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[racetrack18kb]

What was he thinking? Or actually, was he thinking at all? I can't believe he said all that stuff. Not only should your DD be admired for what she was doing but also for the healthy choices she is making for herself. How often do we hear of children being overweight and making poor choices when it comes to food? And here's your DD showing a what good head she has on her shoulders and being scrutinized undeservingly (sp).

You just bring those claws out and set them straight. I would be doing the exact same thing...you just don't mess with one of my babies.

Please give your DD a big hug from me. She sounds like a wonderful young lady. And tell her that her friends will know the truth and those who gossip will only being showing their ignorance of the facts.

 

[Bopsmom]

I am sorry that her trip was not what she expected. Give her one from me too.

We try to teach our children to eat right and she was doing just that.

Did the Youth Pastor just have a seminar regarding eating disorders? Sometimes you give a person a "hammer" and everything is a nail!
Pardon me while I get on my soapbox.........

Before your DH calls, please have your doctor(s) fax a letter to the Sr. Pastor stating that your daughter suffered from food poisioning and not an ED.
They, pastors, do have to be concerned(and report) when they suspect there is a ED(teachers do too)please don't leave yourself open in this regard. Your doctor will confirm your side and that your daughter is under "his" supervision.
Then demand that the Youth pastor make a formal appology in writing to your daughter and in front of the others that were present. If he won't then he really doesn't understand how the " rumor network" works for teens and needs to be trained not to jump to conclusions.
His behavior is also a betrayal, if a child did have a ED would they want to talk with him now knowing he'd broadcast the information to everyone?

Don't worry about your claws girl! Your daughter is counting on you to protect her-that's why she told you in the first place. If this was a situation she could handle on her own she would have. I would also make a few well-placed calles to the "parents" and inform them what you are planning to do regarding this "rumor". Thank them for their concern, of course, but tell them there is nothing to this situation, other than someone jumping to conclusions.
....I'll step down now.

 

[Shmu]

I don't blame you for having your "claws" out. I would have been very upset too! I think what would have bothered me the most, and let me see if I can type this out the way I have it in my head, is this person is associated with a group that is christian and should know better then to put a label on your DD that could potentially have a bad affect on her. I know this person is a human being and is not perfect but you expect a little more from them. Does that make any sense. I think you and DH are doing the right thing by contacting them right away.

What was he thinking? Or actually, was he thinking at all? I can't believe he said all that stuff. Not only should your DD be admired for what she was doing but also for the healthy choices she is making for herself. How often do we hear of children being overweight and making poor choices when it comes to food? And here's your DD showing a what good head she has on her shoulders and being scrutinized undeservingly (sp).

You just bring those claws out and set them straight. I would be doing the exact same thing...you just don't mess with one of my babies.

Please give your DD a big hug from me. She sounds like a wonderful young lady. And tell her that her friends will know the truth and those who gossip will only being showing their ignorance of the facts.

Thank you both. I will relay message to DD.
I am feeling a little better.
We took action.
DH just sent a beautifully written email to both Pastors.
I am so glad he took action this evening.
I can sleep a little better.
We will see how they respond to the email. I'll keep you all posted.

Here is the thing DH and I came up with.
We always try to learn from situations put before us.
For one thing, we are SO proud of our DD for not falling apart on this trip.
She is one strong young lady. A very fighting spirit. (That comes from me by the way. )
DH and I are glad that our DD was the one. We can think of several girls that this would have devastated.
If this happened to us to prevent anything more devastating to happen in the future, so be it. We'll take on the battle.

Now, to lighten things up.
Anybody have a smiley that is surfing?
Would love to show it to my DS who will be surfing at Typhoon Lagoon.

 

[Shmu]

I am sorry that her trip was not what she expected. Give her one from me too.

We try to teach our children to eat right and she was doing just that.

Did the Youth Pastor just have a seminar regarding eating disorders? Sometimes you give a person a "hammer" and everything is a nail!
Pardon me while I get on my soapbox.........

Before your DH calls, please have your doctor(s) fax a letter to the Sr. Pastor stating that your daughter suffered from food poisioning and not an ED.
They, pastors, do have to be concerned(and report) when they suspect there is a ED(teachers do too)please don't leave yourself open in this regard. Your doctor will confirm your side and that your daughter is under "his" supervision.
Then demand that the Youth pastor make a formal appology in writing to your daughter and in front of the others that were present. If he won't then he really doesn't understand how the " rumor network" works for teens and needs to be trained not to jump to conclusions.
His behavior is also a betrayal, if a child did have a ED would they want to talk with him now knowing he'd broadcast the information to everyone?

