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[MinnieFan4ever]

Alright ladies I need help.

For the last 3 days I've had periods of dibilitating baby blues. At first I was just bursting into tears for no good reason when thinking about DH going back to work or me going back...last night I had a spell where I felt like I was going to faint and I've been nauseus and generally weird since then. I thought it was anemia and called the dr who told me to take iron pills, but now I think it was because I was dehydrated...I haven't been drinking or eating enough. And now I have very little appetite, plus the nausea, whoich makes everything harder.

Whenever I've been anxious in the past I get nausea, so I think it's part of that.

It's so overwhelming!! I don't feel bad feelings toward the baby or DH, but it's hard to take care of her--holding her and nursing makes me think of the future and then I just cry. DH's aunt and uncle visited yesterday and I broke out in tears while they were here.

I'm thinking of calling the dr tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure they'll just tell me it's the blues and to wait it out for another week...

Have you talked to your doctor yet?

 

[caitty13]

For my c-section I went into L&D and was admitted to my room, was prepped and walked down to the OR. When I was finished I was brought back to my room for recovery. My hospital also prefers to do VBAC's but I dont' want another long labor that ended up a c-section. Lilliana was over a pound smaller at birth with a much smaller head. So I might not have had the same issues as I did the first time.

I thought I only wanted 1 child at first, I have a 4 1/2 year age difference. It's the best decisson that I made.

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

I know most of you didn't have a c-section, but maybe you knew the policies about them where you delivered...

Still trying to decide if I want to get the IUD/have another baby. I know have awhile to make the decision but have been thinking of the bigger picture... for instance If I have another baby would I want my tubes tied? Whole reason behind this line of thinking is because there are 2 hospitals here. One that I hate (where I had my gallbladder out) and the one I had Lucas at-- which is Catholic, so no tubals.

Talked to a friend who works in the surgery unit at the hospital I hate (because if I want my tubes tied I'd have to deliver there) and all c-sections are done in the general OR. Odd to me, where I had Lucas there was a specific OR on the L&D floor for c-sections.
At the other hospital after you go to the general OR for your c-section you're taken to the same massive recovery room I was in after my gallbladder surgery.

I would hate that. I think I would have been ever more miserable afterwards. So, is anyone elses hospital set up that way?? Where I had Lucas I went straight back to my L&D room and people were welcome to come in and see me. No lonely recovery room involved.

So which way is more normal? Anyone have any idea?

...the things that get stuck in my head are amazing.

At my hospital there is an OR on the L&D floor. I knew I was having a c-section in advance. What happend with me was I had to get to the hospital 2 hours before hand. They got me all hooked up and filled out paperwork. I was wheeled into the OR with my husband. She was born about 5 minutes after they started. They let me see her and pose for a quick picture, then the baby and my husband went to the nursery while they finished my up. About 45 minutes after they started I was in recovery. My husband and Natalie came in for the 2 hours I was in there. I could hold her and we both fed her. Once I could move my feet, we were placed in our room. It really was a nice experience.

 

[staley7580]

OMG.. Im so tired I could cry. Thats a lie. I did cry. A lot. I hate not sleeping!! I have sleep trouble anyways... I cant fall asleep before 1 am. EVER. No matter how tired I am, I cant get to sleep. I have way to much stuff going on in my head. And now the babies are going crazy! If its not one waking up, its the other. Tag Team!!! AND I woke up to my 4yo in my bed this morning. It totally freaked me out, because I felt a body by my legs this morning.. Now, my dh works nights, so i knew it wasnt him.. Vinny was up by my head.. and I THOUGHT Jasmine was in her crib. Then I thought.. My god!! What if I got Jasmine out of the crib and brought her to bed with me and I dont remember!! I was freaking out.. Till I looked over and saw Mikalah. PHEW!

Vinny has a really good fever going.. Im guessing anyways. When we take his temp, its always normal. but that big bald head of his feels really warm. He is so tired all the tie, but isnt sleeping much. Jasmine is just driving me nuts. SHe has this high pitched scream that she is doing.. MY LORD. It must be a girl thing, because my boys never did it.. But both my girls do.

