The worst behavior I've ever seen!!!

[MushyMushy]

My mother would have literally killed me dead had I ever behaved that way...

Last night DH and I went out to a local lovely Mexican restaurant. It's a nice place. The large family next to us (several couples and 4 or 5 kids) was just a nightmare. The kids running in circles around the table screaming and laughing. the youngest ones jumping up and down on the chairs while mom ignored them.

I realize now that I do not hate kids...I hate useless incompetant parents.

That kind of reminds me of last week. DH and I met for lunch one day at Bob Evans. We were seated in a former smoking area -- small, with a wall blocking it off, and a pretty quiet area. There was a table next to us with a mom, grandma, and tot. The tot was a little terror, but mom was worse! You could hear her into the next part of the restaurant, just talking at the top of her lungs and the child was loud too. He more than likely just feeds off his mother's loudness. DH and I didn't even try to speak and two guys next to them could barely hold their own conversation.

Okay, what is wrong with people that they don't realize that they are the loudest, most disruptive people in an area?

And you're right, I don't usually blame small kids. They're just doing what any kid might do with no limits or boundaries (or as Cesar Milan would say about dogs, "rules, boundaries and limitations ).

I love how all over the internet, magazines and newspapers now articles/parents say "why does everyone hate my little angelssss??????" "Everyone hates kidsssss nowww...." Why do people glare at my precious children in a restauranttttt....???" Whaa whaa, whaaaa... Well, you can thank parents like this. Sad for good parents.

That's the truth. And I really felt sorry for these kids. They were beautiful little girls! But if they behave like that all the time in public, there are going to be a lot of people projecting a lot of negativity towards them. Mom isn't doing them any favors. Of course, I'm just assuming things are like that all the time with them, but it sure seemed like it.

 

[Disney Doll]

And we wonder why all our kids are such screwballs when they have parents like that???

 

[MaumeeMom]

Wow, I probably would have gone and gotten security. It is one thing to let them loose and have them trash the place but to lie about it takes the cake. I'm sorry you had to put up with that!

Not all kids are rotten, thank goodness. We try really hard to teach ours good manners and it paid off one night not that long ago. We were out to dinner and the kids were being really well behaved saying "May I please...?", saying grace, and sitting nicely in their seats, etc. Well, long story short, when it came time to pay our bill we were surprised to find out that an older couple at the next table had already taken care of it. They had already left by the time the waitress told us so we couldn't thank them but it really made my day!

So, tell your daughter that since she had a good role model in you, she will most likely do fine when she has kids.

 

[dismom2]

That kind of reminds me of last week. DH and I met for lunch one day at Bob Evans. We were seated in a former smoking area -- small, with a wall blocking it off, and a pretty quiet area. There was a table next to us with a mom, grandma, and tot. The tot was a little terror, but mom was worse! You could hear her into the next part of the restaurant, just talking at the top of her lungs and the child was loud too. He more than likely just feeds off his mother's loudness. DH and I didn't even try to speak and two guys next to them could barely hold their own conversation.

Okay, what is wrong with people that they don't realize that they are the loudest, most disruptive people in an area?

And you're right, I don't usually blame small kids. They're just doing what any kid might do with no limits or boundaries (or as Cesar Milan would say about dogs, "rules, boundaries and limitations ).



That's the truth. And I really felt sorry for these kids. They were beautiful little girls! But if they behave like that all the time in public, there are going to be a lot of people projecting a lot of negativity towards them. Mom isn't doing them any favors. Of course, I'm just assuming things are like that all the time with them, but it sure seemed like it.

The funny thing is, some of those parents will go to an internet forum (or email their friends) and claim that some rude people were getting angry with their kids (or themselves) when they were doing 'nothing wrong'. Those type of people are either truly ignorant, or just don't care what anyone else thinks, how they behave in public, or about having any sort of manners at all.

I see bad behavior all the time: kids running around stores without their parents, throwing balls around, testing out the bikes and scooters all over the store---making the other customers dodge them, etc...
And then we have parents who let their babies and toddlers play with, suck on, and chew on toys and stuffed animals that they have no intention of buying---just to tide the child over until shopping is over..... then dump the soggy, snotty, germ-ridden item wherever they feel.
Next, we have the game-players: lets hide in the racks and knock things over, scare people, etc... (or, find the "crowns").
And, of course, there are the loud and loose restaurant going kids. As long as their parents are enjoying their meal, to heck with everyone else. Manners? What are those??

