Thoughts about wedding rings not matching

[jmmastra]

Is anyone having a different type of metal wedding band than their DF? I wear white gold and my DF wears yellow gold. He wants us to have matching bands. But that is not going to happen. I have a white gold e-ring. We thought about two tone rings, but my grandmother passed away in March. She left no money and her e-ring and band had to be sold to help pay for the funeral. Well I bought the wedding band because I could not stand the thought of someone else wearing it. So her ring is now going to be my wedding band which DF is happy with. It is white gold with seven diamonds in it. Will it be terrible if he wears yellow gold? Does anyone have any suggestion? He will not wear diamonds.

on another note...how many registries do you have?

Thanks!

 

[DisneyDork712]

I think the important thing is that you are both going to be wearing them in the first place! I think that as long as you both like your rings, don't worry about if they match! Mine and my DH's don't match. Mine is white gold with diamonds, his is sterling silver and looks something like this , except thicker (and his only cost $2! No, I didn't leave off any zeros.) The reason for that is that I had read somewhere that one girl's husband lost his wedding band on their honeymoon because it fell off and he was not use to wearing one, so he didn't notice until it was too late. Sooo, we got this cheap-o silver one for DH to wear to get used to wearing a ring. Well, he likes the way it fits so much, that he decided to just keep it! Hmm.. So the point of my long story is that it doesn't matter if your rings match, the important thing is that you are husband and wife!!

Oh, and to answer your other question, we had like 3 or 4 registries.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

i honestly think its what you two want. Me and my DF have are going to have different metals. It's better that you each love your ring I think.

 

[Leash]

I don't think they have to match just as long as you two are happy with them. Mine is platinum and his is titanium. He work with his hands a lot so we wanted something that would hold up well and my ering was platinium so I wanted my two rings to match. As long as you are happy with your rings I don't think "tradition" matters.

 

[ely3857]

Mine is yellow gold with three diamonds in it and DH has a plain white gold band



Jodie

 

[DIsNeYSweEtHrTs]

My ring is platinum with diamonds and my DF's ring is titanium (he loves how tough it is). I don't think there's a problem with the rings not matching.

 

[jmmastra]

Thanks! I am going to have him read this thread!

 

[Janet2k]

Is anyone having a different type of metal wedding band than their DF?

Jmmastra, first off, condolences (and hugs). I’m sorry to hear of your loss.

In regards to rings, here’s my story…

I have been married for 22 years and have worn a myriad of rings on my ring finger. For my original wedding ceremony, I wore an old ring of my grandmother’s. She meant the world to me (she had died many years prior to my marriage) and wearing her ring was what I wanted to do.

Fast forward 20 years. For my FTW VR, I wore a simple eternity band. (Note: I put my grandmother’s ring in my bank’s safe deposit box years ago when I discovered that I had pretty much worn out the backside of it.)

I have worn many, many rings throughout 22 years of marriage, including two eternity bands that I’m presently wearing (at the same time) – one is topaz and the other is tanzanite. I like to change up my rings, even though I normally wear no other jewelry except for a wristwatch.

Does wearing a ring make me feel any more or any less married? Not really. I have been wearing a ring on my ring finger since high school – eons before I met my husband. I don’t equate a ring on a ring finger with being married (even though most people do).

As to my husband, I never purchased him a wedding band. He has been bandless for 22 years of marriage, and to top it off, his last name is different than mine. Most folks think we’ve been living in sin all this time (I kinda like that idea, especially since I'm an old married woman now).

As you can see, there are different strokes for different folks. You need to do what makes you happy and what makes your significant other happy. If you can’t agree upon what that is in regards to rings, then a compromise is in order. It will be the first of many as a married couple.

I wish you every happiness in the world (and I hope you resolve the ring issue soon).

 

[calanniebu]

add us to the list of mis-matched bands ... and a titanum band for my hubby. I'm a yellow gold girl - don't like the look of silver or platinum and hubby doesn't like yellow gold - so we pretty much knew we would have different bands. I have a 7 stone diamond and sapphire band (blue's my favorite color) and he has a brushed titanium band that was $9.99 gotta love ebay! We were actually one of three of my friends that have purchased bands from them and the are awesome. Don't pay the retail store prices for titanium!

