The epitome of entitlement mentality!

[LuvCuteBoys]

I agree with everyone else... yikes.

 

[Imzadi]

Oh, the point about this being enough to pay for 2 people -- no, $400 would pay for 10 people. We have done enough fundraising to make the cost $40 a person, but that wouldn't pay for the extras.

Or that could pay for somebody's plane ticket. We have a lot of people who just don't have the money to fly.

Okay, then someone needs to set this woman straight, before hanging up on her. She needs to be told that the donation fund is $40. Another single person has generously put in another $250 directly to her. No one was required to cough that up. If she, herself, can't make that work, or put in the rest, then, as every one else said, "Maybe see you another time." Then hang up!

Unreal!

 

[disneyfans95]

I think at this point your only reasonable reply is, "We'll miss you."

Amen.. I never did the reunions anyway (folks I wanted to see, I still see, even after 20 years)... That said this chick is $^^ out of luck

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Oh, the point about this being enough to pay for 2 people -- no, $400 would pay for 10 people. We have done enough fundraising to make the cost $40 a person, but that wouldn't pay for the extras.

Or that could pay for somebody's plane ticket. We have a lot of people who just don't have the money to fly.

I understand being nice and trying to help someone out.

However I do not understand going over the top trying to help someone who is manipulative.

Hopefully that is becoming clearer to you.

 

[acejka]

why can't she make the calls herself since she isn't busy working?

 

[MushyMushy]

I understand being nice and trying to help someone out.

However I do not understand going over the top trying to help someone who is manipulative.

Hopefully that is becoming clearer to you.

Oh it's crystal clear to me.

It's Sue who's going way above and beyond.

 

[Imzadi]

why can't she make the calls herself since she isn't busy working?

She's too busy playing the Victim card.

OP, you can't win with this one. Even if she is somehow able to get there, she will have complaints about whatever service was used. That's a secondary reason she won't make the calls herself. So she can complain about the choice someone else made for her.

She's manipulative and ungrateful. I agree with stop enabling her. Use the $250 to pay someone's plane ticket, who would be the life of the party.

 

[aaarcher86]

Am I the only one that wants to hear the details on what happened with this woman and the driver who had a broken seat? I mean... what do you do when that happens?

 

[ChefColette]

I think at this point your only reasonable reply is, "We'll miss you."

I agree, you've already done more then enough IMO.

 

[Imzadi]

Am I the only one that wants to hear the details on what happened with this woman and the driver who had a broken seat? I mean... what do you do when that happens?

I'm sure she never paid for the seat.

This is probably why any company Sue has been calling says the cost will be $400. They want their seat paid for up front.

Can this woman even leave the house? How is she going to get up and is she capable of walking on her own? Where is she going to sit at the reunion? have you made arrangements for that, too? Do you have several dense bales of hay for her to sit on or something?

 

[AlleyKat]

Do you have several dense bales of hay for her to sit on or something?

O.M.G....as I was reading the above sentence, I swore it was going to read "for her to eat".

 

[Gigi22]

The committee already has the perfect response. "Since we subsidized your attendance at the last reunion, we feel that it would be unfair to others who need assistance if you were subsidized this time as well." Essentially she has had her kick at the can, it is someone else's turn now.

 

[Pamlur]

My daughter has known somebody like this for over 20 years. It doesn't get better.

 

[MushyMushy]

Am I the only one that wants to hear the details on what happened with this woman and the driver who had a broken seat? I mean... what do you do when that happens?

He was a total gem about taking her. She weighed slightly less back then, so was able to ride in his front seat without buckling the seatbelt, though she spilled way over into his side. I'm not trying to be mean by describing this, but he said her side of the car tilted and he was worried it might drag when they went around corners or into the parking lot. He didn't realize the seat was broken until the next day -- the seat in one of the corners that met the back just sort of collapsed. He was upset, but knew he had no recourse to ask her to pay it, so the seat stayed that way until he bought a new car.

I'm sure she never paid for the seat.

This is probably why any company Sue has been calling says the cost will be $400. They want their seat paid for up front.

Can this woman even leave the house? How is she going to get up and is she capable of walking on her own? Where is she going to sit at the reunion? have you made arrangements for that, too? Do you have several dense bales of hay for her to sit on or something?

You're terrible! She very well might need to sit on two chairs, but that's her problem at that point, if she makes it to the reunion. At the last one, she sat in a corner and watched everybody dance and mingle. People went over to talk to her to make her feel welcome. I don't know if she has mental issues (didn't used to seem that way), but she acts like a little girl now. Very odd.

And she is capable of walking on her own, which is why nobody can understand why she weighs as much as she does! She has never gotten a license -- lives at the bottom of my hill, in fact, and walks all over town. Way more walking than I do. We live in the foothills of the Appalachians, so she's going up and down all sorts of hills in her walks.

 

[Luvchefmic]

Great advice here and even some laughs Sue needs to be told there is a very fine line between being nice & being manipulated ...this woman has to be told glad we could help you in the past, going over the fund raising books with this economy we can't help you this time..sorry...no guilt ..end of story..

 

[MushyMushy]

I was saying to Sue that it might not be so bad if the woman had helped us in ANY way at our fundraisers. I can understand why she might not have come to our committee meetings because they were usually in restaurants, though again knowing all of us, we would have chipped in for a meal for her.

I think we're off the hook now. Sue put the word out on FB that this woman needed a ride, and one woman from town offered to go ahead and drop her off, then go shopping and see a movie and take her home. What an angel. Nothing is engraved in stone yet, but that offer was more than we'd hoped for!

 

[fey_spirit]

You know there is a lot of truth to this...
I have struggled with my weight for years - but here lately I've been dropping the lbs pretty quick (for me anyway), I'm on the broke as heck and can't afford to feed my fat butt diet...

This isn't just entitlement, this type of person has learned full well how to manipulate people by using the Victim card. If this person can pay to feed her 500 lb butt each month, she can pay for part of the transportation. A donation is a donation, not an entitlement to be greedy and ask for more. She's already insatiable. It has more to do with her personality than with her actual weight. Whatever she gets will never be enough.

 

[focusondisney]

Oh, the point about this being enough to pay for 2 people -- no, $400 would pay for 10 people. We have done enough fundraising to make the cost $40 a person, but that wouldn't pay for the extras.

Or that could pay for somebody's plane ticket. We have a lot of people who just don't have the money to fly.

See quote below:

The committee already has the perfect response. "Since we subsidized your attendance at the last reunion, we feel that it would be unfair to others who need assistance if you were subsidized this time as well." Essentially she has had her kick at the can, it is someone else's turn now.

Excellent post! Your committee generously paid for this woman last time, why should she recieve any help this time? There are former classmates not coming because they can't afford to fly, but this broad wants to get a freebie again? If I was on the committee, I'd send date & time info to her & let her run her own life. She is obviously mid 40's, time to grow up & be responsible for herself.

But I'm not an enabler. I like the phrase " A failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."

Her life choices, her problem. Your friend Sue needs to move on; help someone who deserves it.

 

[DawnCt1]

Tell Sue to stop worrying and tell Entitlement Queen to fund her own reunion.

Exactly. She doesn't deserve a dime. She doesn't want to lose weight because she will have to work? Let her do the work of finding herself a ride to her reunion. Not one cent!

 

[scrapbookworm]

These kinds of situations are what makes people this day and time hesitate to help someone. My boss once told me that once you do something for someone, it is come to be expected. I've found that it is easier to help someone that doesn't ask for help (but needs it) than to help someone who shows up with their hand held out.