The Fabby LapuLapuettes Part IV: My Pineapple Needs a Refill!

[Lady Lallie]

Wowser! Your BF is a changed Disney man!! Has he been hanging out with Jackie's husband?

 

[TarzansKat]

::::clears throat noisily:::

How do I get to be part of "everyone?"

 

[If U Had Wings]

Lapuettes, I'm here with a warning.

A VERY SERIOUS WARNING.

Please. Sit down. Hold your young ones and furry ones close.






The world and possibly the World is about to end.






BF, and I quote:

"Well, if we win Powerball tonight we'll take everyone on a Disney cruise."





I need a cool, moist towel.


DUDE.

Who are you and what have you done with my BF?

I'm raising August Disney odds to 80/20. Stay tuned.

(Oh, and we obviously didn't win Powerball. That's ok. As far as BF is concerned that just means we'll win more on Saturday. )

You've been slipping him the Disney Kool-Aid haven't you? Come clean you can tell us the truth.

::::clears throat noisily:::

How do I get to be part of "everyone?"

You are Tink's long lost Disney sister aren't you? I think you get to slip in with "everyone".

 

[Charleston Princess]

Oh, my! Sounds like your BF has been possessed by the Disney magic, Tink!

 

[pooh'smate]

Lapuettes, I'm here with a warning.

A VERY SERIOUS WARNING.

Please. Sit down. Hold your young ones and furry ones close.






The world and possibly the World is about to end.






BF, and I quote:

"Well, if we win Powerball tonight we'll take everyone on a Disney cruise."





I need a cool, moist towel.


DUDE.

Who are you and what have you done with my BF?

I'm raising August Disney odds to 80/20. Stay tuned.

(Oh, and we obviously didn't win Powerball. That's ok. As far as BF is concerned that just means we'll win more on Saturday. )

Yay for you!!!!! Now can he talk some sense into my dh. I am so frustrated as he thinks we need to go visit family again for our vacation. We did that last year and this year I want to do something with just our family.

 

[TarzansKat]

Yay for you!!!!! Now can he talk some sense into my dh. I am so frustrated as he thinks we need to go visit family again for our vacation. We did that last year and this year I want to do something with just our family.

Trust me, spending every vacation with family is overrated.

Please refer him to my trip report from last year.

 

[MRYPPNS]

The only way I'm going on vacation with family is if they are paying for the whole thing......and even then I'd still have issues.

 

[pooh'smate]

Trust me, spending every vacation with family is overrated.

Please refer him to my trip report from last year.

The only way I'm going on vacation with family is if they are paying for the whole thing......and even then I'd still have issues.

Well get this we don't actually go anywhere but to stay at my inlaws house. We spend about 5 day there traveling around every day to see the people in his family. It is NOT restful and relaxing. They do pay for our hotel and gas money to go and come back but we need family time too. It takes 4 days total of travel 2 to get there and 2 on the way back. Yet his parents who are retired won't come and see us. I told him he needs to stop feeling guilty if we don't see them. I am so glad we don't live closer to them because my dh would be so stressed out as they do that to him all the time when we go and visit. I have no idea how he turned out so "normal". All the rest of his family is codependant on each other.

 

[MRYPPNS]

Well get this we don't actually go anywhere but to stay at my inlaws house. We spend about 5 day there traveling around every day to see the people in his family. It is NOT restful and relaxing. They do pay for our hotel and gas money to go and come back but we need family time too. It takes 4 days total of travel 2 to get there and 2 on the way back. Yet his parents who are retired won't come and see us. I told him he needs to stop feeling guilty if we don't see them. I am so glad we don't live closer to them because my dh would be so stressed out as they do that to him all the time when we go and visit. I have no idea how he turned out so "normal". All the rest of his family is codependant on each other.

That's doesn't sound like a vacation.....it sounds like a business trip

What would your DH do if you refused to go?

 

[pooh'smate]

That's doesn't sound like a vacation.....it sounds like a business trip

What would your DH do if you refused to go?

