This is ridiculous -- can anyone help?

[Rajah]

Of all the rotten timing.

My mom has *NEVER* gotten a Jury Duty summons in all her life. Never. In the past, she's always been willing to go, but my dad always got them. She's even been jealous of him getting to go at times.

Guess what she just got in the mail.

She's barely making it through each day. She is in NO kind of shape to do jury duty right now. Next year, yes, but it probably will take that full *year* for her to be in any kind of shape to do jury duty.

To whoever (God, fate, Murphy) is controlling all this garbage (including another piece of bad mail she got):
ENOUGH ALREADY! JUST LEAVE THE POOR WOMAN ALONE! Before you push her to do the same thing my dad did.

GEEZ!

According to the list of exemptions sent with a summons, she does *not* qualify for exempt on this one.

She's got a call in to the lawyer who's doing probate right now, but his office probly won't get back to her until tomorrow.

Any ideas or suggestions? Right now if she had to do jury duty every day for a week, she *physically* and *medically* and *mentally* and *emotionally* has absolutely *NO* chance of holding up to this right now.

 

[chager]

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but I don't. Other then calling and talking to someone. Maybe they will postpone her having to serve a few months considering the circumstances.I pray it all works out for her.

 

[JC2]

I'm sure she'll be able to get out of it. Try not to worry.

 

[Rajah]

What I'm most worried about is that things like this keep hitting her. Under normal circumstances, they're not a problem. But coming blow after blow after blow like this when she's in the mental state she's in now, it *REALLY* concerns me about her health.

Every time she just *barely* starts to climb back up and see that there is a light at the end of all of this, another blow comes in that knocks her down again.

I'm really concerned that all of this is going to push her, at best, into the hospital. And there's not really anything I can think of that I can really do to help her beyond what I'm doing.

 

[Carl]

She can probably get it postponed, but maybe the distraction would be good for her.

 

[Lachesis00]

what is the criteria for getting out of it? She couldn't get a doctors note? I always write an explanation down as to why I feel I can't do it (low platelets/seizure prone both are aggrevated by stress).

 

[helenabear]

Tammi... I was thinking along the same lines as Carl. I know they postpone jury duty, but maybe the distraction would be good. Try not to worry too much... the human body & mind can be amazingly strong when needed...

 

[Rajah]

With how she is now, no, that kind of distraction wouldn't be good for her. Another kind, like getting her to actually *do* some china painting again, or going out of town for a few days, or to a good light-hearted movie... those would be good. The jury duty at best would leave her tired, worried about the responsibility and angry, and at worst would send her into a total breakdown, depending on the case. If the case involved anything that reminded her of my dad or her current situation, there's a very *real* possibility that it would push her over the edge and into the hospital. And I'm *not* exaggerating, she's close to that right now. I'm worried about her, and her current state is *not* up to this.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Postponing jury duty is rarely a problem. Easy as pie...you just let them know that you are unavailable at this time. You won't be cancelling...just postponing your service.

Good luck.

 

[Beauty]

I agree, my mom got one right after my dad died and all she had to do was call and they excused her. I don't think she would even have to get a lawyer involved, just call and explain the circumstances. The lawyers want people on the jury who will listen and do what is "fair" they don't need someone who is emotionally not in a good way like your mom is right now.

Good luck Tammi!

 

[MinnieYC]

Even if they won't exempt her over the phone, maybe if you write a letter on her behalf, they would postpone her service. If that doesn't work, I'm sure they'll let her go when she goes to serve, especially if you or another family member are able to go with her.

I hope it all works out.

 

[Planogirl]

Is she seeing a doctor right now? A doctor can often help in cases like these.

 

[CEDmom]

I can imagine how this is the last thing your Mom needs right now. I realize every state is different but she should be able to easily postpone it. I was supposed to do jury duty last May and just called the courthouse and let them know it was in the middle of vacation. I was postponed until later this year. People have all kinds of reasons for not being able to serve the majority are probably much less compelling than your Mom's. This may even be something your DH or another family member could take care of for her.

 

[4nana]

Oh boy - what poor timing! Do not even worry about it honey. My JD notification came with a form to file if you could not attend. Just put the reason - medical, travel, personal, etc. and she will be excused. Meanwhile I hope things start looking up soon. If it doesn't, she may need to talk to a proffessional. She been through a horrible life change and it will take lots of time, faith, patience, support to get back on track. I know it worries you, but hang in there and let's pray it will come in time.

Keep the faith ^i^
~ Sandie

 

[TammyNC]

Tammi-

I'm sorry to hear that this has happened. I am sure that there should be a way to have her time just postponed. Letting them know that she won't mind given some time, just at this moment she's handling all she can. Keeping you all in my prayers.

 

[gshoemate]

I know in the past I received one and wrote to them and explained that I was a SAHM and did not have any type of daycare available and I was excused. I'm sure if they knew the circumstances they would have no problems excusing her.