Don't worry about your claws girl! Your daughter is counting on you to protect her-that's why she told you in the first place. If this was a situation she could handle on her own she would have. I would also make a few well-placed calles to the "parents" and inform them what you are planning to do regarding this "rumor". Thank them for their concern, of course, but tell them there is nothing to this situation, other than someone jumping to conclusions.
....I'll step down now.

We must have posted at the same time.
This is very good advice.
Thank you.
I am relaying this to DH.
Thanks so much for listening and offering support.

Out for the night.
Very sleepy now.
I'll keep everyone posted.

 

[Bopsmom]

Now, to lighten things up.
Anybody have a smiley that is surfing?
Would love to show it to my DS who will be surfing at Typhoon Lagoon.

Hey Duuuuude!

Gnarly!

 

[Disney.Dreamer]

I'm sorry to hear about that Shmu: I hope everything is ok today.

 

[Disney.Dreamer]

Good Monday Morning to you all!!
I hope everyone has a lovely day!!

 

[Pikester]

Good Morning Everyone!

Just lost the post I had typed out!

I'll stop back later when I have more time.

 

[MagiKitty]

Morning all!

Shmu, you have every right to be angry/upset with the pastor. He took his own assumptions and treated a situation very very badly. Instead of using this time to get to know your DD's "food issues" and assess them properly, he took a potentially damaging situation and inflamed it further. He betrayed whatever trust may have been bestowed upon him, and he made his personal agenda his priority rather than your DD. Your DD is amazing, I don't know if I would have handled the situation so gracefully. I think the pastor needs some sensitivity training and learn how to pay attention to both the parent and the kids in his care.

We got rained out of the concert last night. Saw all of the Doobie Brothers and some of Chicago before the skies opened and it just poured. I had umbrellas, but the wind and the lightning were enough to send me scurrying to the car. It was too bad, because until then, the music was amazing. Bethel Woods is really an amazing venue, so pretty and so clean. I hope to attend Donna Summer next weekend and Tony Bennett after that!

Nephew and I went and had coffee at the diner. We got to the heart of his own issues with the Evils. He's really angry, and I feel bad for him. This is his senior summer, he's supposed to be hanging out with his friends and going to parties. He feels that the Evils invited themselves and just have no regard for what their visit does to everyone else. I told him that his feelings are justified, but he's also making things more difficult for his parents. He wanted to stay with me last night, but I told him he should go home and at least try to spend some time with them. If its really too much, he can seek shelter with me.

Its just so bad when the situation affects so many people, especially kids. I just hope that everyone survives. My SIL looks terrible, just stressed out and tired. This is so not worth it. We're all counting down the days---only 7 more days of the Evil visit. Oh goodness.

Ok, really have to start my day. Just wanted to play catch up before I'm pages and pages behind again! Good day everyone and I'll talk to you later!

 

[D&DDisney]

He even got mad at her for wanting water in a restaurant instead of a Dr. Pepper.

My mother lion claws are coming out to protect my baby cub.

Your claw have every right to be out. How dumb not to listen to your warning ahead of time. I sure hope your DD is doing and feeling better now. It is so good of her to do this mission.

Do have to say though...on a lighter note...I think not ordering a Dr. Pepper in the south is considered sacraligious.

Morning all!


We got rained out of the concert last night. Saw all of the Doobie Brothers and some of Chicago before the skies opened and it just poured.

YOU MISSED THE BEST PART!!!! I think I saw a Chicago concert in the rain before. They must attrack moisture.


Hope everyone is doing well today. I haven't called the doctor yet but am still having pains on and off. So worried that I'll get a lecture for not coming in sooner, or they won't be able to get me in this week and next week we leave for camping, or worst of all...they will find something bad. I know how silly that may sound, but I am deathly terrified to find out. My good friend died at 35 of ovarian cancer and I have been scared of any pain ever since.

 

[Bopsmom]

Hope everyone is doing well today. I haven't called the doctor yet but am still having pains on and off. So worried that I'll get a lecture for not coming in sooner, or they won't be able to get me in this week and next week we leave for camping, or worst of all...they will find something bad. I know how silly that may sound, but I am deathly terrified to find out. My good friend died at 35 of ovarian cancer and I have been scared of any pain ever since.

