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[harleyquinn]

Do/Did any of you kinda still hate being a parent at this point? I totally love Lily. I rarely lose my patience with her or actually feel anything negative towards her. But, in general, I really do not enjoy this at all. I miss being able to do whatever I want whenever I want to. I miss my husband in every way! I miss my friends. I miss the general confidence I had in life. I feel like a failure cuz I can't get Lily in her crib for naps. She has developed a 7-8 pm bedtime which is great, except she won't sleep in the damn crib or anywhere else except someone's arms. In every other way she is great. But I still don't like my life right now. I figure the "it gets better' phrase works here too?

I always thought I was too selfish to be a good parent. Everyone said that I wasn't and that you get over it, but right now...it sucks.

Thanks for letting me unload!

 

[sbell111]

We really miss being able to go see a movie whenever we feel like it. Also, it seems like it takes three hours to leave the house to run a ten minute errand. I hate that.

[Note to self: When Sarah tells you that it gets better, she's lying.]

 

[jaleaton]

Do/Did any of you kinda still hate being a parent at this point? I totally love Lily. I rarely lose my patience with her or actually feel anything negative towards her. But, in general, I really do not enjoy this at all. I miss being able to do whatever I want whenever I want to. I miss my husband in every way! I miss my friends. I miss the general confidence I had in life. I feel like a failure cuz I can't get Lily in her crib for naps. She has developed a 7-8 pm bedtime which is great, except she won't sleep in the damn crib or anywhere else except someone's arms. In every other way she is great. But I still don't like my life right now. I figure the "it gets better' phrase works here too?

I always thought I was too selfish to be a good parent. Everyone said that I wasn't and that you get over it, but right now...it sucks.

Thanks for letting me unload!

Don't feel bad! I understand and feel a little of the same way. I love being a mom, and I wouldn't change having a baby for anything, but things are definitely different and an adjustment all the way around. I won't lie...it took my DH and I quite awhile to "reconnect" in an adult couple way. We don't get much 'us' time as we live an hour and a half from either set of grandparents, and we don't have anyone close that we would trust enough to watch Isabelle. It's also different hanging out with our friends that don't have kids (or particularly want them anytime soon, if at all). We still hang out and have a good time, but at Isabelle's age, her needs definitely come first. We can't just get up and go, do things whenever, etc. without considering her needs, how she'll react, when she'll need fed / nap, etc. So you're not alone out there in feeling the adjustments of parenthood.

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Do/Did any of you kinda still hate being a parent at this point? I totally love Lily. I rarely lose my patience with her or actually feel anything negative towards her. But, in general, I really do not enjoy this at all. I miss being able to do whatever I want whenever I want to. I miss my husband in every way! I miss my friends. I miss the general confidence I had in life. I feel like a failure cuz I can't get Lily in her crib for naps. She has developed a 7-8 pm bedtime which is great, except she won't sleep in the damn crib or anywhere else except someone's arms. In every other way she is great. But I still don't like my life right now. I figure the "it gets better' phrase works here too?

I always thought I was too selfish to be a good parent. Everyone said that I wasn't and that you get over it, but right now...it sucks.

Thanks for letting me unload!

I have no words of wisdom right now...I'm lucky to get out coherent thoughts with my jelly-brain. Just wanted to give you a hug!

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

We really miss being able to go see a movie whenever we feel like it. Also, it seems like it takes three hours to leave the house to run a ten minute errand. I hate that.

[Note to self: When Sarah tells you that it gets better, she's lying.]

I'm sorry, but I needed that. That was funny.

 

[caitty13]

I am ok with the whole parent thing. I actually love the baby stage, it's when they get older that I find to be harder. My DS5 is a great little boy but has been a challenge. I think part of it is I am learning to be a parent and need to stick with what I say. Lilliana is an angel I am lucky though and my mother is almost always free to watch the kids. My inlaws are a different story...

 

[jaleaton]

We really miss being able to go see a movie whenever we feel like it. Also, it seems like it takes three hours to leave the house to run a ten minute errand. I hate that.

[Note to self: When Sarah tells you that it gets better, she's lying.]

You'd be surprised at how easy a movie actually is. I have gone to one (that wasn't too terribly long) right around feeding / nap time. I did go in the middle of the day in the middle of the week though as I didn't want to potentially ruin the movie for anyone else in case the little critter had intentions of being loud or crying. Now a movie the length of a Harry Potter, I might reconsider and not do.

Oh, and I forgot to mention...your baby girl is adorable! Love the pictures.

 

[harleyquinn]

We really miss being able to go see a movie whenever we feel like it. Also, it seems like it takes three hours to leave the house to run a ten minute errand. I hate that.

[Note to self: When Sarah tells you that it gets better, she's lying.]

