~The Daily Grind~ 3/8/10

[PinballFamily]

Of course, I have the world's most PERFECT child (cough...cough...psssst...is she on the boards right now?)! Z2H, want to weigh in here?

They are testing, testing, testing... Hold your ground. (And Morgan IS a great kid - and very typical.) And you, chickie, are a great mom! But, you may not be able to be great friends for awhile, while you are in "mom of a tween/teen" mode! She'll be your friend again later. Or sporadically, in the meantime. Especially when she wants a ride somewhere...

The fun part starts with the mood swings - your kid...then seconds later, devil spawn...then seconds later, your kid re-appears! Repeats multiple times daily for years!!!

 

[ZeroToHero]

It's a stage. When kids are that age, it's embarrassing to admit you're wrong, etc. I don't know what the situation is with Morgan, but for me, it was that you're trying to be perfect, and when you slip up, you lie. And then when you know you've been caught, you still try to cover for it, because it's embarrassing to admit you lied.

I know that one time there was this two-day debacle about if I had eaten the last doughnut. I had, of course, but felt bad about it, and it was just so tempting...

I think I eventually resorted to "I must have sleptwalk and eaten it."

Yeesh. Of course, we don't realize how stupid it sounds, so we're trying our very hardest to make you believe - and if you don't call us straight out on it, then we're going to keep going. You need to say "I know you're lying, and you need to stop, because it's unfair to both of us."

I know both my brother and sister are going through the same thing - good thing is, I'm able to catch them in the lies... the sister will confess to it (or at least do the right thing), but the brother has the same problem as Eldest... he believes his lie.

Eventually I realized I didn't want to have to remember the stories that I told if they ever came up again, so I stopped lying...for the most part. I still lie to people if I don't want to hang out with them, or if I don't want to cover an extra shift at work.

 

[morgansmom2000]

You're all making me feel better! It's not big deal lies, but the fact that she feels the need to lie bothers me.

It's a really stupid thing - She said she wanted to bring 'fancy shoes' to school to wear after gym...Morgan, you're 9, you don't need to wear fancy shoes (little brown flats), just wear your sneakers all day, or wear your fancy sneakers - adorable pink Chuck Taylors with glittery stars all over them - or regular high top Chucks. I blame her teacher, she wears heels with jeans.

Later, I went downstairs and she was putting her homework in her folder, but she was zipping her bag without putting it in. I said, why are you zipping that, you need to put your folder away. "I don't know." So I said, what's in there that you don't want me to see? I opened it and she said "I kind of wanted to bring my shoes anyway." I got angry and then I felt bad for getting angry and making a big deal out of it. We both cried. She won because I let her bring the GD shoes.

It's a stupid stupid thing, but I said no, and I expect her to abide by it. I shouldn't have made such a big deal out of it, and yes, I do need to pick my battles.

If this is the extent of my troubles, really, it'll be okay...but, I know it's going to get a lot worse.

I think I'll drink tonight

 

[morgansmom2000]

Oooh, look how close I am to 5000!

 

[tinkryansmom]

Mornin' all!!

Jennifer - hang in there! My 10 does the same thing. Its frustrating and silly but we gotta be consistent. This too shall pass. (just kinda afraid of whats next!)

MONDAY

DD up and out
DH up and out
Little One up and fed - chuggington is the new fav show in the morn
DIS/FB
Laundry - its towels day!!
trash out
attempt to put car seat back together
wash up other carseat
Finish up MK Swap - might redo "P"rincess - don't like the matte white - needs more sparkle. Will post pics tonight after riding lessons - or if too hectic tomorrow. Gotta get postal!!
Not doing anything til those letters are done - of course might mean a run to town....

Christy - found you on FB!! Can't wait to watch the videos!! I found Danica too!!

If anybody FBs I am Johnna McDougald - in CA - mickey in the profile pic with me and Little One!!

OK going to stare at that "P" for awhile and decide if I am running to town!

 

[PrincessNancy96]

Lots on the schedule for today..
DH is home awaiting the optic cable guy for our new satellite/internet system! YAY!!!
Must get the dishes into the dishwasher before said man arrives and sees my kitchen a disaster!!
I have 5 pages to kit together today and finish tonight and I will have met another goal for the month! YAY ME!!!
I need to pull 6 seasons for DS9 and I will have completed all his team season LOs since he started playing sports!

I still need to do some highlight pages for each of the years but the team/individual season photos were a must to finish this month!!! I still have lots of years for DD16 & DS13 but we are moving along and meeting deadlines~

Ok, off to do more chores.. DH is tearing out some walls in my bathroom to put in a new linen closet!!!

 

[party of 3]

Found you Johnna!!!

 

[joyah]

I saw you found us you can find my actual page though the fans there.

Jennifer I so feel for you tell my future DIL to behave herself. L is the worst about the lying thing. It's getting rough around here too Tom finally lost it with him the other night so the crack down in begining and neither boy is to happy. It's just so easy to give in and have it over with.

I'm crashing at the computer till the boys get home. Laundry needs folding dishes need doing and I'm sitting here........

 

[tinkryansmom]

Oh Frostbite!!

Staring at MK swap letters and just realized "A"riel are two different turquoise colors. DOH. Only 2 of them are different.