Oh, I could go on and on....

I got shot with a rubber band in a store recently. All of a sudden I felt intense pain on my arm; it was red and hurt a lot. I had no idea what happened until I turned around to see some kid shooting rubber bands. When he and his father realized he had hit me and I was hurting, they just glared at me and walked away! The father didn't even scold the kid, or G-d forbid, make him say he was sorry.

Yes, parents should pass a test before they can breed. Maybe those kids will go on to parent just like their parents. Stop the cycle, kids!

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

With the mom who was being really loud (in the restaurant post), could it be that perhaps she was hard of hearing? That could be a legitimate explanation as to why she didn't realize she was so loud.

Funny story... The auto-spiel on the ride I work is deafeningly loud. Everybody complains about it. I got yelled at by Maintenance a couple of weeks ago because one of our drive tires popped up the night before and we ran it without realizing it, shredding the tire. It took awhile to replace. He was telling me how we need to listen for unusual noises, etc. etc. We turned on our spiel and showed him how we can't hear anything over it. Come to find out, the guy who does the sound is almost deaf and turns it up til he can hear it!

I hate when people don't take other families into consideration. I had just finished a hard day at work (was bitten so hard that it drew blood) and I stopped by this nice little Indian restaurant on the way home. It was early for dinner, so when I walked in I was the only one. I was really looking forward to a nice quiet dinner with my book. About two minutes after I ordered, a woman and herm other walked in with a kid who was maybe about 1-1 1/2 positively screaming. The kid would not shut up and they just sat there. I know I was the only other one there- but still! I literally almost got up and left before the food came out, but I was figured that the kid would either calm down or they would leave. WRONG! That kid screamed at the top of her lungs nonstop for 45 minutes, while the two women just sat there. Oh- they tried to shush her, but it didn't work. I ended up leaving more tense than when I came in.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

You sometimes wonder why kids act a certain way. Then you see how their parents treat then and it becomes crystal clear! I have a little boy in my special ed preschool class who just turned 4. We had him last year too and he's really come a long way in terms of his classroom behavior. He knows what we expect from him and he knows he will lose recess or play time if he doesn't listen and follow the rules.

The minute his mom shows up, all bets are off! He runs away from her, throws his backpack, refuses to come down the slide and screams, "No" when she tells him it's time to go. She asks us how we get him to behave and we tell her it's all about firmness and consistency and praise when he behaves well. She says she can't bear to take things away from him because she feels like she's depriving him of something.

Case in point - one day last year, the mom called the bus driver and said her son was sick and wouldn't be coming to school. About 20 minutes after class started, she showed up with her son. Our teacher said, "The bus driver said you called him in sick?" The mom said, "I did, but when I told him he wasn't going to school, he layed in front of the door and screamed, "My bus! My bus! I want school!" The mom said, "I know I called him in sick, but as a parent I can't allow my child to be so upset so I had to bring him." The teacher should have sent them both home but she doesn't like confrontation (that's another story). So the kid stayed and was miserable and promptly fell asleep on a bean bag chair. I insisted to the teacher that we couldn't let the mom get away with it. She had to understand that her son doesn't get to make the decision whether or not he comes to school. That's the moms decision and it doesn't matter how upset her child gets. We called her and she did pick him up. It just went to show us how much (or how little) discipline this child gets at home and that he rules the roost!

 

[dismom2]

You sometimes wonder why kids act a certain way. Then you see how their parents treat then and it becomes crystal clear! I have a little boy in my special ed preschool class who just turned 4. We had him last year too and he's really come a long way in terms of his classroom behavior. He knows what we expect from him and he knows he will lose recess or play time if he doesn't listen and follow the rules.

The minute his mom shows up, all bets are off! He runs away from her, throws his backpack, refuses to come down the slide and screams, "No" when she tells him it's time to go. She asks us how we get him to behave and we tell her it's all about firmness and consistency and praise when he behaves well. She says she can't bear to take things away from him because she feels like she's depriving him of something.

