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[ADAMANDLISA]

I don't think it's the teething so much, as the point in time where their attention gets diverted from eating to other things in the room. This wouldn't be so bad if they weren't still attached to you!

Hope everyone here is doing good! My baby is turning 6 months old tomorrow and I can't believe it! Time is flying and he has changed so much. He army-crawls so cute...we call him the "Worm" (the kids call him our Wormy Worm...very cute). He is so fast already. Just waiting to hear a "Mama" out of him!

I'll get caught up on here one day. (probably when I replace the laptop my cat peed on and fried!)

 

[Piecey]

Hey, I don't know if anyone plans on using these... but I ordered this set a few weeks ago and it came today and I noticed it was still on sale. Can't remember if I posted this before or not, so I thought I'd post it for anyone who wants to take advantage.

http://www.deepdiscount.com/viewproduct.htm?productId=5740746

It's a 4pk of Baby Einstein DVDs for $15.98. Free Shipping.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

I was wondering if anyone could tell me what its like to bf teething babies? I just think it sounds like its very painful! And with having such a bout of thrush and going through that pain, I'm not sure I want to handle the teething!

DS is soooo much a bo*@ boy! I gave him some what my mom calls num-num yesterday for the first time in a couple of days (he has been getting the milk, but just through the bottle) and he was all smiles! He so content when he is attached to me! I just wish he would eat a little quicker when he is attached!

Shootingstarmom-You are so much more modest than I probably am! Of course in public I cover up and usually try to sit in the corner of the table or out of direct line of sight if possible but if I am at home or somewhere where I am comfortable and start to nurse, I just whip it out and forget to look to see who is around! I have gotten a little better and throw a baby blanket over me but still, I think, I was there first so they can leave the room, not me! I know, I am so mean! Not to mention Zander hates to be covered up when he nurses so it makes it difficult!

I guess I just don't want people seeing the majority of my "you knows" when I'm trying to latch. I don't care once he's eating at all. Don't like it? Don't look. Teething and BFing isn't too terrible until they realize it's fun to bite you because of the reaction you give. My first got 2 middle bottom teeth at 5 months and I continued to nurse until he was 1. Right at the end he started to bite but he had a nasty cold at the time too so he couldn't breathe enough to nurse. It was a clean break and I was terrified he would hate me for not nursing anymore, but he never asked again after the last time. Sigh! I was glad it was over but sad at the same time. It was a nice feeling to buy normal bras and not have the whole world seeing those little latches if it showed a little bit.

ETA: My DSIL lent me some nursing bras and I have to say that after trying Walmart, Target, and Motherhood these are the best! They are Elle Macphearson nursing bras (who knew she sold that?!). They are pricey $35-55 each, but they have an extra few inches of latches in the back so you can make it fit throughout the day. So if you are struggling with your off the rack bra, these totally rock!

 

[december]

Hey, I don't know if anyone plans on using these... but I ordered this set a few weeks ago and it came today and I noticed it was still on sale. Can't remember if I posted this before or not, so I thought I'd post it for anyone who wants to take advantage.

http://www.deepdiscount.com/viewproduct.htm?productId=5740746

It's a 4pk of Baby Einstein DVDs for $15.98. Free Shipping.

Thank you! I just ordered 2 sets-one for me and one for the next baby shower I'm invited to! I got the Baby Neptune one from my sister over the weekend (the only one she had left from when her son was little). But it was still a good deal to get the other 3. They were "temporarily out of stock" but still processed my order, and won't charge me until they ship mine out.

 

[Piecey]

Thank you! I just ordered 2 sets-one for me and one for the next baby shower I'm invited to! I got the Baby Neptune one from my sister over the weekend (the only one she had left from when her son was little). But it was still a good deal to get the other 3. They were "temporarily out of stock" but still processed my order, and won't charge me until they ship mine out.

You're welcome!
They were backordered when I ordered mine, too. I just checked-- I ordered them July 21st, so not too terrible of a turn around for them to have already gotten to me.

Lucas now has 5! My mom found one of the 9m ones at a yard sale for .75c!