However.. suddenly Vinnys head is looking much rounder, adn his neck troubles dont seem to be as severe. Is it just my lack of sleep?? Is it the bumbo?? Is he just outgrowing it?? Its just been the past two days that it has been looking better. I dont know. Maybe those teeth he is getting is pushing his head straight. Yeah, Im tired.

Anyhow.. they are both napping right now. Why am I not napping as well you ask?? I have to clean the kitchen. and the rest of my house is a wreck... but I gave up after the kitchen. Its the most important part right? I mean, we HAVE to eat. No matter how many times I try to convince the kids that we only need to eat once a day.. they just dont agree.

 

[caitty13]

One other thing about my hospital is Lilliana never left my side. She was put in my arms after they took me off the table and put in my bed. During our stay she was only taken out of the room for her weighing and hearing test.

 

[Piecey]

Our hospital had an OR on the labor and delivery floor for c-sections. I would call the maternity ward of the hospital you hate and double-check.

Well, the only reason I even asked her about it was because when I woke up in the recovery room I heard someone say "c-section" and my OB's name.

So I asked her and she said "Yes, all c-sections are done up there and then they go to the recovery room you were in."

I think it's super strange!
DH's cousin had a c-section there so I was going to ask her next time I saw her, but I just think its weird.

Thanks for the responses... seems like the local Catholic hospital is more in line with the "norm" of things.


DannysMom- There are only 2 in this city. There is one about a half hour away that my mom tried to get me to go to (and I could get my tubes tied there, I know their C-section OR is on the L&D floor, too) but it's in Ohio. Maybe I'm weird but I don't want to mess with birth certificates being in different states. My OB also doesn't go there... and I truly love her.

 

[harleyquinn]

Hope I helped. I accidentally messed up FB somehow and when I got back it said you were offline.

You did!!

I have never had PPD, But I just wanted to say that it is very normal to feel like that after having a baby. Its a very emotion time, and hormones are raging. With my first I cried ALL the time. I was a wreck. Also remember that if you are nursing, you need to drink a lot of water and eat a ton of food. You have to take care of yourself, so you can take of your baby. I so hope you start feeling better and DO call your Dr. and tell them everything that is going on. You're a new mommy, and it is very overwhelming! Ill be thinking of you.

I've been feeling much better today. As soon as I start to feel off..I take a second to eat and drink something and so far, I haven't had any episodes.

Sarah-yes, DO call your doctor today. I actually didn't start feeling "bluesy" symptoms until Madeline was about a year old. I think mime was truly depression since it wasn't right after birth. I had to take Welbutrin for about a year and half, which really helped. But yours is alot of the hormones, plus sleep deprivation, and probably some lack of nutrition since you are bfing and not eating like you should. So don't beat yourself up about it, but talk to your doc, and talk to us and whomever you feel comfortable talking to. I know talking about it helped me.

Thanks!!

I just had "baby blues" not PPD. So I don't have any really useful advice. I would call the doctor and let them know how you feel. I can tell you I was feeling better about 3 weeks after DD was born.

At this point I think it's a combo of baby blues and anxiety. I don't think its ppd.

Have you talked to your doctor yet?

Not really. They asked me to come in to be tested for anemia, so I did that. The nurse asked if I was interested in meds for the blues and I said not yet because I don't think it's that serious.

I'm starting to really think that its anxiety more than anything else. When I started taking Metformin for the PCOS, I had my first panic attack ever. I think it opened the door. That would explain the nausea.

I think I'll make an appointment to talk to her tomorrow. The problem is the meds have so many crappy side effects.

I haven't had any episodes today, but I've felt them coming on.

 

[MelessaG]

*Copied from the Moms-to-Be thread because I'm just that tired*

Alexis Erin was born at 8:36 a.m. yesterday morning (08/04/09). She weighed 7 lbs. and is 19 and 3/4 inches long. All my kids were born with lots of hair, but she has more than any of the rest of them. Nursing is going well when she's awake. Getting her to wake up and eat has been a little more of a challenge. But we've been working on it. Today was better. It's been easy to update FB about her from my cell phone, harder to get a good internet connection here at the hospital.

I'll write up more details about the birth when I get home where I know there is a reliable internet connection, but for now I just wanted to pass the news along to everyone. I'll also upload some pictures. But again, I want to wait until I'm using my home connection that I know will work.

