QOTD: What to do when running just isn't going to happen for a long period of time (or currently taking place) for reasons not related to injury or health?
ATTQOTD:
What I do- get really frustrated and feel like I am doing a terrible job at life and make myself unpleasant to be around.
What I do later and should do from the start- Acknowledge that today is different from yesterday, last month, last decade, etc. and that I would be disappointed if it were not. Acknowledge that some of that difference is very positive and was not what I would have planned, and some of it I am sad to have left behind but that was necessary FOR NOW. I take some time to figure out if I
really need one aspect from the past and if it is actually achievable if I were able to change X, Y, Z. Almost every time I decide I like one of the X,Y,Z factors too much to make the sacrifice. And then I decide if there is a portion of that past thing I am happy to make some sacrifices for. Could I have a higher paying, more fulfilling job? Yes. Do I want to be on the road 283 days a year again? Absolutely not. Can I have a job that is the same pay, with less stress, and moderately challenging and still walk out the door at 5pm to pick up my kids? I'll take that one any day. Could I pull off a sub 2:30 half or complete a marathon? I now believe my body could do that if I were able to put in more time training. I would rather get sufficient sleep (because I'd run like garbage and be unpleasant to be around), cook our meals at home , cry with my kiddo who skinned her knee because I couldn't hold her up on her bike, visit my grandparents, and work my moderately challenging, reasonable paying job that allows me to skip out of work here and there to see my kid's art show. I am not willing to trade those things for a faster race. But I still feel crumby that I can figure out how to do really hard things that the general public does not, but I can't figure out how to run more than 2 miles this week. And then I make a list of things that I do that make me happy. I took my kid kayaking every week in June. I took 4 coworkers for a walk at lunch who normally do nothing and are worried about their health. I love cooking with my kid, and I want control over the nutritional aspects of my life. I taught myself how to program a neutron scattering beam to take measurements at set intervals so I could have time to run those two miles this week.
Still here?
what would I suggest to someone else? Assess why you are not doing what you want to do, decide if you can even do that any more, if yes, consider if you want to make the sacrifices elsewhere to get it done, and if no set another objective. If you can, calmly discuss your frustration with your wife, she might see the situation differently than you do but she may also have a work around you did not consider an option. {example- last year my husband agreed to figure out how to do fancy braids so the kids don't always ask me to do them after bath, so I had 30 minutes in which to pack lunches so I could go to bed earlier, so I could get out of bed to run. It worked fine until Halloween and I did Star Wars hair that he cannot seem to get right and now hair is back to me

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There are probably other ways to de-stress, and some may be easier to fit in now until life changes a bit more. It will change again. And again. And again.

Edit: I no longer know how to add gifs. I am going to blame the disboards change.