LMAO I guess I mean it gets easier in a lot of ways...Honestly it gets better, and I feel better about things every day. It is easier, I just don't like it very much. I hear everyone talk about loving being a parent and I just ehhh. lol

Don't feel bad! I understand and feel a little of the same way. I love being a mom, and I wouldn't change having a baby for anything, but things are definitely different and an adjustment all the way around. I won't lie...it took my DH and I quite awhile to "reconnect" in an adult couple way. We don't get much 'us' time as we live an hour and a half from either set of grandparents, and we don't have anyone close that we would trust enough to watch Isabelle. It's also different hanging out with our friends that don't have kids (or particularly want them anytime soon, if at all). We still hang out and have a good time, but at Isabelle's age, her needs definitely come first. We can't just get up and go, do things whenever, etc. without considering her needs, how she'll react, when she'll need fed / nap, etc. So you're not alone out there in feeling the adjustments of parenthood.

I really feel like it's just a matter of time. I really really love my DD, some times soo much everything else totally doesn't matter.

The things I'm complaining about are really stupid and small in the long run. I think I just need more time.

I'm just wondering if anyone else felt that way in the beginning and when it all changed? When they were walking? lol I bet it gets worse then.

I have no words of wisdom right now...I'm lucky to get out coherent thoughts with my jelly-brain. Just wanted to give you a hug!

I am ok with the whole parent thing. I actually love the baby stage, it's when they get older that I find to be harder. My DS5 is a great little boy but has been a challenge. I think part of it is I am learning to be a parent and need to stick with what I say. Lilliana is an angel I am lucky though and my mother is almost always free to watch the kids. My inlaws are a different story...

Great! That's just what I needed to hear--it gets worse! lol Just kidding!!!

I'm honestly fine, just not thrilled or head over heels with parenting. I don't REALLY hate it--that's too strong of a word. I just was really, really happy and satisfied before the little one and now my world is out of control. You know?

 

[Piecey]

I don't have a ton of time but I like that you're full-time because it means we get more time with you now!

It's not the same over on the moms-to-be-thread. I miss you guys! It just isn't the same. We all meshed together well!

 

[harleyquinn]

I don't have a ton of time but I like that you're full-time because it means we get more time with you now!

It's not the same over on the moms-to-be-thread. I miss you guys! It just isn't the same. We all meshed together well!

Are you saying that since I posted like 6 times today?

lol I think being full time will make me appreciate being with Lily more. This morning was great and I didn't want to go to work at 1. Normally by 4 I'm ready for some 'time off.' I feel like I'm more on vacation at work than at home! Good thing I love my job!!

 

[sbell111]

I'm honestly fine, just not thrilled or head over heels with parenting. I don't REALLY hate it--that's too strong of a word. I just was really, really happy and satisfied before the little one and now my world is out of control. You know?

I'm right there with you.

Sometimes, I think to myself that I would really like to go geocaching for a day, but then I remember that I don't get to take a 'day off' to do anything that I want to do anymore.

I love my baby. I love being her dad. I miss the time that I used to be able to take for me.

 

[harleyquinn]

I'm right there with you.

Sometimes, I think to myself that I would really like to go geocaching for a day, but then I remember that I don't get to take a 'day off' to do anything that I want to do anymore.

I love my baby. I love being her dad. I miss the time that I used to be able to take for me.

I think I was missing a distinction. I love being Lily's mom, I'm just not in love with being a mom in general yet.

DH has some issues too. I didn't understand his POV at first, because he actually gets alone time after we go to bed around 8 or 9. He has 2 or 3 hours to himself that I would kill for right now. But his thing is that he needs time to be with his friends. He needs that social interaction that I totally don't. So he's going to go back to playing Star Wars with his friends every other Saturday night. Hopefully I'll survive!

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

Patsy- First off... Congrats!!!!!

As for being a parent. For me the hardest so far was the 3 to 4 month stage. It seemed to get much easier after that. Natalie is almost 6 1/2 months old right now and a lot of fun. I love to watch her discover things around her. She got her first tooth on the 2nd and another one today. What a way to start off the new year.

Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Years. I have been busy, so not much time for the boards. I need to get busy and start planning our next trip to Disney. We are taking my brother and sil in March. My parents are coming out to watch Natalie again for us.

 

[december]

Hey all,

I am absolutely devastated about having to return to work tomorrow after my maternity leave.

I know that I should be grateful to have a job and especially a teaching one where I will spend the summers with my baby and get off work at 3. Plus, my mother will be the one watching her but I just would love to be able to stay home with her myself. It was a dream of mine to be a SAHM.

My husband and I are considering me not working next year and we are going to try to see if we can swing it.

So all of you SAHM's how is it to survive on one income (my husband is a teacher too so his income isn't HUGE!)

Also, to all of you working moms, how is it going back?

