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[JennMouse32]

I love thunderstorms. When we have one, I sit by our big front windows and watch. Earthquakes terrify me. There is just never any warning. At least with most other natural disasters, you get some kind of warning. I can deal if I have some time to prepare.

I didn't say anything to him yet. That's why I asked how everyone is doing at the end of the last email. I wanted to get an idea of what is going on. Now I just have to figure out what to do next.

i love them too, just so relaxing for me, they tend to help me sleep lol its why ive been sleeping so much this weekend..

maybe you should talk to him about it, call him and tell him how you feel.. maybe he doesnt even realize..

 

[JOCAmom]

We haven't had very many thunderstorms yet this year. We did have a thunder snowstorm and that was pretty interesting.

Thanks Jenn. I'll have to give it some thought. As outspoken as I tend to be sometimes, when it comes to my family, I tread softly. They hold grudges and live by deny, deny, deny when it comes to problems.

 

[JennMouse32]

We haven't had very many thunderstorms yet this year. We did have a thunder snowstorm and that was pretty interesting.

Thanks Jenn. I'll have to give it some thought. As outspoken as I tend to be sometimes, when it comes to my family, I tread softly. They hold grudges and live by deny, deny, deny when it comes to problems.

your welcome, my family holds grudges too.. well my aunts and uncles do.. my immediate family doesnt, excluding my stepdad, which entirely different story..

hopefully it works out for you and your father

 

[mariezp]

Jo, family relationships can be so complicated! I think sometimes it is easier to do denial than risk rejection. Weird how no matter how mad a family member makes you all you really still want is for them to be a functional part of your life. I've got one of those love/hate relationships with my sister. I've never found a solution for mine. If you ever figure it out be sure to let me know!

 

[JennMouse32]

Jo, family relationships can be so complicated! I think sometimes it is easier to do denial than risk rejection. Weird how no matter how mad a family member makes you all you really still want is for them to be a functional part of your life. I've got one of those love/hate relationships with my sister. I've never found a solution for mine. If you ever figure it out be sure to let me know!

thats how i am with my stepdad, and have yet to figure something out.. im hoping to move to FL sometime and not have to deal with him, i only put up with him for my mom.

 

[mariezp]

Jenn, I think lots of people end up just putting up with their step parents. My step dad was a little strange but he was good to my mother so that had to count for something.

 

[JennMouse32]

Jenn, I think lots of people end up just putting up with their step parents. My step dad was a little strange but he was good to my mother so that had to count for something.

my stepdad is beyond strange.. literally.. and has mood swings



if my dad marries his girlfriend, Chris. I will be happy she is wonderful. I really like her and get along well with her, im actaully going to spend the weekend with them in 2 weeks, me and her and going shopping for my disney clothes..

 

[D&DDisney]

Jo, family relationships can be so complicated! I think sometimes it is easier to do denial than risk rejection. Weird how no matter how mad a family member makes you all you really still want is for them to be a functional part of your life. I've got one of those love/hate relationships with my sister. I've never found a solution for mine. If you ever figure it out be sure to let me know!

Same here. I just try so hard to be civil when I get together with mine.

 

[mariezp]

Jenn, glad you will be at least be getting a good step mom.

Deb, somehow I had a feeling we might hear from you when the subject of dysfunctional families came up. Hey, at least you still get together with your family. I only have one sister. No parents left. You would think that would draw us closer together but heck no. I don't have to worry about being civil cause I don't even see her unless I make the effort.

 

[JennMouse32]

Jenn, glad you will be at least be getting a good step mom.

Deb, somehow I had a feeling we might hear from you when the subject of dysfunctional families came up. Hey, at least you still get together with your family. I only have one sister. No parents left. You would think that would draw us closer together but heck no. I don't have to worry about being civil cause I don't even see her unless I make the effort.

yeah shes awesome, i remember the first time i met chris, we teamed up againest dad for putt putt.. we beat him.. hehe

i dont have any blood siblings, just steps and hosts..

