There's no Santa per DD(8)!

[Terry36]

Oh my aching heart!!! My daughter finally confessed that she knows Santa does not exist. She knew last year but kept the secret....How will I ever recover.

 

[coolbeans]

DD (11) hasn't admitted to anything. I doubt that she still believes but she would never say that to me...I still believe.

 

[deedeetoo]

When my dd was 6(!) she told me that she knew there was no Santa and it was all just pretend. I told her never to tell her little brother and to act like she thought Santa was real. She played along, made a list, sat on Santa's lap, etc. Well, I think she talked herself into believing again or else she knows the truth but chooses to ignore it. She is now 9 and still makes a list and talks about Santa bringing things. I haven't been able to bring myself to ask her if this was "acting" for her little brother or if she really does believe again.

 

[CrazedDisFan]

I told my kids, "If you don't believe, you don't receive." Oh how they believe!

 

[LuvOrlando]

My kids told me this when DS was 6 and started school. He had a friend who happened to be an atheist who also felt it was a good idea to tell him there was no such thing as God.

I didn't get mad or upset because I always knew they would inevitably have the world challenge what we do in our home. I simply told him that every home has its own beliefs and the differences should be respected, and that he also needs to tell his friends to respect him. If parents don't believe in God then the kids won't believe. As for Santa,he is magic and if the parents don't believe in Santa then he would never ever bother them, because that would be disrespectful. Now DS is almost 10 and he has settled in with a bunch of friends whose families behave just like ours and they are all waiting for Santa, same with DD.I know is just of time before it all ends but for now, we're still good

 

[Mean Queen]

I told my kids, "If you don't believe, you don't receive." Oh how they believe!

We've said the same thing. So DD8 may have a hint about reality, but she choose to still live the dream. I'm sure just a little of that is to make me happy.

 

[Terry36]

I told her it is a good idea to continue believing in Santa because it makes the season so much nicer/exciting for kids. Note: I have taught her and she understands that Christmas is centered around the birth of baby Jesus and not about Santa bringing presents.

I am not sure how this will blow over. She seems a bit upset at how the world portrays Santa.

 

[bawsmom]

Oh i am so glad to see this topic!! or sad...

DD9 pulled me to the side the other night and said.. now tell me the truth... is there really a Santa... and i said- well when you stop believing, he stops coming. of course she started back tracking saying that someone at school told her but she still believes along with 1/2 her class. but i was devasted. I am not ready for that!!! Of course i think i still believed when i was 15 i was hoping that she had just heard a few things at school- which i think she has- but then my other friends say they remember "realizing" that there was no Santa about this same age. she has younger brother so i hope if she does figure it out that she will atleast be quiet about it!!

BTW...My children are very aware and know that Christmas is not about Santa and presents but about the birth of Jesus and all that we celebrate is for Him.

 

[2goofykids]

My ds is just figuring out that the Santas in the mall can't all be him. So I explained that they are Santa's helpers, but you never know when you might be talking to Santa himself. He hasn't figured out that Mickey is similar to Santa, yet.
I believed in Santa until I was 11 or 12. Mostly because my sister & I got lots of great gifts from Santa and there was no way my parents could have paid for them all. Sadly when I made a discovery in my parents room one day I had to share it with my sister, who was only 7 or 8. So I ruined it for her, which she reminds me every Christmas.

 

[okeydokey]

My neice told my daughter that Santa was your parents a couple of years ago (she was 8 maybe?). My daughters response, "Yeah right, you think my parents can afford a karaoke machine?" Not sure how much she thinks they cost.

 

[bawsmom]

My neice told my daughter that Santa was your parents a couple of years ago (she was 8 maybe?). My daughters response, "Yeah right, you think my parents can afford a karaoke machine?" Not sure how much she thinks they cost.

i told my daughter the same thing...

 

[my2boyzrock]

I have a friend whose 10 year old daughter still believes...the daughter told her 2 years ago that there is no way mom & dad can be santa because they are too cheap to buy the stuff that Santa brings! My friend goes all out with the presents from Santa to keep her believing!

 

[heavenleigh412]

I told my kids, "If you don't believe, you don't receive." Oh how they believe!

That works here too and DD is 13!!!!

 

[brymolmom]

I don't know....look at it this way - once all your kids know the 'truth' - you don't have to worry about the different wrapping paper, accidentally leaving pricetags on, having them actually think they might get that REAL puppy or pony....it kind of makes the whole thing easier so I'm sort of looking forward to that day.

I'm in the camp when people I know have old(er) kids who claim to believe that they're just pretending for mom and dad's sake (and the moms and dads I know are grateful they're pretending) - I think it's right around the time they realize the guy/girl in the Mickey suit is NOT Mickey that they figure out the truth about the guy in red too. So by admitting it to you - at least you don't have to keep as much of the charade (although part of the charade is fun so I'm sure you'll keep it up) instead of her keeping quiet for the next 4 - 5 years.

I was very young when I discovered the truth (I have older sibs - enough said) - so I was maybe 5-ish and that first Christmas was tough - but after that it kind of got fun - helping my mom find 'santa' gifts for others and knowing how much work she was putting into getting that tree surrounded by gifts every Christmas morning.

So there IS a bright side....

 

[Terry36]

I don't know....look at it this way - once all your kids know the 'truth' - you don't have to worry about the different wrapping paper, accidentally leaving pricetags on, having them actually think they might get that REAL puppy or pony....it kind of makes the whole thing easier so I'm sort of looking forward to that day.

I'm in the camp when people I know have old(er) kids who claim to believe that they're just pretending for mom and dad's sake (and the moms and dads I know are grateful they're pretending) - I think it's right around the time they realize the guy/girl in the Mickey suit is NOT Mickey that they figure out the truth about the guy in red too. So by admitting it to you - at least you don't have to keep as much of the charade (although part of the charade is fun so I'm sure you'll keep it up) instead of her keeping quiet for the next 4 - 5 years.

I was very young when I discovered the truth (I have older sibs - enough said) - so I was maybe 5-ish and that first Christmas was tough - but after that it kind of got fun - helping my mom find 'santa' gifts for others and knowing how much work she was putting into getting that tree surrounded by gifts every Christmas morning.

So there IS a bright side....

Thanks!!!!!

 

[bbangel]

I was four when I figured it out, but than I've always been a logical old soul. It is also when I realized that everyone lies. I've had trust issues ever since. My older sister believed until she was 6, but we both kept quiet about it for several years after that. We knew if we didn't lie about it there would be no Santa gift. Years later, when we were both out of the house, we confessed to my mother and she was crushed.

Having said that...I do believe in fairies, I do, I do!

 

[MontanaKtsMom]

Oh my! I am 42. Last year my parents visited for Christmas, and I had a stocking from Santa....just like I have for every year I've been with my family for the holiday. My daughter (now 8) was amazed. She asked if it was there because Grandma and Grandpa did it, and I replied "Well, when our family is together, the magic of Christmas comes alive" and she agreed it must have been from Santa.
Two nights ago, as we read a Christmas story together, she asked if I believe in Santa Claus. I told her "I certainly do" and she was visibly relieved. She's a smart kid. She gets it.