The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 20

[Kitchensinkguy]

Chuck says you need to learn to set your priorities better. The truck should always come first! And unfortunately, that is going to be our case. We'll have to pay off the trailer and truck before the DVC. But I can handle that as long as I still get my yearly trips to Disney.

It's not so much priorities as much as lack of forsight. When we decided to buy DVC my Tundra was only 4 years old, and the "new" one was still in developement.

 

[Kitchensinkguy]

No, not at this time. He probably will when it gets closer to us buying it. we can't do that for at least 4 months. We need to pay off the other cars. I hope to postpone it a little longer than that but I don't know if Chuck has the same idea!

He's got the shirt, he NEEDS the truck!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

So how is the job search going

That's what DH said, too. He is REALLY fed up with my bosses coming in late all the time. It has always been a problem, but the past couple of weeks it has been rampant. In one week they were a combined total of 3 hours late. One night Momboss was an hour late. Dadboss was 35 minutes late on a night I specifically told them I HAD to leave ON TIME. They just can NOT manage to make it home on time, and it is getting old. I am early or on time EVERY morning. I have been late once in 3 years because I was stuck in traffic. Between the 2 of them you would think ONE of them could come home ON TIME. They always say "sorry", but they aren't REALLY sorry or it wouldn't KEEP HAPPENING!

I never did reschedule that interview. I was sick, then MLK day, then ice storm, then buying the new car. I did call and tell the agency that I am still planning to come in, just not immediately. Probably after we get home from WDW. They don't have any jobs I want to interview for anyway.

I had a feeling we would have problems on the days she has to go straight to an activity after school. I was right! I should really look into starting up that psychic hotline...

 

[Kitchensinkguy]

And so do I! So I'm not totally abandoning the idea!

Thank you.

 

[mommykds]

Debbie,
Congratulations on paying your mortgage!!! More money for Disney!
Your grandson is so cute!

Tammi,
Hopefully you will enjoy your coffee date..I agree with everyone, ya never know!

Jo,
Hope the dentist can take care of you.

Elizabeth,
Sorry the kids drove you nutzo today.

Goodnight all.

 

[UP Disney]

He's got the shirt, he NEEDS the truck!

He wants to know if there is anyone in the company that can adopt us so we can get the employee discount?

ETA: That is a joke. He isn't the least bit serious (well maybe a tiny bit but not really).

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Sounds like a bite of soap or a teaspoon of tabasco sauce is in order!

I am extremely limited on what sort of discipline I can use, because these are not my children. DS wouldn't DREAM of speaking to me (or anyone else) that way.

My friend used to carry a container of unsweetened cocoa powder and her charges would get that if they were rude or disrespectful. Their parents were in full support of it, too.

The nanny I know who used Tabasco to break her charge of sucking her thumb ended up cultivating quite a little Tabasco lover!

 

[Kitchensinkguy]

He wants to know if there is anyone in the company that can adopt us so we can get the employee discount?

ETA: That is a joke. He isn't the least bit serious (well maybe a tiny bit but not really).

If there is , can you give them my name too? Toyota doesn't have "employee pricing" like most other dealers do. It was so bad at my dealership at one time that we bought Deb's new 4 Runner at another dealership. Needless to say, that didn't go over well.

 

[Tammi67]

I am extremely limited on what sort of discipline I can use, because these are not my children. DS wouldn't DREAM of speaking to me (or anyone else) that way.

My friend used to carry a container of unsweetened cocoa powder and her charges would get that if they were rude or disrespectful. Their parents were in full support of it, too.

The nanny I know who used Tabasco to break her charge of sucking her thumb ended up cultivating quite a little Tabasco lover!

I didn't think you were able to do those things. That was a generality. I wonder if my mother did that with me. I love tabasco too!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Good night, Jo & Anne Marie!

 

[Tammi67]

Well folks, I'm heading to bed. Tomorrow night at this time I will be rushing around packing!

Goodnight!

 

[Kitchensinkguy]

Well folks, I'm heading to bed. Tomorrow night at this time I will be rushing around packing!

Goodnight!

Good night and good luck!

 

[tmfranlk]

Sister was an absolute DEMON this afternoon. I was so frustrated and angry with her!

Brother had an accident in the playroom. I was mopping up with Clorox wipes when Brother comes running in, crying, saying he needs a Band Aid. I asked him if Sister hit him. Of course the answer is yes. So I marched back to her room to find out WHY she hit him. She says he was bugging her. Oh, perfect! Now it is acceptable to hit anybody who is bugging us? I WAS going to let her get off with just apologizing to him. Today was the first time she had Tae Kwon Do directly after school - I know she was tired. But then she started in on ME! She told me she hates me, she is going to have a new nanny, she isn't going to sit on the naughty step, she is going to throw me down a hole, on and on and on. So she got sent to the naughty step.

At first she refused to sit, but she did finally sit down. But she did not shut her mouth for the entire 5 minutes she was on the step. She was screaming at the top of her lungs, she was being so hateful and disrespectful I was about to lose my cool. She was also really upsetting Brother. After the timer beeped I was going to let her get in her chair for dinner, but she just kept on with the ugly, vicious talk. "I am going to get my neighbor and she is coming for a play date and we are going to kill you." EXCUSE ME? What exactly does one do to a 5 year old that talks like that? So she stayed on the naughty step.