Case in point - one day last year, the mom called the bus driver and said her son was sick and wouldn't be coming to school. About 20 minutes after class started, she showed up with her son. Our teacher said, "The bus driver said you called him in sick?" The mom said, "I did, but when I told him he wasn't going to school, he layed in front of the door and screamed, "My bus! My bus! I want school!" The mom said, "I know I called him in sick, but as a parent I can't allow my child to be so upset so I had to bring him." The teacher should have sent them both home but she doesn't like confrontation (that's another story). So the kid stayed and was miserable and promptly fell asleep on a bean bag chair. I insisted to the teacher that we couldn't let the mom get away with it. She had to understand that her son doesn't get to make the decision whether or not he comes to school. That's the moms decision and it doesn't matter how upset her child gets. We called her and she did pick him up. It just went to show us how much (or how little) discipline this child gets at home and that he rules the roost!

The worst part of that story is that the mother sent him to school sick, just because he threw a fit. No concern of him getting all the other kids, or the teachers sick. Good for you for making her pick him up and take him back home

 

[Macca1111]

I used to see stuff like this all the time while working at Claire's. I even saw parents have their children assist them with shoplifting!

I know that shouldn't shock me, but seriously?!? I can't believe that! I've seen plenty of the bad behavior from the kids, but that really disgusts me that parents would teach their kids to help them shoplift.

I think my latest worst was when I was trying on bridesmaid dresses at a local bridal shop - a gigantic family with I think 4 kids came in, and the adults just let the kids run screaming through the store. It's not a big store, so it was really loud and annoying, and some place like that you expect it to be calm and quiet and an adult atmosphere. I felt bad for the woman next to me - she was actually trying on bridal gowns, and I think it probably ruined the moment for her.

 

[kellyg403]

I know that shouldn't shock me, but seriously?!? I can't believe that! I've seen plenty of the bad behavior from the kids, but that really disgusts me that parents would teach their kids to help them shoplift.

I think my latest worst was when I was trying on bridesmaid dresses at a local bridal shop - a gigantic family with I think 4 kids came in, and the adults just let the kids run screaming through the store. It's not a big store, so it was really loud and annoying, and some place like that you expect it to be calm and quiet and an adult atmosphere. I felt bad for the woman next to me - she was actually trying on bridal gowns, and I think it probably ruined the moment for her.

I work in a grocery store, and yes..there are parents who have their children assist in shopping lifting. A few months ago a 15 yo or so with three children around the ages of 5,6,7 came in to the store. I happened to be walking down the aisle and see the 15 yo put something in her purse. I called the security alert over the intercom. The 3 little ones left the store and the 15 yo went into the restroom. 2 min later mom comes in carrying a baby, retreives the 15 yo and leaves. The store manager went into the restroom and found a small pack of diapers, a baby bottle and some candy. The mom knew exactly what she was doing. It just sickens me to no end.

I just don't get why people think its o.k. to let your kids run around, use shopping carts for drag racing, eating everything you can find etc. Then hit the register and complain. Not too long ago we had a mom with about a 2 1/2 year old who kept standing up in the front of the cart. The produce lady almost had heart failure since the baby not only was standing up but was peeing completely through her diaper. You can guess what happens next, baby slips and luckly falls backwards. The store has been notified that they are being 'sued' for allowing the carts to have the slippery plastic pieces on the car where your babies behind goes. No mention that mom didn't use the safety belt...I just cringe anymore.

Kelly

 

[MushyMushy]

With the mom who was being really loud (in the restaurant post), could it be that perhaps she was hard of hearing? That could be a legitimate explanation as to why she didn't realize she was so loud.

Funny story... The auto-spiel on the ride I work is deafeningly loud. Everybody complains about it. I got yelled at by Maintenance a couple of weeks ago because one of our drive tires popped up the night before and we ran it without realizing it, shredding the tire. It took awhile to replace. He was telling me how we need to listen for unusual noises, etc. etc. We turned on our spiel and showed him how we can't hear anything over it. Come to find out, the guy who does the sound is almost deaf and turns it up til he can hear it!

You know what, I think that you could be right. I doubt it was the loud woman who was hard of hearing though, because her mother was speaking very softly and they were interacting just fine. So maybe she was talking loudly for the benefit of her mother.