Get your

to the doctor ASAP! before I come up there and take you there myself!
Who cares how long it has been.
It's probably been that long since the doc has been too. Flip him off after the lecture-if that makes you feel better-just go!
You are more important(to us and your family) than a "lecture" from some doctor. You are more important to your family than a dirty look or two from someone in a white coat!
You will be relieved to find out it might be nothing-or you will be armed to face whatever he says because you found out early or in time!
Sorry to be this way. I lost my DF(I was 19) because he didn't want to go to doctors. My DH sells cancer drugs and we know how important it is to get early treatment!
Go!!!!
outta
(hope i don't get in trouble for that smiley )

 

[MagiKitty]

D&D....I know its scary, but you need to get those fingers going and call and make an appointment to see the doctor. You have a family and you're utmost priority is to be there for them. You cannot risk your health for a little fear. Just suck it up and go to the doctor. Whatever we find out there will be more than you know (and imagine) right now. Go call now!

 

[Shmu]

Shmu, sorry you had a lousy day. Hope things are better tomorrow!

I had a great visit from family this afternoon--my favorite uncle who lives in FL was up with his GF (1st time I met her--I LOVE her!). Then DSis, and her girls, DBro, DMom and DDad. The kids played and went in the pooly, the old folks just sat and yakked. My uncles GF was telling us stories about him and we were just howling--it was so funny! Ordered in dinner, great food (Cheesecake Factory--didja know they have GREAT healthy salads?!?!) Just a really nice afternoon/evening. Tomorrow I'll be with my sister, and later my parents too, so it will be another pleasant day. Then I have to get my act in gear and start packing! PLUS, pack up DD's room, since when she's at camp, it's getting redone. PLUs, pack for camp! Gonna be a BUSY week!

I can't believe Tuesday is July. Where on earth did June go?

Thanks.
So glad you had a wonderful day.

Hey Duuuuude!

Gnarly!

LOVE them. Thank you. Can't wait to show DS.

I'm sorry to hear about that Shmu: I hope everything is ok today.

Thanks. And yes, it's better today.

Morning all!

Shmu, you have every right to be angry/upset with the pastor. He took his own assumptions and treated a situation very very badly. Instead of using this time to get to know your DD's "food issues" and assess them properly, he took a potentially damaging situation and inflamed it further. He betrayed whatever trust may have been bestowed upon him, and he made his personal agenda his priority rather than your DD. Your DD is amazing, I don't know if I would have handled the situation so gracefully. I think the pastor needs some sensitivity training and learn how to pay attention to both the parent and the kids in his care.

We got rained out of the concert last night. Saw all of the Doobie Brothers and some of Chicago before the skies opened and it just poured. I had umbrellas, but the wind and the lightning were enough to send me scurrying to the car. It was too bad, because until then, the music was amazing. Bethel Woods is really an amazing venue, so pretty and so clean. I hope to attend Donna Summer next weekend and Tony Bennett after that!

Nephew and I went and had coffee at the diner. We got to the heart of his own issues with the Evils. He's really angry, and I feel bad for him. This is his senior summer, he's supposed to be hanging out with his friends and going to parties. He feels that the Evils invited themselves and just have no regard for what their visit does to everyone else. I told him that his feelings are justified, but he's also making things more difficult for his parents. He wanted to stay with me last night, but I told him he should go home and at least try to spend some time with them. If its really too much, he can seek shelter with me.

Thanks for the support.
Sorry it rained.
So glad you can be there for your Nephew.

Your claw have every right to be out. How dumb not to listen to your warning ahead of time. I sure hope your DD is doing and feeling better now. It is so good of her to do this mission.

Do have to say though...on a lighter note...I think not ordering a Dr. Pepper in the south is considered sacraligious.

Thanks for the support.
That is so funny about the Dr. Pepper. My DH is actually a huge Dr. Pepper drinker. It's his coffee in the morning.
BTW, I agree with above posts. Please go call the doctor. WE CARE.





UPDATE

The Senior Pastor has contacted us and apologized. He apologized for jumping the gun and not contacting us first. He assured us he would put a stop immediately to any rumors that might be floating around. He was there but it was the Children's Pastor that started it all. Senior Pastor is going straight to him to discuss this to make sure it NEVER happens again.

We feel much better and DD is relieved.
She mentioned, "I'm glad it was me and not "so and so" (her best friend). This would have devastated her."

This better not happen again and I sure hope everyone learned their lesson.

 

[Pikester]

Your claw have every right to be out. How dumb not to listen to your warning ahead of time. I sure hope your DD is doing and feeling better now. It is so good of her to do this mission.

