The Methodist will wave to each other in the liquor store.
Seriously, there are significant differences between (United) Methodists and (Southern) Baptists. I am a UM.
- The UM church has a doctrine of grace that is stronger that is different from any other denomination. The bottom line is that we believe God's grace is the strongest thing in the world. That grace is experienced in different forms (prevenient grace, justifying grace, sanctifying grace)
- We UMs believe baptism is an outward sign of something that God is doing on the inside of a person -God being the key word here. Since the grace received in baptism is something God does, we believe in baptising infants. Incidentally, we baptize in any one of three forms -sprinkling, immersion, or pouring (not as common as the other two). Baptists emphasize baptism more as a human response to God. Thus one must be of age to "understand" in order to be baptized.
- We celebrate women in leadership positions -both lay and clergy. I am a UM pastor. For example, I copastor a church along with my wife, also an ordained pastor. Women cannot be clergy in a Southern Baptist church. That's kind of a big nit I have to pick with them, but I guess that's why I'm a Methodist.
- UM churches are connectional. That means each congregation has its own vibrant ministries, but all UM congregations are connected thru commitment to mission, common doctrine (although its a pretty big tent we live under), financial support, etc.
- This varies from place to place, but UMs (clergy and lay) tend to read the Bible less literally. And yes, we read the WHOLE Bible. We do not as a point of doctrine ignore those parts that are incovenient. For the most part, we do not buy into doomsday doctrines squeezed out of apocolyptic books of the Bible (ie. no rapture theology in the UMC)
Hope this helps... Best wishes to you and your family in choosing the church that's right for you.