Thermastate wars??

[cheermom1]

Ok first this is mean to be kinda light hearted --


anyone else have these wars in their house?? Dh wants it to be on 65 I would much prefer it to be on 80 LOL however I think a nice temp is about 72 - 74 ...soooo I set it at 73 ..dh will go behind me and set it at 65

I am already compromising here with 73...he does the same thing in the car instead of tuning it to a comfortable number he turns it off!! WHY is all I ask??? Why can't we just compromise???

anyone else have the same issue???

 

[clh2]

Oh my gosh yes...I could have written your post.

We are pretty close to being married 20 years...and if there is 1 single item that might have caused the need for marriage counseling - THIS IS THE ISSUE!!!

The one thing that has probably saved our marriage...a heated mattress pad. DH goes to be an hour or so before I do. He turns on the mattress pad. I generally turn it off when I go to bed. The bed is toasty warm when I go to sleep... and then cools off when I am already asleep. I know...I know...sounds odd, but it works for us!

The rest of the time, I bundle up, and he generally wears short sleeve shirts.

 

[cheermom1]

DH is MY heating pad - he hates it that I snuggle up to him to get warm, he can't sleep but I can't sleep if I'm too cold ...I don't know what to do?

I wear thermal P.j's too and have blanket on the couch at all times...

he just doesn't get that I AM cold...I tell him all the time just b/c you are not cold doesn't mean I'm not...I just want a compromise...

 

[abdmom]

DH and I had similar "numbers" as you and your DH. We settled on 69, which was cold for me and hot for him. Of course, there's nothing to say you can't turn it up when he's out of the house. Drink some hot liquids and take hot baths or showers.

 

[cheermom1]

DH and I had similar "numbers" as you and your DH. We settled on 69, which was cold for me and hot for him. Of course, there's nothing to say you can't turn it up when he's out of the house. Drink some hot liquids and take hot baths or showers.

I do but when you sit on the couch and shiver and don't want to get out of bed b/c it is too cold...I turn the heat up all the time

 

[Minnie]

I do but when you sit on the couch and shiver and don't want to get out of bed b/c it is too cold...I turn the heat up all the time

Heated throw

 

[cheermom1]

I do have to say that for Christmas dh got me the best present - a set of tinkerbell p.j's with a tink jacket that matched ..he said so that I could wear the jacket in the house before bed and take it off when I go to bed

 

[turkeymama]

Alright, we're the opposite. DH wants it warmer, I want it cooler, we settle and compromise on 68. And I really only allow it to be on that now because of DD's new hamster. DH sneaks in and turns up the temp when I'm not looking, I wake up sweaty and turn it back down. It's a constant battle. Here's the thing. He wants to walk around the house in shorts and a t-shirt while I'm dressed in yoga pants and a long sleeve t-shirt. Its easier for the cold person to add layers of clothing and I think it is unreasonable to expect to be able to wear shorts around the house when it is freezing outside.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I have this problem with the teacher in the classroom where I work (I'm an aide). She turns the thermostat up to 85 when she comes in. By the time the other aide and I get there, it's blazing hot. We discreetly turn it down but she keeps going back and turing it back up all the way. The aides are the ones running around after the kids (special ed preschoolers), getting them to stay in their seats, hoisting them up on the changing table, cleaning up messes, etc. I'm not saying the teacher doesn't work hard, but she doesn't do as much physical work as we do. We'd just like to be somewhere above 70 but well below 80!

 

[cheermom1]

I have this problem with the teacher in the classroom where I work (I'm an aide). She turns the thermostat up to 85 when she comes in. By the time the other aide and I get there, it's blazing hot. We discreetly turn it down but she keeps going back and turing it back up all the way. The aides are the ones running around after the kids (special ed preschoolers), getting them to stay in their seats, hoisting them up on the changing table, cleaning up messes, etc. I'm not saying the teacher doesn't work hard, but she doesn't do as much physical work as we do. We'd just like to be somewhere above 70 but well below 80!

85 with kids running around

ok I can see that but 60??? I'm with you somewhere above 70 is good ...I jsut wish dh would LEAVE it there ...

I think I'm compromising with that ...

 

[bicker]

Just wait... you'll get to a point where you'll want it at 50F. And I suspect you won't be in a mood to compromise, then!

 

[Carly_Roach]

I typically run hotter than DH so I like the temp to be a bit lower. It makes for some interesting "discussions" in the summertime. However, we both freeze in the winter because the heating bills would be way too high if we kept it at 72. For some reason it's cheaper to A/C this house instead of heat it.

Nowadays it never goes above 65 and is typically between 63-65. We're used to wearing sweaters and have a heated mattress cover. In our case, our preference doesn't run toward too hot or too cold; it runs toward having money and not having money.

 

[aprilgail2]

I like it cool- I would not be able to sleep if it was 70 in the house!!! WAY to warm!!! Its easier for the cold person to just add layers- the hot person can only take so much off! In the summer I keep the A/C at 60-62--the heat I will compromise and put at 64- (I would really like it at 62!) some really cold nights if everyone is really cold I will put it to 66 but drop it before going to sleep- can't sleep with it to warm!

 

[dopeysgirl01]

My DH and I have similar problems. We in in south FL where it's so hot. I like the house to be cool and can't sleep if it's too hot. He's forever raising the temp and I turn it back down. I tell him he can bundle up but there's not much I can do if I'm hot!

 

[supercarrie]

I am from Southern CA. Moving to the UK was a HUGE shock to my system, particularly the winters! I grew up in a home where we kept the temperature around 72F - DH's family liked to keep it around 60F!

I've learned to just bundle up and keep warm. Although when our gas bill arrives, there is always a complaint from DH about how my need for heating wastes so much money, etc. I've learned to ignore it.

 

[BabyTigger99]

Holy crap, I would MELT in most of your houses!! Right now (in Wisconsin), ours is 64 when we are home, 62 when we are sleeping, and I turn it down to 60 when we leave. DH and I don't argue over the temperature too much. When we first started dating, he was living in an apartment where he didn't have to pay for heat, so he kept his close to 80 (personally, I think it was just a ploy to have his dates shed some clothes....). We may have to jack the temperature a few degrees when the baby is born, but the room the baby will be in is by far the warmest room in the house. DS is in that room right now, and typical, his heat vent isn't even open, or else it is steaming in there!

 

[almburr]

In the winter DH and I are about the same we set it at around 70,depending on the weather. I had to put it up to 74 the other day it was below zero with high winds. We tend to sleep better when it is set lower. I personally would keep it at 65

Summer is a diffrent story. I am outside lifeguarding, swim lessons etc. so the kids are out there too. DH is usually in an airconditioned tractor. He wants it set around 68 I am fine with it set at 80. The only time I set colder is when it would be around 100 for days.

Plus I dont like to see the meter spin and spin.

 

[cheermom1]

I have to disagree with that you can always put more clothes on---you can only put so much on before you can't move or do anything plus for some reason that just doesn't work for me - I don't know why it just doesn't... I am still really cold and I shiver, have goose bumps, I'm miserable and I hurt, yes my body starts to ache ...I understand that he doesn't need it as hot as I do so I try to compromise the best I can ..I thought putting it in the middle 70 would be the best but when he is not home I put it on 74 and before he gets home I turn it back down ..I see nothing wrong with that ..however he tends to turn it WAY down and EVERYONE (except him) says they are cold not just me ...I hate this fight I just want him to realize I am compromising...