Oh, and 3 registries here ... but we added one at the last minute when one of the stores discontinued a bunch of items in the color we wanted.

 

[luvsmickey]

Well, I can tell you...I've seen it all! I'm a jeweler. And don't worry, hardly anyone gets matching bands anymore! Like I tell my guests, the most important thing is, DO YOU LIKE IT? Cause it's you that has to look at your hand all the time! And, if you don't like it, you won't wear it! So, what's most important is that you like it and wear it! Good Luck!

 

[tmt martins]

As long as they are on thats all that matter .

I made DW buy me one with diamonds and rubies .I thought if it had that I wouldn't just set it down and forget it . I did lose it once but found it after backtracking where i was that day. It ended up at my camper that me and DD was cleaning that day and must have came off because of the soapy scrubbing I was doing.

 

[my4kids]

I just had to chime in because I have never heard of wedding bands matching. (I guess I have seen matching ones in jewlery ads, but I just thought it was to show the line of jewlery)

I have been married almost 13 years and I don't know any of my friends that have matching bands. Why would a guy want a ring that would be appealing to a girl? I'm wondering if this is a regional thing? I can tell you that is just not done in my city. You guys have to wear these the rest of your life, it is important you both wear something you feel fits your style and is not a fad, but something that will stand the test of time. 2-tone goes in and out of style. Just tell him to get gold. I can assure that not once in your entire marriage will anyone approach you both and ask to see both of your rings next to each other and judge if they match.

Your ring do not have to be cutie little matchy thingys to signify your bond. The ring itself be presested to each other signifies the bond. It doesn't matter what the ring is. ( and we all no that no ring will make a marriage a good one, you two will make the marriage good, so don't get hung up on that little stuff)

 

[happylalagirl]

My DF is going to be wearing a titanium-carbide ring with a brushed metal look. Mine is a very thin white gold with several small diamonds... he owns a tree business and needed to make sure that his ring wouldn't get caught and rip his finger off... (sorry, didn't mean to be gross...) I just wanted something simple and inexpensive. Actually his was only $200 and mine is the same. I have a friend who's husband lost his ring while snorkeling on their honeymoon... and my future brother-in-law lost his first wedding band with his first wife about 3 months after their wedding... so, spending a lot of money wasn't an option for us...

And matching isn't important to us. go with whatever makes you happy.

 

[jmmastra]

Thanks everyone, I agree. I think he might be coming around to it.

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

Although we haven't bought our wedding bands yet, to be honest I never even thought of us having matching wedding bands I definately want diamonds in mine and he won't wear diamonds, we both want white gold but that's about it. I never really thought that most people would like theirs to match, I think whatever you both like is fine enough!

 

[2trips06Mom]

As a woman married for 25 years (very happily also), I say wear the rings you both like and don't worry about them matching. My DH very seldom wears his wedding band (because of the electrical work he does, it was a risk to wear it) and I change bands / looks every 10 years or less - depending on my mood - yellow gold, platinum, white gold (I alternate know whatever goes with what I'm wearing). What matters is that you are committed to each!

Happy Wedding Day and good luck in your marriage!

 

[disprincessatheart]

I agree with everyone else. I have worked in jewelry stores on and off for the last 5 years, and almost no one buys truly matching bands. Some do prefer to have the same metal, but it's really a preference, not a requirement.

My e-ring has a matching band with 20 or so tiny diamonds, df wants just a pain brushed band. Both are white gold, but that has more to do with my training DF to stay away from all things yellow gold for me, so now he says he doesn't like it either.

 

[BrideToBe82]

I don't think that there is a problem with your rings not matching. As long as you both like your own ring- that is what matters. My band is platinum with diamonds all around it. My FI's ring will also be platinum but just plain comfort fit...the metals match but thats about it. He picked out his own ring.

We have registered at 3 places...we might add a 4th.

 

[Laurafoster]

i agree, although me an my future DH will have matching bands its something i certainly would not have been bothered about.

 

[JonetteA]

We don't have matching bands, I thought that that would bother me, but it doesnt really. My hubbie has green gold...he loved that look and I have my platinum matching band for my engagement ring. Trust me when I tell you, it won't bother you in the end. I agree it is the commitment that matters and not if they match or not.