We couldn't survive without my income, and quite honestly, I don't know that I would ever be happy not working. I'm just too independent. You also have to think about retirment. MS teachers don't make much, but we have good retirements. Every year taken off is a year to make up later for me. I think with teaching, I have the best of both worlds. I'm off holidays, weekends, etc, and after age 5 I get to take the kids with me to work every day. The only time I really hate being a working mom is when the kids are sick, and I just want to sit home and snuggle without guilt!

Didn't stop me from blubbering like an idiot my first day back at work, though. Katie made it fine. I think I made a comment that day about one of us putting on her big girl panties that day, but it wasn't me!

Mostly, we're doing great. Cathy's pretty exhausted and we are still having tons of trouble getting Sarah to go to sleep in her cradle some nights, but it will all work out.

Katie is almost 8 mos old and doesn't sleep in "her" bed. She'll play in it, but sleep-nope!

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I think we are all just wired different. I love being a mom-even though I had great grades and excelled in school, this is what I wanted growing up. I love snuggling, nursing (I'm already getting asked when I'm weaning her-18 mos sounds early enough to me!). I posted about my mother a few pages back. She couldn't wait to get us up older, so she could get her normal routines back. She's a great mother, just different from me. I think we all just do the best we can with what we've got!

Katie has already been to several movies with us. She nurses and sleeps through most of them. She absolutely loved The Blind Side and watched most of it. But she loves football-watches it with dh every weekend!

She also LOVES Barney. It is the only way I get any work done some days!

 

[yellowfish78]

I've been back to work full time since Thanksgiving. I enjoy the adult interaction - by that point I was ready to go back. I don't think I could be a SAHM though...at least not now. Maybe when he's older?
I think my POV is similar to everyone elses regarding being a mom...I still don't believe I gave birth to him, that he's our sole responsibility. I miss going out for dinner and movies without planning for a sitter, working around BF, if I have to pump...I miss spontanous adult time with DH - heck I just plain miss adult time! We have some issues to work out...

Sarah - we are up to 9 inches here! What are you up to? 18?

 

[harleyquinn]

I think we are all just wired different. I love being a mom-even though I had great grades and excelled in school, this is what I wanted growing up. I love snuggling, nursing (I'm already getting asked when I'm weaning her-18 mos sounds early enough to me!). I posted about my mother a few pages back. She couldn't wait to get us up older, so she could get her normal routines back. She's a great mother, just different from me. I think we all just do the best we can with what we've got!

Katie has already been to several movies with us. She nurses and sleeps through most of them. She absolutely loved The Blind Side and watched most of it. But she loves football-watches it with dh every weekend!

She also LOVES Barney. It is the only way I get any work done some days!

I love snuggling and sleepy with Lily. Nursing is great too. i thought I would never say that in the beginning and all the women on kellymom gushing about those 2am feeds were nuts....now I miss it when she actually sleeps throught the night (which isn't often). Last night she reached out while we were sleeping with a frown on her face...she grabbed my nose, smiled a sweet little smile, sighed a adorable little sigh, snuggled up and when back to sleep.

I really don't sound like someone who isn't enjoying this do I?!

I've been back to work full time since Thanksgiving. I enjoy the adult interaction - by that point I was ready to go back. I don't think I could be a SAHM though...at least not now. Maybe when he's older?
I think my POV is similar to everyone elses regarding being a mom...I still don't believe I gave birth to him, that he's our sole responsibility. I miss going out for dinner and movies without planning for a sitter, working around BF, if I have to pump...I miss spontanous adult time with DH - heck I just plain miss adult time! We have some issues to work out...

Sarah - we are up to 9 inches here! What are you up to? 18?

We only have about 3 or 4, a little more in drifts. I got to shovel this morning! It's a lot worse South and East of us. We're at the very top of the snow belt, so a lot of times it goes over us.

 

[harleyquinn]

Check out the epic bad parenting thread if you need a laugh!
Thread is here

 

[Piecey]

Are you still at work Sarah?? This thread is hopping today!

I'll try to catch up tomorrow. We got school cancelled here already. We have like 2" of snow! Big whoop.

 

[december]

We got snow flurries today, which in MS is a big deal! And Wed night - Fri morning we are supposed to get snow and ice. So we probaby won't have school Fri. We aren't equipped for snow here! And I don't have any really warm clothes.

I'm more concerned about my Praxis Saturday-taking library media and school counseling. I have to be at the testing site at 7:30am, and if we get ice there is no way I can make it! I emailed and asked what the procedure would be if roads are closed, and asked if I could just move the test to March (next available date).

 

[staley7580]

I wish we would get snow!!! I dont think we will this year though.

Okay, so we booked our flight home from WDW. We will be there from the 1st of May to the 11th of May. We wanted to stay for the full two weeks, but with my sister in law coming in August, we figured on saving some dough.

Holy CRAP. I am taking 4 little kids ALL the freaking way across the country. TWO 14 month olds.. YIKES! With my MOM. Double YIKES!It wont be the most horrid thing ever... RIGHT??