 

[staley7580]

Staley-it sounds like you have double the fun on everything! I hope you don't mind me asking, but are your bfing? I just ask because I was wondering if anyone could tell me what its like to bf teething babies? I just think it sounds like its very painful! And with having such a bout of thrush and going through that pain, I'm not sure I want to handle the teething!

december-I'm so glad Katie did so well the first day, although I am sure it was a little bittersweet for you!

Patsy-those jammies are adorable! I know what you mean about not being able to wear things for long. Zander is already into a lot of his 3-6 months clothes and growing out of the cute 0-3 months very quickly. I can't wait to find out what he weighs and how long he is on Thursday!

I have my 6 week checkup this morning so wish me luck! I can't wait to go and find out if I am supposed to still be bleeding. It had slacked off but now seems to have gotten heavier in the last few days. (Sorry if this is TMI!)

DS is soooo much a bo*@ boy! I gave him some what my mom calls num-num yesterday for the first time in a couple of days (he has been getting the milk, but just through the bottle) and he was all smiles! He so content when he is attached to me! I just wish he would eat a little quicker when he is attached!

Shootingstarmom-You are so much more modest than I probably am! Of course in public I cover up and usually try to sit in the corner of the table or out of direct line of sight if possible but if I am at home or somewhere where I am comfortable and start to nurse, I just whip it out and forget to look to see who is around! I have gotten a little better and throw a baby blanket over me but still, I think, I was there first so they can leave the room, not me! I know, I am so mean! Not to mention Zander hates to be covered up when he nurses so it makes it difficult!

Im not Breast feeding anymore. I stopped at 6 weeks.. I just couldnt hang anymore. I give HUGE props to the mommas that can do it, but it just wasnt for me. Between pumping, and feedings and supplementing.. I was going nutso!

 

[mmkk]

I made it to 6 weeks with Madeline. And sometimes I wonder how much longer I will be able to make it with Zander. I am trying really hard but there are so many times that it either doesn't feel right or is exhausting or something to make me doubt myself.

My 6 week checkup went well-I am cleared to be back to normal!
I had to schedule an annual visit for next Friday so I can get a pap done and cleared so that they can put an IUD in.

Now its Zander's turn for the doc-he has his on Thursday.

 

[staley7580]

I made it to 6 weeks with Madeline. And sometimes I wonder how much longer I will be able to make it with Zander. I am trying really hard but there are so many times that it either doesn't feel right or is exhausting or something to make me doubt myself.

My 6 week checkup went well-I am cleared to be back to normal!
I had to schedule an annual visit for next Friday so I can get a pap done and cleared so that they can put an IUD in.

Now its Zander's turn for the doc-he has his on Thursday.

I dont know what made me think I could bf twins. I didnt bf my older kids more then a couple of weeks... and I seriously thought I could do it with twins. oh well.

Awesome! Yay for being normal! Is it bad that my babies are 5 months old, and I still dont know what I want to do for BC. I am pretty sure that dh is getting the big snip... but we just want to make 100% sure we are done. He has said that he will gladly get it reversed if we decide to have another... but is that something that I really want him to go through again?

 

[Piecey]

I made it to 6 weeks with Madeline. And sometimes I wonder how much longer I will be able to make it with Zander. I am trying really hard but there are so many times that it either doesn't feel right or is exhausting or something to make me doubt myself.

My 6 week checkup went well-I am cleared to be back to normal!
I had to schedule an annual visit for next Friday so I can get a pap done and cleared so that they can put an IUD in.

Now its Zander's turn for the doc-he has his on Thursday.

It was baffling to me that my only checkup after the c-section was my 6wk appt. I guess they know what they're doing though...

I dont know what made me think I could bf twins. I didnt bf my older kids more then a couple of weeks... and I seriously thought I could do it with twins. oh well.

Awesome! Yay for being normal! Is it bad that my babies are 5 months old, and I still dont know what I want to do for BC. I am pretty sure that dh is getting the big snip... but we just want to make 100% sure we are done. He has said that he will gladly get it reversed if we decide to have another... but is that something that I really want him to go through again?

...you don't have to read all this nonsense rambling below, but it's kinda nice to get some of this off of my mind...

I was scheduled to get an IUD put in, then my insurance company threw a fit and delayed it. When that got all straightened out, the Drs office called and by then I was starting to think that another baby wouldn't be the end of the world. I can't imagine making Lucas an only kid. That seems horribly unfair to me.
Then I got my gallbladder out last week and I started thinking I only want Lucas.

