Tired of the begging!

[TwirlerGirl]

OK, this is a rant, and I feel bad about it. I just need to vent. I am so tired of players asking me to give them items that it has taken the joy out of VMK. Yesterday put me over the top. I was in a very good mood and decided to gift a certain young player a few items to help decorate his room. Next his little brother ask me for a pin, he wanted my Lion pin. OK, to be fair, I gifted a Lion pin. This would have been fine but no now they were both looking for more gifts not only from me but others in the room. I reminded them that this was not polite to be begging gifts. Next I receive a messages from them looking for crates and tables so I decided to call it a day and signed off. I had had enough.

Today, when I signed on to VMK there was another message about items they wanted. Easy, I just deleted the message, deciding I would just ignore the situation, go earn my daily credits. I went to my new room to decorate it where the little brother found me and wanted another pin. I try to be polite, eventually warned that if they ask again, I would remove their names from my list. That worked and evoked an apology. In addition, I have had a third player following me around VMK and begging items. Now I'm being very blunt to all of them. "Sorry, NO more gifts".

I really dislike being upset about this. Am I completely crazy to let this bother me?

 

[Adventuredaz]

I was feeling generous the other day as well. I had an (apparently) young player that in the past joined my friend’s list because I helped him get his Pirates pins and Magic. I have not been particular about people getting on my list I guess I should be. Anyway the player was doing a game and requested some crates and a chair if I could give it. I think he has seen my storage room but being nice I gifted these items. I have been letting my dd6 play and was letting her play and he added her to his list. The interesting thing is the next day my dd6 apparently bugged the mess out of him by repeatedly appearing wherever he went he begged something from her and she said know but told him where he could buy it. He did buy it but removed both of us from his friends list. So People that bother people may not know when they are bothering people but they do know when they’re being bothered. I thought about sending her after everyone that bothers me.

 

[disvaclub92]

No you are not crazy to let this bother you. I have been there before. I gave a gift and then was hounded for more. Guess what?? They did not get anything.

I love the expression and the kind words when I gift, but now I am more selective in my gift giving. Giving a gift is one thing, begging is another and I will not tolerate begging. I also love to get people who are away on vacation stuff that they might miss on a sale. I do not expect anything in return, I am glad to help someone out.

To those who have received and not given, do on to others as they have done for you. Pay it forward. That is what make Dis people great.

Sorry to hear about that Twirler Girl.

 

[mewmewpwr]

i no how you feel one of my friends Friend and she really liked him so i had a trade sale right
he asked for every thing in the room For FREE and i said sure ok cause i didn't want her to be sad so later on i have nothing
she got mad at him and made him give me all my stuff back instead of my stuff he gave me cheap stuff!
and i get ppl beggin for my stuff all the time and now when ppl say im poor can you give i just say go play some games

 

[lovethattink]

I'm more tired of the lack of thankfulness when I gift or trading the gift, than the begging. And trust me, I've growing very tired of the constant begging.

 

[Goofy05]

Are you crazy? No! I have had this happen numerous times to me, as well. I'm beginning to think the begging is coming from "mules". It did seem to start all of a sudden.
I don't mind gifting things to people, actually I used to really enjoy it! I'd find a bench in the Castle Forecourt and gift things at random. Most were very appreciative, but just recently, people have gotten VERY picky! Telling me they already have that, but they'll take my princess hat. What? When did it become okay to tell the gifter what items they should be gifting?
I usually go off on my little spiel about playing games for credits like I had to do to get the things I have. And how good it makes you feel to know you earned these things without begging for them. Sometimes it works, sometimes not.

 

[BriarRosie]

It's getting to be a major nuisance. If a player sees you wearing a pin or
hat they want, they'll send a trade request. I think all of us have gotten
hit with unsolicited trade requests like that.

I just automatically ignore those. I've also had people beg me for stuff,
and those people automatically get nothing from me. But I've come
across people who I know try to earn their stuff but can't, for whatever
reason, and those are the people I'll gift.

When I was on VMK the other day, a community leader I've seen (but don't
have on my friends' list) was putting together her holiday room, but she
was a crate short. I gifted her a crate because she asked the room if
anyone would trade her a crate. I gifted it, mainly because one crate
isn't going to break me. (I probably would have given her a couple more
if she needed them.)

The point is, I've had to put people on ignore to block trades (and room
chatter), and it's sad how aggressive these people are.

I've told people how they can earn credits to buy their own stuff, but
they are too selfish to care.