You are right it isn't a vacation. I am more rested when I am home and working then when I go on "vacation" to see my inlaws in Montreal. I have told him more thean once to go without me but he won't. Part of the problem is that his parents did EVERYTHING together and my parents (like most I know) did things seprate. We always had a couple of vacations together where we went and did something together. His family only ever went to see his fathers family in New York (4 hours from Montreal). Once DH was older he would rent a cabin on a lake but that was it.

 

[TarzansKat]

and even then I'd still have issues.

Welcome to my December trip report.

Well get this we don't actually go anywhere but to stay at my inlaws house. We spend about 5 day there traveling around every day to see the people in his family. It is NOT restful and relaxing. They do pay for our hotel and gas money to go and come back but we need family time too. It takes 4 days total of travel 2 to get there and 2 on the way back. Yet his parents who are retired won't come and see us. I told him he needs to stop feeling guilty if we don't see them. I am so glad we don't live closer to them because my dh would be so stressed out as they do that to him all the time when we go and visit. I have no idea how he turned out so "normal". All the rest of his family is codependant on each other.

Oh my goodness! That's no vacation at all!!!

You are right it isn't a vacation. I am more rested when I am home and working then when I go on "vacation" to see my inlaws in Montreal. I have told him more thean once to go without me but he won't. Part of the problem is that his parents did EVERYTHING together and my parents (like most I know) did things seprate. We always had a couple of vacations together where we went and did something together. His family only ever went to see his fathers family in New York (4 hours from Montreal). Once DH was older he would rent a cabin on a lake but that was it.

Oh, hon.

I don't mean to be harsh, but I'm going to say it and hope that it helps you in some small way.

You, DH, and DD. You ARE a family. You are THE family. And the three of you? That's what matters. You NEED to take time for yourselves that is unrelated to any other family members. Trust me on this one. It's for the greater good. And I say that as a girl who was raised to love family, and who really can't live without it, but in the end, you have got to have that bond within your own family unit, because you're the one who has to live with "you/us" 365/24/7. You know?

You so need this trip. Regardless of whether or not you take your daughter, you need this trip. And although I don't know him, I think your husband does too. You both need to see how wonderful it can be to just be you.

 

[pooh'smate]

Trust me you are not being harsh. I have said this to him to many times to count. The 3 of us are the family. You an dI think alike on this one. He is the one who disagrees with me. I think they are trying to guilt him into going to see them again. He tells me they ask when we are going next every time he talks to them. I told him they are just playing games with him. He says that I can say that because my parents come and stay with us 2 times a years. They stop and stay with us in their way to and from Arizona. His parents are retired they could travel here if they really wanted to. They have before. He keeps saying that he wants dd to know her grandparents but I say they have to make an effort too not just us.

 

[TarzansKat]

Trust me you are not being harsh. I have said this to him to many times to count. The 3 of us are the family. You an dI think alike on this one. He is the one who disagrees with me. I think they are trying to guilt him into going to see them again. He tells me they ask when we are going next every time he talks to them. I told him they are just playing games with him. He says that I can say that because my parents come and stay with us 2 times a years. They stop and stay with us in their way to and from Arizona. His parents are retired they could travel here if they really wanted to. They have before. He keeps saying that he wants dd to know her grandparents but I say they have to make an effort too not just us.

Oh, I sincerely hope I get to meet you in Sept / Oct. I would give you the biggest dang hug I could muster up!!!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My son has three grandparents who are heavily involved in his life and a fourth who is not. At. All. If we don't go to her, then he doesn't see her. My MIL has been invited here SEVERAL times. I can count on one hand the number of times (and it's less than five) that she's been here to see my son, and we've lived here for 3 years. And quite frankly, she rarely came to our other home before this one. It's just not reciprocal, but my DH, bless him. "I haven't seen my mother in so long."

TK's reply. "Not our fault."

I try to be nice about it, but part of me has no energy for it. Now, my FIL, on the other hand...that man co-owns his own restaurant with one of his brothers, and it doesn't matter what day, what time, what holiday, that man is always available to come see us. Always. And he calls me to wish me a happy mother's day. You know what I mean?

