Thanks again everyone. I think my brain has finally accepted this is going to happen. Just had to put on my big girl bloomers and get over whining about it
I do wish there were someone but because of distance, logistics and *ahem* family members who would cause more problems than assistance (don't we all have some of those), it really is just us. That being said, DH has a lot of vacation stored up, so at least he can take that time off to be SAHD afterwards. Sheesh. Sure would rather be using that vacation for Disney! I'm afraid we're already in the mobile stage, crawling and creeping like mad, at 8.5 mos he doesn't seem far from walking
Singingmom, I shudder to imagine your story. Though you are a thoughtful rarity in not telling your story -- when I was pregnant, moms came out of the woodwork to share their horror stories, lol!
As silly as it sounds, another reason I'm think of waiting until the end of September is that part of me wants to be sure I have a voice to sing Happy Birthday at his year birthday. I know voice loss is rare, but my father lost his voice to lung surgery, and 20 years later has just a thin gravely voice still.
I simply can't read the Fault book bc I cannot handle even beautiful but sad stories anymore. I made the mistake of reading The Book Thief in the thick of postpartum hormones and I think I cried every 20 pages. Though to be fair, I can't even stand to read the news anymore.
Such decisions are not easy to make. I wish there was someone other than a magic 8 ball that could tell us what to do.
I have never had any family to help me raise my child either and it stinks. My husband was always out of state with work too so DS got to go to all my doctors appointments sitting in the office with me or in a chair outside if need be. You just have to do what you have to do. Thank God I didn't have to go through all the cancer stuff till my son was a teen. Although he was no piece of cake then either. lol Unfortunately, he got in a car accident and totaled his 2 week old car just over a week after my surgery, begining of hypohell, so I had to drive him back and forth to work till we could find another. There is always something. My Disney vacations are done for God knows how long too since our medical deductible is $6000 I get to spend my vacation money on that. You are not alone.
I actually worked in an OB department and only saw one really bad situation with a birth in the year I worked that department. I think the horror stories are kind of rare from my experience but when they happen they are awful.
If it helps hearing a good story about the voice. I was told after surgery I would have the worst sore throat of my life and not to talk for a day and softly for a couple weeks. I never had even a scratch in my throat with a pain level of 0. It felt the same as before I went in and so did my voice. I started talking right after surgery and never shut up since. lol My friend, husband, and son kept telling me to be quit like the doctor said. Yet they kept asking me questions and talking to me. lol May your surgery go as well as mine.
MrsK,
That is wonderful news. So glad your bloodwork is clean and may it stay that way forever.
