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Best solution...don't get divorced in the first place. I know that's not always realistic.
Bottom line, my rules would be simple:
You must go to marriage counseling for at least 1 year prior to getting a divorce (3 years if you have children), with no separation during this time, unless the marriage counselor recommends it, without either person asking.
If either person doesn't participate in the marriage counseling, they get nothing.
If someone cheats on the other person, the person who cheated is entitled to absolutely nothing, no child support (even if they somehow end up with custody, which would take a lot in my world for this situation), no alimony, no car payments, etc.
If someone entered the marriage under fraudulent pretenses, they also get nothing.
If one person was constantly drunk, again they get nothing.
If either person was convicted of a DUI ever in their life, you guessed it, they get nothing, not even custody or visitations. And absolutely no exceptions to this rule, it is hard and fast. If the other person is unfit, then the children should go to next of kin (again, no DUIs on their record). You are banned from public assistance (for life). If you are found living on the street, you automatically go to jail. Yes, that sounds extreme, but drunk driving is a MAJOR problem and needs to be stopped.
If you are here illegally (even if your kids are citizens), you get nothing and are automatically deported.
As for alimony, if both people were working, there would be no alimony for either party, no matter what the income of each is. There may be some extenuating circumstances, but not many.
There are other situations to, but these would be my basic rules. Aren't you glad I don't rule the world? LOL
I know that this sounds extreme, but seriously, I think it would reduce divorce rates, which are alarmingly high and lower divorce rates would result in a lot better world all around."
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frick no