So I've now figured out the recovery from the surgery is why I've been unable to imagine another baby. It's not because I don't want another baby, it's because I don't want another baby and all that pain. I felt so helpless. DH was super proud of me when I told him I think it was the surgery that made me hesitant to have another baby. He just smiled and said "I'm glad you finally put that together." Apparently he'd already gotten that far.

So now I'm torn again. Sure, I'm not going to need to get my gallbladder out again... but I'll *probably* have to have another c-section. I'm not sure that I want to even attempt a VBAC because I think I'd be better off emotionally to go into a c-section KNOWING that was what was going to happen.
But DH can "bank" leave (up to 240 hours can be saved and carried over year to year) so thinking if he starts banking now... he can take 2-3 weeks with me when new baby would be born. Which would be an amazing help. Of course I've not brought this up to him yet. He gets 6hrs of annual leave, 4 hrs of sick leave every 2 weeks... so it wouldn't take long for him to save that up and stay home with us until I'm 100% up and ready to go.

But I still can't convince myself. Is that crazy? He's super happy that I decided not to do the IUD when my OB said I could start trying next June (I couldn't imagine having it put in and then turn around and get it taken out in 10months to TTC) because we want our kids as close together as possible.

Phew. Thats all been swimming around in my mind for awhile now.

 

[DannysMom]

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I was scheduled to get an IUD put in, then my insurance company threw a fit and delayed it. When that got all straightened out, the Drs office called and by then I was starting to think that another baby wouldn't be the end of the world. I can't imagine making Lucas an only kid. That seems horribly unfair to me.
Then I got my gallbladder out last week and I started thinking I only want Lucas.

So I've now figured out the recovery from the surgery is why I've been unable to imagine another baby. It's not because I don't want another baby, it's because I don't want another baby and all that pain. I felt so helpless. DH was super proud of me when I told him I think it was the surgery that made me hesitant to have another baby. He just smiled and said "I'm glad you finally put that together." Apparently he'd already gotten that far.

So now I'm torn again. Sure, I'm not going to need to get my gallbladder out again... but I'll *probably* have to have another c-section. I'm not sure that I want to even attempt a VBAC because I think I'd be better off emotionally to go into a c-section KNOWING that was what was going to happen.
But DH can "bank" leave (up to 240 hours can be saved and carried over year to year) so thinking if he starts banking now... he can take 2-3 weeks with me when new baby would be born. Which would be an amazing help. Of course I've not brought this up to him yet. He gets 6hrs of annual leave, 4 hrs of sick leave every 2 weeks... so it wouldn't take long for him to save that up and stay home with us until I'm 100% up and ready to go.

But I still can't convince myself. Is that crazy? He's super happy that I decided not to do the IUD when my OB said I could start trying next June (I couldn't imagine having it put in and then turn around and get it taken out in 10months to TTC) because we want our kids as close together as possible.

Phew. Thats all been swimming around in my mind for awhile now.

If you go into it knowing it'll be a c/s *and* you are able to line up help for at least 2 weeks, so that you can recover properly-- it shouldn't be too bad. It seems to me that most women that had a tough time w/ the recovery from a c/s went into it after a long hard, failed labor and/or admitted to not taking it as easy as they should have right after delivery. As long as you have enough friends &/or family ready to lend a hand so you can recover, I think you can handle it.

The one good thing about the babies staying in the hospital was that I was able to recover from surgery w/o a lot of demands on me. I was technically an "emergency" c/s -- but since I really don't feel contractions until I'm in full out transition & ready to blow out a baby, it wasn't like I went into the OR already exhausted & in pain. I'll admit that the recovery from a v@ginal birth was easier on me. And at the beginning I was not loving the surgical recovery, but it was pretty short lived. I was done w/ percosets by 8 days out & by 10 days I wanted to be able to drive already & felt that I could have. (I did wait the full 2 weeks.)

But really Lucas is still sooooo young, you probably don't need to decide just yet. At least give yourself until he's 6-8 months old.