 

[staley7580]

*Copied from the Moms-to-Be thread because I'm just that tired*

Alexis Erin was born at 8:36 a.m. yesterday morning (08/04/09). She weighed 7 lbs. and is 19 and 3/4 inches long. All my kids were born with lots of hair, but she has more than any of the rest of them. Nursing is going well when she's awake. Getting her to wake up and eat has been a little more of a challenge. But we've been working on it. Today was better. It's been easy to update FB about her from my cell phone, harder to get a good internet connection here at the hospital.

I'll write up more details about the birth when I get home where I know there is a reliable internet connection, but for now I just wanted to pass the news along to everyone. I'll also upload some pictures. But again, I want to wait until I'm using my home connection that I know will work.

Congratulations!!!!

 

[TiggerStac]

I know most of you didn't have a c-section, but maybe you knew the policies about them where you delivered...

Still trying to decide if I want to get the IUD/have another baby. I know have awhile to make the decision but have been thinking of the bigger picture... for instance If I have another baby would I want my tubes tied? Whole reason behind this line of thinking is because there are 2 hospitals here. One that I hate (where I had my gallbladder out) and the one I had Lucas at-- which is Catholic, so no tubals.

Talked to a friend who works in the surgery unit at the hospital I hate (because if I want my tubes tied I'd have to deliver there) and all c-sections are done in the general OR. Odd to me, where I had Lucas there was a specific OR on the L&D floor for c-sections.
At the other hospital after you go to the general OR for your c-section you're taken to the same massive recovery room I was in after my gallbladder surgery.

I would hate that. I think I would have been ever more miserable afterwards. So, is anyone elses hospital set up that way?? Where I had Lucas I went straight back to my L&D room and people were welcome to come in and see me. No lonely recovery room involved.

So which way is more normal? Anyone have any idea?

...the things that get stuck in my head are amazing.

2 different hospitals...3 csections later (plus another hosp sis in law had csection at) all had them in L&D OR area, recovered in L&D for a couple of hours than off to mom and baby ward... go figure. Not sure how I'd feel about having baby in general or and recovering in general recovery!! With my older 2 they brought baby right into my room in L&D while I was in "recovery" CJ he's another story, but that was because of his issues.

PS...hubby and I had talked about me having a tubal, but never made final decision before I had emergency section. so..I'm on bc now and will probably stay on for cycle reasons, but hubby..ya snip snip. He has had consult w/urologist and he has til end of year to have it done.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

Alexis Erin was born at 8:36 a.m. yesterday morning (08/04/09).

Congrats, Melissa!

I've been feeling much better today. As soon as I start to feel off..I take a second to eat and drink something and so far, I haven't had any episodes.

I hope you are feeling better soon, it's very tiring to figure yourself out while someone else is demanding all you time. A tip our lac nurse gave me was to make a snack and drink to sit down with. I bring up a huge drink of water and a granola bar at night so I have something if I'm hungry.

OMG.. Im so tired I could cry. Thats a lie. I did cry. A lot. I hate not sleeping!! I have sleep trouble anyways... I cant fall asleep before 1 am. EVER. No matter how tired I am, I cant get to sleep. I have way to much stuff going on in my head. And now the babies are going crazy! If its not one waking up, its the other. Tag Team!!! AND I woke up to my 4yo in my bed this morning. It totally freaked me out, because I felt a body by my legs this morning.. Now, my dh works nights, so i knew it wasnt him.. Vinny was up by my head.. and I THOUGHT Jasmine was in her crib. Then I thought.. My god!! What if I got Jasmine out of the crib and brought her to bed with me and I dont remember!! I was freaking out.. Till I looked over and saw Mikalah. PHEW!

Anyhow.. they are both napping right now. Why am I not napping as well you ask?? I have to clean the kitchen. and the rest of my house is a wreck... but I gave up after the kitchen. Its the most important part right? I mean, we HAVE to eat. No matter how many times I try to convince the kids that we only need to eat once a day.. they just dont agree.

I do the same thing when DH is gone. I wake up and think, oh god... did I put the baby in the basinette? And there he is sleeping like a log. Then I have to go to the other room to check the other snoring log.