Or maybe she's just loud and obnoxious. All I know is it was hard to have a pleasant lunch next to a table of 3 who sounded like a much bigger group.

 

[JEmaryland]

I know that shouldn't shock me, but seriously?!? I can't believe that! I've seen plenty of the bad behavior from the kids, but that really disgusts me that parents would teach their kids to help them shoplift.

I think my latest worst was when I was trying on bridesmaid dresses at a local bridal shop - a gigantic family with I think 4 kids came in, and the adults just let the kids run screaming through the store. It's not a big store, so it was really loud and annoying, and some place like that you expect it to be calm and quiet and an adult atmosphere. I felt bad for the woman next to me - she was actually trying on bridal gowns, and I think it probably ruined the moment for her.

Usually the parents would give their kids shopping bags and tell them to "go shopping", and the kids would just drop stuff in their bags. Or the parents would have their kids hold bags and the parents would place the items in the bags. It was probably the least discrete way of stealing, but when they got caught the parents would just say the kids were playing and accidentally walked out with merchandise .
Strollers were also popular places for people to hide their stolen goods.

 

[Redheaded Sunshine]

Ugh jeez. What is wrong with parents? You can't even blame the little girls, they don't even know better. And I'll bet the mother acted all abused because someone DARED tell her little princesses not to do something. I work in retail (at Justice...more little girls!) and it never ceases to amaze me the things that some parents will allow their children to get away with. Even worse is when they have a pre-teen girl that they are literally buying hundreds of dollars of clothing for and the girl acts like a total spoiled brat and doesn't even say thank you or anything.

 

[sunnyday123]

On occasion, I am not able to sensor what comes out of my mouth. However, when it comes to bad kids, it has always been my DD who would mention it before I did! We were at Outback one night when she was about 4, and the kid across the aisle was a mess. Screaming, jumping up and down,-and then he started throwing crayons. Mom and Dad just talked around him. When the crayon landed on our table, she picked it up, walked across the aisle and handed it to him and said, "My Mommy doesn't tolerate bad kids." If looks could kill, I would've been dead courtesy of the parents.

Through my laughter, I asked the server if we could be moved. She got a free chocolate thunder from down under that night, courtesy of the manager.

 

[TaraPA]

It's all these entitled, spoiled parents that make speaking up more difficult these days. I work in retail & MANY times have wanted to ask a parent to supervise their child or ask rowdy teens to leave the store, but in this day & age everyone is sue-happy & can claim verbal harrassment over anything!

I work at Yankee Candle - literally tons of glass in my store - and I love the parents that come in with 2, 3, 4 + very small children in tow, screaming the entire time "Don't touch! I said stop touching!" then inevitably CRASH. Of course it's always our fault, the lid wasn't on right, it wasn't placed on the shelf properly, etc. We clean up more broken glass & fill out more accident reports in a week involving children than adults. Why would you even bring that many kids, that young, into a store that it primarily GLASS?!?!?

Just this weekend I had a bunch of teens checking out our new lip balms. I showed them the display ones so they could smell them. They proceeded to break the seals on the ones for sale, claiming they couldn't smell the display ones. I said I'd get the candle for them in the same scent to smell, since we can't sell a lip balm once the seal is broken. The girl shrugged, said "well you don't have to pay for it so what does it matter?" and proceeded to laugh & snap the seal on yet another one. 20 years ago I probably could have asked her to pay for the items, leave the store, or called security. In today's world the teen would text mom & dad who would call their lawyer & then call corporate on me for being mean to their precious child. I had to walk away. They left the store without purchasing anything, and I was left to damage out 6 lip balms that they broke the seal on. And you wonder why the lip balms are $3.99 - you're now helping pay for those 6 that were in a sense, vandalised on purpose!

Or the time a mom wasn't watching her 1-2 year old child BITE into any votive candles he could get his hands on. I was following the child around, loudy saying within earshot of the mom "no no, that isn't safe to do, that can make you sick, stop eating the candles, etc." She had the nerve to come up to me, laugh & say "oh he must be teething!" She never offered an apology or to pay for the items. She just left me to clean up & damamge out 16 bitten votive candles dripping with slobber. Fun fun!