Do have to say though...on a lighter note...I think not ordering a Dr. Pepper in the south is considered sacraligious.



YOU MISSED THE BEST PART!!!! I think I saw a Chicago concert in the rain before. They must attrack moisture.


Hope everyone is doing well today. I haven't called the doctor yet but am still having pains on and off. So worried that I'll get a lecture for not coming in sooner, or they won't be able to get me in this week and next week we leave for camping, or worst of all...they will find something bad. I know how silly that may sound, but I am deathly terrified to find out. My good friend died at 35 of ovarian cancer and I have been scared of any pain ever since.

CALL THE DOCTOR NOW! Sorry for yelling but you need to do it!

Get your

to the doctor ASAP! before I come up there and take you there myself!
Who cares how long it has been.
It's probably been that long since the doc has been too. Flip him off after the lecture-if that makes you feel better-just go!
You are more important(to us and your family) than a "lecture" from some doctor. You are more important to your family than a dirty look or two from someone in a white coat!
You will be relieved to find out it might be nothing-or you will be armed to face whatever he says because you found out early or in time!
Sorry to be this way. I lost my DF(I was 19) because he didn't want to go to doctors. My DH sells cancer drugs and we know how important it is to get early treatment!
Go!!!!
outta
(hope i don't get in trouble for that smiley )

I love your butt!

Morning all!

Shmu, you have every right to be angry/upset with the pastor. He took his own assumptions and treated a situation very very badly. Instead of using this time to get to know your DD's "food issues" and assess them properly, he took a potentially damaging situation and inflamed it further. He betrayed whatever trust may have been bestowed upon him, and he made his personal agenda his priority rather than your DD. Your DD is amazing, I don't know if I would have handled the situation so gracefully. I think the pastor needs some sensitivity training and learn how to pay attention to both the parent and the kids in his care.

We got rained out of the concert last night. Saw all of the Doobie Brothers and some of Chicago before the skies opened and it just poured. I had umbrellas, but the wind and the lightning were enough to send me scurrying to the car. It was too bad, because until then, the music was amazing. Bethel Woods is really an amazing venue, so pretty and so clean. I hope to attend Donna Summer next weekend and Tony Bennett after that!

Nephew and I went and had coffee at the diner. We got to the heart of his own issues with the Evils. He's really angry, and I feel bad for him. This is his senior summer, he's supposed to be hanging out with his friends and going to parties. He feels that the Evils invited themselves and just have no regard for what their visit does to everyone else. I told him that his feelings are justified, but he's also making things more difficult for his parents. He wanted to stay with me last night, but I told him he should go home and at least try to spend some time with them. If its really too much, he can seek shelter with me.

Its just so bad when the situation affects so many people, especially kids. I just hope that everyone survives. My SIL looks terrible, just stressed out and tired. This is so not worth it. We're all counting down the days---only 7 more days of the Evil visit. Oh goodness.

Ok, really have to start my day. Just wanted to play catch up before I'm pages and pages behind again! Good day everyone and I'll talk to you later!

Sorry it rained on your show but it gave you the chance to have a one on one with your nephew. Don't you hate having to be the mature ones. We have someone in our family that everyone is always saying "Oh, that's just so and so. That's how he is." Boy, I wish I could act however I wanted. One of these days I'd like to tell him off but I won't for the sake of my grandmother.

Your claw have every right to be out. How dumb not to listen to your warning ahead of time. I sure hope your DD is doing and feeling better now. It is so good of her to do this mission.

Do have to say though...on a lighter note...I think not ordering a Dr. Pepper in the south is considered sacraligious.

Hello D&DDisney!

Thanks for the support.
That is so funny about the Dr. Pepper. My DH is actually a huge Dr. Pepper drinker. It's his coffee in the morning.
BTW, I agree with above posts. Please go call the doctor. WE CARE.

UPDATE

The Senior Pastor has contacted us and apologized. He apologized for jumping the gun and not contacting us first. He assured us he would put a stop immediately to any rumors that might be floating around. He was there but it was the Children's Pastor that started it all. Senior Pastor is going straight to him to discuss this to make sure it NEVER happens again.

We feel much better and DD is relieved.
She mentioned, "I'm glad it was me and not "so and so" (her best friend). This would have devastated her."

This better not happen again and I sure hope everyone learned their lesson.

Your daughter sounds like a remarkable young woman! Glad to hear that everything will be cleared up. Please continue to update us.