I would give up chocolate for a maid! The downstairs is fine, but the upstairs looks like a tornado dumped a second house all over the place. The kids rooms are fine, seemingly all the runoff comes to our room.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

I totally forgot to post about the baby's 2 month appointment. He is 1 1/2 inches longer and 2.5 pounds heavier. He is hitting all the milestone and is on the same curve as last time. After getting his shots and Rotateq he was ready to nurse and get out of there. At about 1130 he woke up screaming and all stiff. I couldn't consol him or get him to nurse. He just lay there working himself up. We walked around for about an hour together before he calmed down and nursed. He was grunting all night long and woke up around 230 crying and he had a big poop and gas.

This morning he had a small fever and was very cranky. I didn't have this reaction with my first so it really scared me. He's much better now, no screaming or fever, normal in and out all day. The doctors office just told me to give his tylenol closer together and wait until tomorrow. If he keeps screaming while grunting they want to see him. Anyone have anything like this before? He hasn't grunted in a while, but I don't know what tonight will bring.

 

[staley7580]

Congrats, Melissa!



I hope you are feeling better soon, it's very tiring to figure yourself out while someone else is demanding all you time. A tip our lac nurse gave me was to make a snack and drink to sit down with. I bring up a huge drink of water and a granola bar at night so I have something if I'm hungry.



I do the same thing when DH is gone. I wake up and think, oh god... did I put the baby in the basinette? And there he is sleeping like a log. Then I have to go to the other room to check the other snoring log.

I would give up chocolate for a maid! The downstairs is fine, but the upstairs looks like a tornado dumped a second house all over the place. The kids rooms are fine, seemingly all the runoff comes to our room.

A maid would be HEAVENLY!!! I havent had a clean house since I had the twins. I SCRUBBED EVERYTHING before I went to the hospital... Now it looks like I have never cleaned it at all!

I totally forgot to post about the baby's 2 month appointment. He is 1 1/2 inches longer and 2.5 pounds heavier. He is hitting all the milestone and is on the same curve as last time. After getting his shots and Rotateq he was ready to nurse and get out of there. At about 1130 he woke up screaming and all stiff. I couldn't consol him or get him to nurse. He just lay there working himself up. We walked around for about an hour together before he calmed down and nursed. He was grunting all night long and woke up around 230 crying and he had a big poop and gas.

This morning he had a small fever and was very cranky. I didn't have this reaction with my first so it really scared me. He's much better now, no screaming or fever, normal in and out all day. The doctors office just told me to give his tylenol closer together and wait until tomorrow. If he keeps screaming while grunting they want to see him. Anyone have anything like this before? He hasn't grunted in a while, but I don't know what tonight will bring.

Poor guy!! I havent had that happen before either! I hope he is okay.

 

[Piecey]

I totally forgot to post about the baby's 2 month appointment. He is 1 1/2 inches longer and 2.5 pounds heavier. He is hitting all the milestone and is on the same curve as last time. After getting his shots and Rotateq he was ready to nurse and get out of there. At about 1130 he woke up screaming and all stiff. I couldn't consol him or get him to nurse. He just lay there working himself up. We walked around for about an hour together before he calmed down and nursed. He was grunting all night long and woke up around 230 crying and he had a big poop and gas.

This morning he had a small fever and was very cranky. I didn't have this reaction with my first so it really scared me. He's much better now, no screaming or fever, normal in and out all day. The doctors office just told me to give his tylenol closer together and wait until tomorrow. If he keeps screaming while grunting they want to see him. Anyone have anything like this before? He hasn't grunted in a while, but I don't know what tonight will bring.

Yay for him hitting all his milestones!! I hope he was better last night?..


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...Any help/suggestions/thoughts would be great.

A couple days ago I noticed Lucas' butt was a little red so told DH to make sure we're using Desitin at every diaper change. Yesterday was much better, we both thought the redness was almost gone.
Gave Lucas a bottle at 7:30, changed his diaper and didn't notice anything too out of the norm, kwim? Put on the Desitin, put him in his crib.. continued on with life.

A little after 11 he started to stir a bit so I went in to get him, checked his diaper, he'd pooped so I started to wipe a bit and there was blood on the baby wipe. By then he was SCREAMING. So I started trying to dab to clean up the poop instead of wipe (which of course took a looot longer) and he's got two patches on his butt that just look RAW. One the size of a nickle on one cheek and the other cheek has one the size of a half dollar. He is NOT a happy camper. I calmed him down... grabbed my phone and...