They are "threatening" to send Katie home..... again. They did this about a week ago & Katie started acting like a preemie again & slowed them down. So now they were actually talking about sending her home today, but while I was feeding her, she desatted (blood oxygen levels went down) & scuttled their plans. Dylan is still mostly tube fed -- so not close to coming home yet. And once Katie is home getting to the hospital gets more problematic, it's not like I can bring her back to visit. So I'm ok w/ waiting. Maybe KAtie will be home in a couple of days. And hopefully Dylan won't take too long to work out his issues.

I still don't know what I want to do about birth control. I need to do something, as I think these 2 are the end for us. I'm getting too old for this....

 

[harleyquinn]

Alright ladies I need help.

For the last 3 days I've had periods of dibilitating baby blues. At first I was just bursting into tears for no good reason when thinking about DH going back to work or me going back...last night I had a spell where I felt like I was going to faint and I've been nauseus and generally weird since then. I thought it was anemia and called the dr who told me to take iron pills, but now I think it was because I was dehydrated...I haven't been drinking or eating enough. And now I have very little appetite, plus the nausea, whoich makes everything harder.

Whenever I've been anxious in the past I get nausea, so I think it's part of that.

It's so overwhelming!! I don't feel bad feelings toward the baby or DH, but it's hard to take care of her--holding her and nursing makes me think of the future and then I just cry. DH's aunt and uncle visited yesterday and I broke out in tears while they were here.

I'm thinking of calling the dr tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure they'll just tell me it's the blues and to wait it out for another week...

 

[Piecey]

Alright ladies I need help.

For the last 3 days I've had periods of dibilitating baby blues. At first I was just bursting into tears for no good reason when thinking about DH going back to work or me going back...last night I had a spell where I felt like I was going to faint and I've been nauseus and generally weird since then. I thought it was anemia and called the dr who told me to take iron pills, but now I think it was because I was dehydrated...I haven't been drinking or eating enough. And now I have very little appetite, plus the nausea, whoich makes everything harder.

Whenever I've been anxious in the past I get nausea, so I think it's part of that.

It's so overwhelming!! I don't feel bad feelings toward the baby or DH, but it's hard to take care of her--holding her and nursing makes me think of the future and then I just cry. DH's aunt and uncle visited yesterday and I broke out in tears while they were here.

I'm thinking of calling the dr tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure they'll just tell me it's the blues and to wait it out for another week...

Hope I helped. I accidentally messed up FB somehow and when I got back it said you were offline.

 

[staley7580]

Alright ladies I need help.

For the last 3 days I've had periods of dibilitating baby blues. At first I was just bursting into tears for no good reason when thinking about DH going back to work or me going back...last night I had a spell where I felt like I was going to faint and I've been nauseus and generally weird since then. I thought it was anemia and called the dr who told me to take iron pills, but now I think it was because I was dehydrated...I haven't been drinking or eating enough. And now I have very little appetite, plus the nausea, whoich makes everything harder.

Whenever I've been anxious in the past I get nausea, so I think it's part of that.

It's so overwhelming!! I don't feel bad feelings toward the baby or DH, but it's hard to take care of her--holding her and nursing makes me think of the future and then I just cry. DH's aunt and uncle visited yesterday and I broke out in tears while they were here.

I'm thinking of calling the dr tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure they'll just tell me it's the blues and to wait it out for another week...

I have never had PPD, But I just wanted to say that it is very normal to feel like that after having a baby. Its a very emotion time, and hormones are raging. With my first I cried ALL the time. I was a wreck. Also remember that if you are nursing, you need to drink a lot of water and eat a ton of food. You have to take care of yourself, so you can take of your baby. I so hope you start feeling better and DO call your Dr. and tell them everything that is going on. You're a new mommy, and it is very overwhelming! Ill be thinking of you.

 

[mmkk]

Sarah-yes, DO call your doctor today. I actually didn't start feeling "bluesy" symptoms until Madeline was about a year old. I think mime was truly depression since it wasn't right after birth. I had to take Welbutrin for about a year and half, which really helped. But yours is alot of the hormones, plus sleep deprivation, and probably some lack of nutrition since you are bfing and not eating like you should. So don't beat yourself up about it, but talk to your doc, and talk to us and whomever you feel comfortable talking to. I know talking about it helped me.

