LMP, That sounds like a very strange bridal shower. I certainly hope after time passes that your future-DIL will come around a bit. It doesn't sound like an ideal situation. I probably wasn't the best DIL to my late-MIL. Part of it was that early on she put a lot of pressure on us to drop any plans we had for the weekend and always "come for dinner" and sit around. Even way back then I was working full time and my weekends were chock full of errands so we hardly ever did and I know she used to get pissed about that. We got back from my MIL's funeral on Tuesday night, so I had the 4th off to recover. I'm not sure what's wrong with me but ever since I had to put the dog down and then go do the funeral stuff I have just not been mentally "right" if that makes sense. For a few days I felt like I was in a deep depression. That is so unlike me. To be honest, it hasn't totally gone away. I've had a few bouts of vertigo also which is also unusual but it has happened before. I'm trying to eat better and get out and take a walk but I need this feeling to lift. I'm not consciously thinking about my dog or MIL (who I never saw much anyway) but maybe that last week was just too stressful for me. I don't know. In the meantime, my son has about 1 month left before he starts his career. Now that I am home and don't have the dog issues, I've been sitting here for two days trying to plan an impromptu Disney trip for late July, early August. For a minute it excites me, and then when I get bogged down in the details I start getting overwhelmed. Probably just part of this weird depression. Should I fly (but then the flights are high and the affordable ones STINK), or should I drive (uuuggghhhh 14 hours!!). I'm afraid the time will pass and I won't do anything. I think this will be the last time I can actually have a "family" vacation once my son starts working. It's already impossible to get my daughter to be able to do much. They just don't earn a lot of vacation time. Oh well, sorry for the "downer" post. Hopefully I will get out of this funk soon.