I tried to call his pediatrician's office but they've closed for the day (they close at noon on Thurs/Fri apparently!) so I called the L&D unit [they always said to call if we had questions!] and they transferred me to pediatrics where I got the most unhelpful lady alive. She just kept asking me who transferred me to her.


So by then Lucas started screaming again... his butt still looked horrible.. so I put his tub in the dining room, on the floor, filled it up and put him in it. He seemed content for almost an hour... he didn't cry. Even smiled a bit and was gurgling/coo'ing at me.

About 45 minuted ago he started screaming again so I got him out of his tub, wrapped him up in a towel and cuddled him. He finally fell asleep and he's been asleep, on my lap, since.

I feel horrible. I don't know what to do to help him. Will definitely be calling his pediatrician first thing in the morning though.
Thought about taking him to the hospital.. they have a "Fast Track" program through the ER that works like one of those quickie medical centers. They close at 9...

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

Hi,
The baby is much better today. No screaming last night so I guess it was just the shots. He's a happy boy today!

Piecey - Poor little guy. I hope he's feeling better soon. He may just be irritated from the wipes. For the time being, try using gauze soaked in warm water or a clean wash cloth instead of wipes. I know it will be a pain, but those wipes (even the alcohol free ones) can be very irritating. Put lots of Desitin or Vaseline on the whole butt and just keep changing him as usual. If it starts to spread in little dots (like little pimples almost) you should take him in when you can. It might be a yeast infection if it starts to spread out with little dots. My oldest DS had one that bled a few weeks ago only when we wiped it, so we switched to gauze and put vaseline on it. It was healed up in a few days.

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

*Copied from the Moms-to-Be thread because I'm just that tired*

Alexis Erin was born at 8:36 a.m. yesterday morning (08/04/09). She weighed 7 lbs. and is 19 and 3/4 inches long. All my kids were born with lots of hair, but she has more than any of the rest of them. Nursing is going well when she's awake. Getting her to wake up and eat has been a little more of a challenge. But we've been working on it. Today was better. It's been easy to update FB about her from my cell phone, harder to get a good internet connection here at the hospital.

I'll write up more details about the birth when I get home where I know there is a reliable internet connection, but for now I just wanted to pass the news along to everyone. I'll also upload some pictures. But again, I want to wait until I'm using my home connection that I know will work.

Welcome Alexis Glad to hear everything is going well!!!

 

[DannysMom]

So I finally feel like I actually belong here on the newest moms thread -- Katie is home & napping in her crib. Dylan still needs some time. Hopefully not more than a week or two, but we'll see.

Piecey, I'd take Lucas in to the ped in the morning, poor baby sounds uncomfortable -- but until then I agree with just using water to clean him & keeping him covered in vaseline or desitin. Hope he feels better soon.

 

[staley7580]

So I finally feel like I actually belong here on the newest moms thread -- Katie is home & napping in her crib. Dylan still needs some time. Hopefully not more than a week or two, but we'll see.

Piecey, I'd take Lucas in to the ped in the morning, poor baby sounds uncomfortable -- but until then I agree with just using water to clean him & keeping him covered in vaseline or desitin. Hope he feels better soon.

Congratulations!!!!! Im so excited for you!!

 

[Piecey]

Thanks everyone. I got a PM from someone who read here (thanks btw, I never got around to responding to the PM) to put Aquaphor on it.

Went to CVS (ouch!) down the road and we put some on him and he's happily swinging away in his swing with the teddy bear that plays music. I even got some shots of him smiling in the pack-n-play after DH changed the diaper and put the Aquaphor on!! First time I caught a smile with the camera... It's not a huge one but it's big enough to make me ecstatic after the day we had.

 

[Adi12982]

Glad the Aquaphor worked - I know I'm not a new mom yet - but I have done child care forever and have a zillion cousins - and it is what my mom swears by: If you are at home try washing him off instead of using wipes, and stick to wipes mostly for when you are out. You can just stick his little bottom under the sinks running water to get him clean, and then pat dry with a towel like you would after a bath It will be less irritating (and of course stick to the creams/Vaseline/desitin routine). Glad to see him smiling again