 

[mmkk]

Oh, I almost forgot to post what I came on here specifically to tell ya'll. Zander slept for 6 hours last night! Now if I could get him to quietly sleep1 I kept waking up thinking he was about to fully wake up to eat so I didn't get the whole 6 hrs. but I will take what I can get. This was after eating 4 oz. of formula, followed by 2 oz. of pumped br*@stmilk and then a little num-num time! I was afraid he was going to throw up but he just wasn't satisfied until he latched on and then fell asleep! This was over an hour and a half time.

Now we'll see if I can get him to do this again tonight!

 

[Laura]

Alright ladies I need help.

For the last 3 days I've had periods of dibilitating baby blues. At first I was just bursting into tears for no good reason when thinking about DH going back to work or me going back...last night I had a spell where I felt like I was going to faint and I've been nauseus and generally weird since then. I thought it was anemia and called the dr who told me to take iron pills, but now I think it was because I was dehydrated...I haven't been drinking or eating enough. And now I have very little appetite, plus the nausea, whoich makes everything harder.

Whenever I've been anxious in the past I get nausea, so I think it's part of that.

It's so overwhelming!! I don't feel bad feelings toward the baby or DH, but it's hard to take care of her--holding her and nursing makes me think of the future and then I just cry. DH's aunt and uncle visited yesterday and I broke out in tears while they were here.

I'm thinking of calling the dr tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure they'll just tell me it's the blues and to wait it out for another week...

I just had "baby blues" not PPD. So I don't have any really useful advice. I would call the doctor and let them know how you feel. I can tell you I was feeling better about 3 weeks after DD was born.

I dont know what made me think I could bf twins. I didnt bf my older kids more then a couple of weeks... and I seriously thought I could do it with twins. oh well.

Hey, you tried! If I'd had twins, maybe I would have tried too, but I'm sure I wouldn't have gone very long. The first few weeks were insane; I could not imagine doing it with two! My thought about breastfeeding is that a mom should at least give it a try (unless, of course, there's a reason not to). If it doesn't work out, oh well. I can't stand breastfeeding Nazis who pile on the guilt and make you think formula is poison or something.

I'm so glad I'm in the process of weaning. The pumping is making me stir crazy, and I don't make enough to put in her bottles at daycare, so I top it off with formula. I'm not looking forward to buying formula all the time, but it's not forever. I'm ready to let go of the responsibility. And we may get down to one feeding a day and do that for a while.

 

[Piecey]

I know most of you didn't have a c-section, but maybe you knew the policies about them where you delivered...

Still trying to decide if I want to get the IUD/have another baby. I know have awhile to make the decision but have been thinking of the bigger picture... for instance If I have another baby would I want my tubes tied? Whole reason behind this line of thinking is because there are 2 hospitals here. One that I hate (where I had my gallbladder out) and the one I had Lucas at-- which is Catholic, so no tubals.

Talked to a friend who works in the surgery unit at the hospital I hate (because if I want my tubes tied I'd have to deliver there) and all c-sections are done in the general OR. Odd to me, where I had Lucas there was a specific OR on the L&D floor for c-sections.
At the other hospital after you go to the general OR for your c-section you're taken to the same massive recovery room I was in after my gallbladder surgery.

I would hate that. I think I would have been ever more miserable afterwards. So, is anyone elses hospital set up that way?? Where I had Lucas I went straight back to my L&D room and people were welcome to come in and see me. No lonely recovery room involved.

So which way is more normal? Anyone have any idea?

...the things that get stuck in my head are amazing.

 

[DannysMom]

So which way is more normal? Anyone have any idea?

...the things that get stuck in my head are amazing.

Since I was at a hospital with a regional perinatal center, there were dedicated c-section OR's on the L&D floor. There was a small (4-6 bed) recovery room, where I would guess I spent the first hour or two post c/s -- but visitors were welcome, my mom & DH were both there with me.

Are there really on 2 hospital choices? Near me, I can think of at least 3 hospitals pretty close & around 7 (maybe more) if I venture just a little bit further afield -- which would include the one where I delivered.

 

[staley7580]

My hospital had an OR on the L&D floor. I dont know how recovery went, but Im pretty sure they just wheel you back to your room.

 

[Laura]

Our hospital had an OR on the labor and delivery floor for c-sections. I would call the maternity ward of the hospital you hate and double-check.