 

[D&DDisney]

I Called...I Called Got in for Thurs. Thanks for all your concern!

Good God!!!! Y'all are worse than my mother. Surprized no one gave me a shaking finger smilie. Although...that butt was really cute Bopsmom. I can picture you showing up in my driveway and hauling my butt all the way to the doc.

The good thing is the hospital did an ultrasound, blood work, etc. and it all came back normal. My guess it is probably the endometriosis I had years ago (before DS6 was born) That stuff can be nasty and grow in the darndest places. Doesn't show up on x-ray. Wasn't sure I'd ever get pregnant. But after multiple surgeries & meds and my older son's adoption, we did have luck. And I had 6 painfree years...until now.

I'll keep you updated.

Hey... is anyone else having computer problems? I have been getting the "blue screen of death" every time I try to shut down. Hope I didn't pick up any nasty viri (virus plural) around these boards.

 

[Bopsmom]

I Called...I Called Got in for Thurs. Thanks for all your concern!

Good God!!!! Y'all are worse than my mother. Surprized no one gave me a shaking finger smilie. Although...that butt was really cute Bopsmom. I can picture you showing up in my driveway and hauling my butt all the way to the doc.

The good thing is the hospital did an ultrasound, blood work, etc. and it all came back normal. My guess it is probably the endometriosis I had years ago (before DS6 was born) That stuff can be nasty and grow in the darndest places. Doesn't show up on x-ray. Wasn't sure I'd ever get pregnant. But after multiple surgeries & meds and my older son's adoption, we did have luck. And I had 6 painfree years...until now.

I'll keep you updated.

Hey... is anyone else having computer problems? I have been getting the "blue screen of death" every time I try to shut down. Hope I didn't pick up any nasty viri (virus plural) around these boards.

Some times a

works. Didn't wanna have to

 

[Bopsmom]

I love your butt!

Aw shucks!

I was worried that the email might make it look big.

 

[M&N]

I Called...I Called Got in for Thurs. Thanks for all your concern!

Good God!!!! Y'all are worse than my mother. Surprized no one gave me a shaking finger smilie. Although...that butt was really cute Bopsmom. I can picture you showing up in my driveway and hauling my butt all the way to the doc.

The good thing is the hospital did an ultrasound, blood work, etc. and it all came back normal. My guess it is probably the endometriosis I had years ago (before DS6 was born) That stuff can be nasty and grow in the darndest places. Doesn't show up on x-ray. Wasn't sure I'd ever get pregnant. But after multiple surgeries & meds and my older son's adoption, we did have luck. And I had 6 painfree years...until now.

I'll keep you updated.

Hey... is anyone else having computer problems? I have been getting the "blue screen of death" every time I try to shut down. Hope I didn't pick up any nasty viri (virus plural) around these boards.

I'm so glad I didn't have to yell at you too! I hate the dr because you have to get on the scale (insert scared smilie scale here) I think most hate dr but it's necessary to get us fixed. You know you have us here for you and we care!

I've gone from p84 to 95 in an hour...doesn't sound too fast but I tried. I cannot comment on everything but I do miss our late night chats. I'll be back later.
Lighttech---great smilies!!! We're rubbing off.
DisneyDreamer---hope you're still around.

We are a freindly group even though we are killers (of threads).

Bopsmom---loved your smilie song but I was so

when I could not post Fri am and be the first to answer. I felt like I lost out on the prize of spending the night in the castle. I'm working on another song later.

Disney54us---glad you had a positive way to close the school. I hope the parents are able to keep the bonds of friendship they made through elem school.

Shmu---WOW! We sure don't want anyone to go through what your DD did. It certainly does help us all remember NO ONE is perfect. I know there is a big concern about eating disorders but he should be dealing through you. There's definitely an apology owed here, not only to your family but everyone involved. I do not see the Christian love showing through his actions and unfortunately actions speak louder than words. (Maybe not a Bible chapter and verse that says thou shalt not humiliate a child but the do unto others certainly applies.) And you know I think this also reminds us not to follow humans but follow God.

I must sign off and watch NASCAR show. I missed the race and am not too thrilled with what I heard happened.

 

[Bopsmom]

Bopsmom---loved your smilie song but I was so

when I could not post Fri am and be the first to answer. I felt like I lost out on the prize of spending the night in the castle. I'm working on another song later.

Well this one is just for you

 

[Disney.Dreamer]

Evening all!!
My eye lids feel so heavy, my face is expanding and I have only eaten sugary foods today.

Hows everyone?