Oh I could go on & on.....

 

[Missy1961]

I just experience bad behavior in church yesterday. Dad & I were there early, so we were able to find a nice seat. Well, the peaceful atmosphere was ruined when a family--mom, 6 yr old girl, 4 yr old boy, 2 yr old boy, grandma & grandpa sat behind us 5 minutes after Mass started. The adults were opening up candy wrappers for the kids, the kids were discussing the flavor of candy they just got (in normal tones of voice rather than whispers). Grandpa sat there & said nothing, mom & grandma kept telling the kids to be quiet, which of cause added to the noise. I think this little family group never stopped talking. I was wondering if it would have been rude to get up & move, but decided not to. We even have a quiet room in the back of the church--you can see & hear everything there. I know they know it exists because mom & grandma were threatening the kids with it, as in " if you're not quiet, we're going to go to the quiet room." I really wanted to turn around & say "please go", but I would have been the bad guy then. We've been stuck near this group before. When we first experienced them, I thought I was turning into a grumpy old woman. Then one Sunday I was enjoying the peace (they weren't there) & I turned around & noticed a family sitting behind us--the 2 girls were quietly sitting there with their parents. That's when I knew for sure it was that group. Oh well, what can you do?

 

[MaumeeMom]

On occasion, I am not able to sensor what comes out of my mouth. However, when it comes to bad kids, it has always been my DD who would mention it before I did! We were at Outback one night when she was about 4, and the kid across the aisle was a mess. Screaming, jumping up and down,-and then he started throwing crayons. Mom and Dad just talked around him. When the crayon landed on our table, she picked it up, walked across the aisle and handed it to him and said, "My Mommy doesn't tolerate bad kids." If looks could kill, I would've been dead courtesy of the parents.

Through my laughter, I asked the server if we could be moved. She got a free chocolate thunder from down under that night, courtesy of the manager.

Love it! Congrats to your DD! It is pretty telling when the kids with good manners are offended by the bad mannered ones. I'm always telling my kids MYOB when they start pointing to kids running around. I also make sure to tell them "Thank you for being a good boy!" - sometimes I do this a little louder than necessary as we walk past the rotten kids' table.

 

[sbell111]

It's true, other people can be so irritating. Luckily, once the OP was finished with her transaction she no longer had to worry about them.

 

[Gabes_mommy]

When my DS was first born I was active on a few different parenting forums. Unfortunately a lot of moms who are active on those forums are into a really agressive version of modern day "hippie" parenting. As in I never tell my child "no", I let my child do whatever they want, no immunizing, child directed punishments. Really all kinds of crazy stuff. There is even a movement called "unconditional parenting" that believes you should never tell your child they are good or bad. Some of the stuff I read on those forums really shocked me and I quickly left and moved on with my life, which includes normal parenting with lots of time outs.

Sadly that mother probably thinks she is a great parent.

 

[MushyMushy]

It's true, other people can be so irritating. Luckily, once the OP was finished with her transaction she no longer had to worry about them.

Actually, as my DD and I kept running into our "line mates" in other stores, we all kept remarking on it and laughing for at least the next hour. It sure bonded a small bunch of strangers.

I do get irritated by people, quite frequently. But most times I'm over it within minutes. This stayed with me all day long.

I thought that no kid could behave worse than a middle schooler who has a substitute teacher. I was wrong.

 

[sunnyday123]

When my DS was first born I was active on a few different parenting forums. Unfortunately a lot of moms who are active on those forums are into a really agressive version of modern day "hippie" parenting. As in I never tell my child "no", I let my child do whatever they want, no immunizing, child directed punishments. Really all kinds of crazy stuff. There is even a movement called "unconditional parenting" that believes you should never tell your child they are good or bad. Some of the stuff I read on those forums really shocked me and I quickly left and moved on with my life, which includes normal parenting with lots of time outs.

Sadly that mother probably thinks she is a great parent.

And they "unschool"!! My cousins wife was like this....no one was allowed to say anything negative to their son.You couldn't say , NO do not draw on the walls-it had to be along the lines of, What a talented artist you are!

My cousin finally blew a gasket one day and went on a rampage. The kid now gets time outs and punishments and you can stand to be around him.