I try to remind myself to be grateful for what we do have, and not harp on what we don't. Unfortunately, it is very hard when your (my) DH doesn't see it the way you do. As in, he's choosing to be blissfully ignorant. And then all you can do is sigh, and say they're his family, but stick your foot down when it's important.

I wish I could fix it for you.

 

[pooh'smate]

Oh, I sincerely hope I get to meet you in Sept / Oct. I would give you the biggest dang hug I could muster up!!!

I hope I can meet you too. For now this will have to do.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My son has three grandparents who are heavily involved in his life and a fourth who is not. At. All. If we don't go to her, then he doesn't see her. My MIL has been invited here SEVERAL times. I can count on one hand the number of times (and it's less than five) that she's been here to see my son, and we've lived here for 3 years. And quite frankly, she rarely came to our other home before this one. It's just not reciprocal, but my DH, bless him. "I haven't seen my mother in so long."

TK's reply. "Not our fault."

We have told them that they are welcome when ever they want to come.

I wish I could fix it for you. :hug

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Well it does help to just be able to vent.


I have said this before but he does not know about this vacation that I am planning because every time I have brought it up he says, "No we don't have the money for it." So finally I said to myself that if we are ever going to go I am going to have to do it myself because he doesn't even want to plan for it or consider it. I have been putting aside money when I can. I have also had to use alot of it since I have been jobless. I did find a new job and start on Thursday. I am trying to not give up the hope that we will be able to go but I really don't know. So this was the year that I put my foot down and said we ARE going to go on a real family vacation and now I just don't know if it will be able to happen.

 

[TarzansKat]

Oh, hon. Well, at least I can say congratulations on the new job! You never know, here's some pixie dust that everything will fall into place for you.

 

[pooh'smate]

Oh, hon. Well, at least I can say congratulations on the new job! You never know, here's some pixie dust that everything will fall into place for you.

Thanks, I have decided that if we are not going to be able to make it in Sept/Oct I am just going to push the trip back. I will not cancel. If I do cancel it would just make me feel like I will never get to go. Do you understand what I am trying to say?

 

[TarzansKat]

Thanks, I have decided that if we are not going to be able to make it in Sept/Oct I am just going to push the trip back. I will not cancel. If I do cancel it would just make me feel like I will never get to go. Do you understand what I am trying to say?

I totally do, and I agree with you. At least have it planned in the back of your mind, you know? And at the very least, you can book a hotel room at Disney without the package stuff. And quite frankly, when I have a bad day, there's nothing like knowing a Disney trip is in the works to boost my spirits, regardless of how far away it may be.

 

[pooh'smate]

I totally do, and I agree with you. At least have it planned in the back of your mind, you know? And at the very least, you can book a hotel room at Disney without the package stuff. And quite frankly, when I have a bad day, there's nothing like knowing a Disney trip is in the works to boost my spirits, regardless of how far away it may be.

Yes that is my thinking. If at least I have a room booked then I know that there is a chance I can go. Well I have until mid August to come it with the rest of the money so I still have hope.

 

[TarzansKat]

Yes that is my thinking. If at least I have a room booked then I know that there is a chance I can go. Well I have until mid August to come it with the rest of the money so I still have hope.

You never know, hon. I'm a fan of the budget board, if that helps you at all, you should check it out. There's great ideas on how to make / save money over there, and I definitely find some of the posters to be inspirational.

 

[MegansMom]

Just wanted to stop in and say "hi!" Why can't things slow down around here a bit so I can DIS more?!?!?!?!?!? At least all the busyness is for good things---trying to get the house ready to sell, and figure out where we are going to move once that happens. I think we might actually build now....we are getting better deals on new homes than on buying a home.....decisions, decisions, decisions.....and yeah, what else still hangs in limbo until we figure this all out???? That's RIGHT.....OUR TRIP TO WDW!!!!! UGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! I know the house right now is the bigger picture, but I SO need a vacation....at least one to plan for anyway!!! BUT if I have to push it back for a few months so we can handle all the moving, building, and whatnot, I will deal with it someway!!! I want to find some links to pictures/floor plans/info on the houses we are considering to get some feedback from you all.....will work on that, and post again once that goal is accomplished!