when a dog gets more comfortable a home, but she is very sweet. My kids (8 and 10, especially the 10 yr old!) would love to have another dog who loves them like Lanie did. Again, of course there are no guarantees that she'll like kids (there's my head talking).

So animal lovers, what would you do? Should I stick with my original plan of no more dogs or should we add a little love to our family?

TIA for reading this post and for letting me know what you think.
 
I'd add another dog. Maybe your Springer will LOVE the new addition and calm down so you wont have to kennel. They are work, but they give SOOOO MUCH LOVe back, that in my opinion, they are completely worth all the "trouble" they can be. They enrich our lives beyond measure! I have a min-pin and he is AWESOME!! Totally loves everybody!

Here is picture of my Cole!

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The one we're looking at looks like so much like yours, but with a cropped tail. But the coloring is very similar and those great big ears! Thanks for including a picture. I know all dogs are different, but it's nice to hear that your min-pin is a people lover.
 
I am all for opening up your house to a dog - especially a rescue. And your Lexi might just like having some companionship. My suggestion is the first make sure that this dog is not in poor health. Since he/she was in a house with dozens of dogs, there could be some issues there. But once you are comfortable with the dog's health, introduce everyone to the possible new pet and see how it goes. Give it a good hour together to see if the dog is good with everyone, including Lexi. But make it very clear to your kids that this is just a TEST to manage their expectations.

As for having to find pet sitters when you go away, I agree that is a definite downside to having dogs. However, since Lexi is only just 5, you have several years left to be needing pet sitting - so what's the difference between one and two dogs?
 

Since you're already tied down by owning one dog, why not help another dog while you're at it, especially one who seems so sweet? It's a big responsibility and you're smart to look at the pros and cons.
We adopted a dog 2 years ago (already had 1 dog) and, although it hasn't been perfect, I've never regretted it. These animals need homes. Can you take your dog to the shelter to meet this new dog? Make sure one is submissive to the other ;) (both our dogs are females and, although a bit rocky at first, are now the best of friends :love: )
Good luck!
 
We've had 3 female dogs at one time, so we definitely understand female dog dynamics. Lexi is absolutely an alpha. Thankfully, the shelter actually requires us to take Lexi there to meet any dog that we want to adopt. I completely agree with this policy, but I know that just because they get along there doesn't mean that everything will be fine at home. And Lexi gets REALLY worked up around a bunch of other dogs (she came from a rescue, too, so I think it makes her nervous), so I'm worried about that.

I would love it if Lexi and Jewel (the shelter name for her) were to get along. I think Lexi misses having her buddy Lanie around, though my mom thinks Lexi likes being an "only" dog.
 
I just wanted to say :welcome: to our forum and I hope you find peace in whatever decision you make! Adopting a new dog is a big decision. I know you'll find great advice here! :thumbsup2
 
I used to think I wanted a break from having dogs too. When we lost our old girls this spring at first I really wanted to wait. But, it didn't work. I love dogs too much and so many out there need a family. Having more paws in the house again feels right :goodvibes
Let us know how you decide.
 
I just wanted to say :welcome: to our forum and I hope you find peace in whatever decision you make! Adopting a new dog is a big decision. I know you'll find great advice here! :thumbsup2

Thank you for the welcome, NikkiBell!

You all are right in saying that giving a dog a loving home is always a good thing. I keep picturing her now sitting in the kennel with the other dogs just hoping that someone will love her. Oh no, I'm pulling a Theresa tearing up just thinking about it. It kills me to see so many dogs at the shelter waiting for someone to take them home. So sad!
 
Maybe you can foster the dog first instead of making the commitment of adoption.


I love this idea, but I'm not sure that this shelter does any fostering. We have actually fostered several golden retrievers for a local golden rescue organization.
 
That is such a hard decision to make. We have two beagles, they are litter mates, that will be 11 years old in March. We have been saying that we will have no more dogs when these pass on. Our daughter was just starting kindergarten when we brought them home at 10 weeks old and she is now a Sophomore in High School. I hate to kennel them when we leave town and like you, if we aren't home they are crated in the house. It limits how long we can be gone from the house, etc. In the back of my mind I do ask myself if I can seriously go without a dog when these are gone? I don't know. So I think I would be torn like you. But if you really like the dog maybe it's worth it?

Good luck with whatever you decide. Oh and let us know!
 
In the back of my mind I do ask myself if I can seriously go without a dog when these are gone? I don't know.

I have never been without a dog from the time I was about 5 yrs old. It's easy to say that that's what I want, but reality is so much more difficult!
 
I love having two dogs. We were a one dog family four years after our older dog passed and our lab who was left seemed less active and a little "down". We added a puppy a year ago last July and the two dogs adore each other! Our older dog is so much happier and more active. If the two dogs get along and you can afford it I would go for it!
 
Dogs are a big responsibility and I agree, it's hard to go on trips....with that said, I have 3 in my house...2 are mine Shih Tzu (mother and son) and the other is my DD dog, a staffordshire terrior.....they all get along and I love them dearly. My female, is already past her normal life expectancy and I'm dreading the day that she passes...I fear that my boy will be heartbroken and start failing....I'm considering adopting another dog soon so that he will have someone after she is gone....not that I want another dog, but I feel it might be best.

I like having more than 1 dog because it gives them a pal to play with. Good Luck on your decision.....oh, my vote would be to adopt !!!
 
My female, is already past her normal life expectancy and I'm dreading the day that she passes...I fear that my boy will be heartbroken and start failing....I'm considering adopting another dog soon so that he will have someone after she is gone....

This is why we got our current dog, Lexi, 4 years ago. Samantha was already 12 and showing her age so we thought we'd get Lexi at that point so it would be an easier transition for our kids (and us!). Little did we know that Lanie would come along a year later.

Thanks for your vote!
 
I used to think I wanted a break from having dogs too. When we lost our old girls this spring at first I really wanted to wait. But, it didn't work. I love dogs too much and so many out there need a family. Having more paws in the house again feels right :goodvibes
Let us know how you decide.

My baby girl (my avatar) died suddenly on 9/1. I said I would probably wait until December to get another dog...then that became November or December. Then I found the website of a breed rescue in Houston, and I brought home TWO 18 month old brothers on 10/8. Yes, it would have been nice to not be responsible for a dog for a while but I just couldn't say no. I can't imagine life without dogs.

OP, what does your family say about adding another dog?
 
I was in a similar situation. We had to put down our Chow, Allie at 6 years old due to cancer. My golden retrieiver, Harley was so lonley as we were we. She would walk the house and cry for her playmate. We adopted her current best buddie, Molly as a rescue. She was three months old and the two are attached at the hip. They are so a joy in my life. We say at times, we are not sure who saved who. She has kept Harley young and is a ball on energy. She just had her fourth birthday and is still all puppy.

My sister has also had good luck with shelters. She has a Begian Frescs that is spoiled by all four of her children.
 












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