 

[JOCAmom]

Thanks Marie. Family is nothing but a complicated mess. I try to go with the flow but it doesn't always work that way. I remember you posting about your sister. I had hoped that you had been able to forge a relationship with her. I"m sorry it has all fallen on you to keep those ties intact.

D&D, I still think we should take both our families and ship them off to a deserted island somewhere.

Jenn, I'm so glad your dad is marrying someone that you like. It certainly helps a lot in the family dynamics.

 

[JennMouse32]

Thanks Marie. Family is nothing but a complicated mess. I try to go with the flow but it doesn't always work that way. I remember you posting about your sister. I had hoped that you had been able to forge a relationship with her. I"m sorry it has all fallen on you to keep those ties intact.

D&D, I still think we should take both our families and ship them off to a deserted island somewhere.

Jenn, I'm so glad your dad is marrying someone that you like. It certainly helps a lot in the family dynamics.

yeah it makes things a bit easier.. now only if mom would smarten up.. hehe

 

[JOCAmom]

So what's up with your stepdad?

My parents divorce after almost 30 years of marriage. It was a complete shock at the time even though I knew deep down inside that they should have done it years ago. My mom has not remarried but has had a boyfriend for years. My dad got remarried almost 2 years ago.

 

[JennMouse32]

Thanks Marie. Family is nothing but a complicated mess. I try to go with the flow but it doesn't always work that way. I remember you posting about your sister. I had hoped that you had been able to forge a relationship with her. I"m sorry it has all fallen on you to keep those ties intact.

D&D, I still think we should take both our families and ship them off to a deserted island somewhere.

Jenn, I'm so glad your dad is marrying someone that you like. It certainly helps a lot in the family dynamics.

yeah it makes things a bit easier.. now only if mom would smarten up.. hehe

 

[JennMouse32]

So what's up with your stepdad?

My parents divorce after almost 30 years of marriage. It was a complete shock at the time even though I knew deep down inside that they should have done it years ago. My mom has not remarried but has had a boyfriend for years. My dad got remarried almost 2 years ago.

my stepdad has mood swings for one, one mintue he will be fine and calm and everything next thing we know he is slamming doors and not talking to anyone..and that will go on for days


he will freak out and start yelling about small little things. like if i forget to put a dish away once, or when i put it away it has a spot of water on it..

he will not stop teasing me, though i have asked him and told him a thousand times that it does bother me, and some of the things he says does hurt..

 

[JOCAmom]

That's rough. Words can hurt worse than anything else. Sometimes people just don't realize it and that is so sad. How long have they been together?

I talk about my 4 kids but DS is actually DH's from a previous relationship. We have all kinds of problems with him but he is and always will be mine too.

 

[JennMouse32]

That's rough. Words can hurt worse than anything else. Sometimes people just don't realize it and that is so sad. How long have they been together?

I talk about my 4 kids but DS is actually DH's from a previous relationship. We have all kinds of problems with him but he is and always will be mine too.

yeah they can and do very much so.. Im not really sure, a while.. i dont really keep track of it.. ive never quite gotten along with him.


For whatever reason stepchildren tend to cause problems. Whatever reason it maybe , they do it on purpose, or they are unhappy, or whatever reason... i was lucky though, two of my best friends had gone through the divorce things right before i did, they were my two best friends growing up, so we were all very close, and we all helped each other through it..

oh yeah he says he thinks of me as his too, but i find it funny that im the first one to get the blame from him, when HIS son sits around the house all the time, eating all the food, not working, and not paying for anything...

 

[Mkgaapril]

hello my good people

 

[JOCAmom]

Yo Gina! What's shaking tonight?

Jenn, DS's mom has always babied him. That whole he could do no wrong type of thing. He stole a knife and took it to school and as a reward, she took him to get his ear pierced because he wanted it done. DH would lay down rules and she would just reward him for whatever he did wrong. Her most important thing is to be his friend and to be the cool parent. We just hope that one day down the line, DS will see what we did was for his own good.

 

[Mkgaapril]

hey, jo where did you go