 

[Jackoman]

Something that REALLY makes me MAD is when people ask for my space suit! I usually say "No,I was gifted that" and then they say "plz plz i'm really poor" but I think,yeah right,I bet your not! I also hate it when I get asked to give away free stuff! What is with these people just go make some mules,OMG!

 

[iluvcountry]

Whenever I feel in a gifting mood, here is what happens. "I already have that."

Here is what I feel like. "Take the dang thing already, it's free, you can always sell it, just take it! I mean come on!"

This is really really idiotic. Not only the begging, but the pickiness too.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Yes. It does get very annoying.

I get people that just walk into my room(s) and start begging me for free things. I tell them that I have most of my things because I play the games and have "clones". They just ignore me and keep on begging. I just tell them no.

I also get trade requests from people while randomly walking around or touring rooms. And I'll ask them what they're wanting. They just say "anything"! It's like, just give me anything for free. Although some are very picky too.

I don't give to beggers. I give when I want and to whom I want.

 

[Wendot]

I always tell beggars that they could be playing games and making loads of credits if they weren't wasting time going room to room begging.

 

[LisaInNc]

If someone asks for something for free it is an automatic no. I gift when I want to not when I am asked to by people I don't know.

I am like that in real life too. I have a rule with my DD. If she asks for something in a store and I give her a maybe or non definate answer, if the asks for it again it is an automatic no. That stops all of the I wants that kids are so prone to. I hope that I am raising her to have enough respect not to think she is entitled to things and not to ask for anything. When I see these people in the games doing it I wonder what they have been taught.

What has shocked me is I seem to get more of them during the day when I assume it is more adults than children playing. That really worrys me!

 

[Iris]

I have made the mistake of giving items out to people only to have them hound me all the time.

One of them, I was the one that initiated the gift because I wanted to. The next thing I know they follow me around for more stuff. I hadn't seen that person around and when I finally saw him last weekend, he said I didn't act like his friend (probably because I hadn't given him anything lately).

The other was another boy who I gave a fireworks magic to. Then he wanted teleportation and then my stuff. I kept saying no thanks. He would try to trade but offered nothing that I needed. Kept saying no thanks. I finally took him off my list and guess what? He found me about two weeks later in a room. How you wonder? He was also on the other boy's list who had been hounding me too. Geez.

 

[AaronandJessica]

I'm more tired of the lack of thankfulness when I gift or trading the gift, than the begging. And trust me, I've growing very tired of the constant begging.

AMEN!!
I am also sick of people who say oh I will trade and then you offer things they asked for then they try and take their item down so you just give it to them!

BUT I STILL <3 VMK!
Jessica

 

[TwirlerGirl]

There are a large number of Home School kids on during the day. I found out from one of the kids. They talk with one another and pass information.

 

[TwirlerGirl]

I received a very nice apology in writing from one of the beggers. I must say it has restored my faith in the player. I guess sometimes the young one don't realize that they have crossed the line. Apology accepted.

 

[GuestRiku]

I received a very nice apology in writing from one of the beggers. I must say it has restored my faith in the player. I guess sometimes the young one don't realize that they have crossed the line. Apology accepted.

Well at least that shows some people are sorry for what they have done and the rudeness given off by them, one is not enough though LOL if there were more people apoligizing like that individual we would not have this problem at all.

 

[disvaclub92]

I received a very nice apology in writing from one of the beggers. I must say it has restored my faith in the player. I guess sometimes the young one don't realize that they have crossed the line. Apology accepted.

I am really glad that you received that.

 

[lovethattink]

Yesterday was crazy with the trade window popping up. The ppl didn't want to trade, they wanted me to give them stuff. It gets frustrating. I play haunted mansion to get the credits to buy stuff. It irks me that when I suggest this to them, they say no. I've even offered to play it with them. I'm tired of beggars. Even worse, are those who I have given free stuff to, who turn around another day and ask if they can upgrade their present. Gr.

 

[wdwr]

I just don't understand this. It seems the new idea is that if you play on VMK you are entitled to free stuff from everybody.

Is this new in the signup sheet? Should I be reading the fine print the next time I make a mule.

I could see in the past asking for stuff but now with the 8, count them 8, NPCs out there...you can have over 1000 credits in 7 days. Add that to playing the haunted mansion...there is NO EXCUSE for players saying they have no credits to buy stuff. (even if you only have the one character)

In a few days I got wdwr from 3,000 to 10,000 credits by playing Ghosts. And I lose most of the time. I just got my 10th win message yesterday.

Ok, my rant is over now too. Thanks for the venting thread

wdwr