Eventually she did apologize, so she got in her chair. Brother was eating macaroni and cheese. Sister loves mac & cheese, but she refused to eat it. On to her next diatribe - she doesn't feel ike eating this, she wants something else, her dad will come home and give her steak. She asked for a pickle and I told her no. I don't think a pickle is all that healthy, and she certainly did NOT deserve a treat! So she says I am a LIAR, pickles are healthy. Back to the naughty step. When Dadboss came in he just sort of glossed over it and told her she must learn to control her emotions. OK, this was SO not about controlling emotions! She ranted and raved at me for almost THIRTY minutes! And as soon as he came in she played all pitiful and said she is TIRED. Yeah, I would be tired after yelling for half an hour, too!

That behavior is the precise reason that I know nannies who refuse to work with children once they turn 5. Children that age invariably start to really misbehave, and it gets to the point where you can't control it. And more often than not the parents either enable the behavior or just don't bother to address it, so it never gets better.

YUCK!!! What a day! I'm sorry that Dadboss didn't listen to you when it came to signing her up for things after school.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I didn't think you were able to do those things. That was a generality. I wonder if my mother did that with me. I love tabasco too!

There was a story awhile back about a child who died from having his mouth washed out with soap. Apparently there was some chemical in the soap that the child had some funky allergic reaction to, it caused anaphylactic shock, and he died. But if I remember correctly it wasn't bar soap, it was dishwashing liquid. And it was his parents that did it.

The problem is that the kids KNOW the nanny is powerless, and they KNOW their parents aren't going to do anything. There is NO incentive for them to treat the nanny with respect. And in my previous job the child's audacity just escalated because he knew his mother wasn't ever going to intervene. Might as well crank it up a notch if nothing happens!

 

[Tammi67]

Good night and good luck!

Thanks, Chris.

 

[my3princes]

Here are a few pictures to share

This is Colby with Flat Stanley

Here is Hunter in his new Stroller

And Colby was not to be outdone so we had to take out his stroller too. Notice the reflective tape halo around my little angel

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Good night, Tammi!

Tia - Well, she only has activities 3 afternoons and Saturday morning, which is actually LESS than Dadboss was originally planning.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Deb - Cute pics! Does Colby go to a classroom where the older kids are learning about Child Development? They had a program like that at my high school.

 

[Tinkaroo]

Sister was an absolute DEMON this afternoon. I was so frustrated and angry with her!

Brother had an accident in the playroom. I was mopping up with Clorox wipes when Brother comes running in, crying, saying he needs a Band Aid. I asked him if Sister hit him. Of course the answer is yes. So I marched back to her room to find out WHY she hit him. She says he was bugging her. Oh, perfect! Now it is acceptable to hit anybody who is bugging us? I WAS going to let her get off with just apologizing to him. Today was the first time she had Tae Kwon Do directly after school - I know she was tired. But then she started in on ME! She told me she hates me, she is going to have a new nanny, she isn't going to sit on the naughty step, she is going to throw me down a hole, on and on and on. So she got sent to the naughty step.

At first she refused to sit, but she did finally sit down. But she did not shut her mouth for the entire 5 minutes she was on the step. She was screaming at the top of her lungs, she was being so hateful and disrespectful I was about to lose my cool. She was also really upsetting Brother. After the timer beeped I was going to let her get in her chair for dinner, but she just kept on with the ugly, vicious talk. "I am going to get my neighbor and she is coming for a play date and we are going to kill you." EXCUSE ME? What exactly does one do to a 5 year old that talks like that? So she stayed on the naughty step.

Eventually she did apologize, so she got in her chair. Brother was eating macaroni and cheese. Sister loves mac & cheese, but she refused to eat it. On to her next diatribe - she doesn't feel ike eating this, she wants something else, her dad will come home and give her steak. She asked for a pickle and I told her no. I don't think a pickle is all that healthy, and she certainly did NOT deserve a treat! So she says I am a LIAR, pickles are healthy. Back to the naughty step. When Dadboss came in he just sort of glossed over it and told her she must learn to control her emotions. OK, this was SO not about controlling emotions! She ranted and raved at me for almost THIRTY minutes! And as soon as he came in she played all pitiful and said she is TIRED. Yeah, I would be tired after yelling for half an hour, too!

That behavior is the precise reason that I know nannies who refuse to work with children once they turn 5. Children that age invariably start to really misbehave, and it gets to the point where you can't control it. And more often than not the parents either enable the behavior or just don't bother to address it, so it never gets better.

 

[tmfranlk]

Good night, Tammi!

Tia - Well, she only has activities 3 afternoons and Saturday morning, which is actually LESS than Dadboss was originally planning.

I guess I should say "at least she's 5". One of the playgroups I just met with recently always has discussions about classes - music, Little Gym, Gymboree, ice skating, etc. When I finally got to meet up with them, Terra was the oldest there by well over year (she's almost 4yo). Now, I know there are some with older kids, but the majority are 3yo at most and I know that many are taking 2-3 classes a "semester" and many of these are 1-2yo. Do we really need our babies THAT structured. I don't know, maybe it's just me since I've never done any classes like that or wanted to pay for them. I figure that there will be plenty of classes that Terra is begging to take in the future that I'll save the money for then.