Man I so dislike shopping with toddlers!! Did not even notice I grabbed 2 different colors!!! Well...it's OK I guess. Just a little too blue...

eh - nobody will know right!? Except all of you here And you will always wonder if you got the "too blue" A or not!!

Switched up the embellishment on P - I think I like it better. Need to cut embellishment for Pluto and rework flower for Mulan. I wanted a pearl for the middle of the flower but cannot find one here?? This town needs another LSS.

Add play Trouble, Fingerpaint and watch Calliou to my list. And now my presence is requested for a viewing of The Jetsons! Then lunchtime!!

 

[morgansmom2000]

I just spoke to her. I'm not planning on going home between work and WW, so I wanted to talk to her. I told her that when I say no, I mean no and that's that. It's not that I'm trying to be mean, but that was a silly request. I know it's going to get harder, I'll just have to start drinking heavily to make it through.

 

[PinballFamily]

I know it's going to get harder, I'll just have to start drinking heavily to make it through.

Yup, it will. This is one you'll eventually laugh about. "Can you believe I got so bent out of shape about a pair of SHOES....?" (That she didn't steal, ruin, break, color all over, or lose?)

We have your back!

 

[morgansmom2000]

Yeah, thanks for that...I'm a notorious over-reactor.

 

[PinballFamily]

T'is OK...

Remember, now y'all know I'm the insane "Who ate the last donut?" mother!

 

[ddavis860]

I have no pearls of wisdom for moms of girls. You all have a tougher road than I did. I will say that being consistant, sticking to my guns, never letting them see me cry, expecting honesty, and lots of wine worked for me.

Many years ago, when DS21 was like 2, DH's best friend was older. I was talking with his wife one day. Her son had just dyed his hair green and I was appalled! I asked her what she was going to do...her answer was he gets good grades, he talks with me about things that bother him, he is basicly a good kid... I pick my battles, and hair isn't one of them... I learned so much that day!

So I pick my battles too, and we all have the crazy stuff that is SO important at the time, but later feel silly for. But as moms go, I think we all try our best. And we are the hardest critics on ourselves...

Time for more wine

 

[joyah]

Deb good words of wisdom. Now it I can just apply it. I'm trying to remember not to yell but it seems to be the only way that I'm heard. I think they are deaf then I remember they are men in training and have already passed the selective hearing course. they must have offered in in the fall and I missed the memo.
tonight's dinner and drink will not reflect happily on the scale in the am but I needed comfort food and my black cherry smirnoff and coke but the comfort is worth it.

Deb any boys wisdom?

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

My boys are selective hearing also.

My youngest, bless his heart. I asked him twice to pick up some of this toys off the chair. I then told him to do it in a not so nice voice. When he did it that time, I asked him why he didn't do it before. He says "because you used your nice voice, you don't mean it until you use the loud voice." So I asked him if he wants me to always use the loud voice and he says "no, I don't want to always have do it now."

 

[ddavis860]

Deb any boys wisdom?

I don't have any wisdom, just experience from 3 boys. The best thing about boys is they don't hold a grudge! They are so cool like that! And DS21 took a women's studies class in college and said he now understands why I do things. THAT class should be required for every male! As genders, we do think differently.

Boy Advice : Stick to what you believe. I agree we aren't trying to be friends, but parents. I never cared how much my kids carried on about how "unfair" I was and "everyone" was "doing it". I trusted my gut, and ran the "guy" stuff by DH if I wasn't sure. They would say "YOU'RE MEAN" and my answer was "Yes I am, and tell all your friends too!" Sometimes yelling gets through, but I found they felt I was more "dangerous" when I got quiet. Things got taken away, I was serious, and I meant it.

I can say, I remember DS21 giving me lip one day when he was younger, and then saying "what can you do about it"... I said " as long as I can reach up, I can still slap you, THAT's what I can do about it"...so his answer was "you have to catch me first"... and we both broke down in fits of laughter...Not much help I know, except it helps to keep your sense of humor...

And when they turn 18 I tell them, You are an adult, I can't fix it if you make a mistake now. Think about that before you do anything stupid.

Also, the "real world" has showed them that DH and I aren't the worst parents out there BY FAR. We look pretty good compared to the parents of people they are meeting!

But Mom's of girl's OY! You all have your hands full!!

 

[joyah]

Deb sounds like what i'm doing hopefully I'll survive till they hit 18 only 9 more years. some days they still sit in my lap and want to be loved on and I cherish those days cause they are few and far between. Other days I take so much away and they have to earn it back piece by piece. tonight I made E vac the kitchen and hall cause he walked through in his mud boots he was less than inpressed and I could have cared less. Perfect example of hearing.... I asked L to get bacon out of the freezer he brings me breakfast sausage. It says breakfast that means bacon no go try again so he comes back up with 3 packs of bacon..............um i sent you for 1 yeah well it saves me another trip I was like not it created another trip when you take the other 2 back to the basement. Now that I write it all out it seems petty but at the time.....

Jennifer can I send at least 1 to you?

My new motto is tomorrow is a new day...................

 

[ddavis860]

Nope, not petty. If it's impoprtant to you, then it's important right?

I think they do it on purpose. I think DH does it too sometimes...

I told my DH the other day that I encourage the good behavior, and try to ignore the bad behavior right now. That includes him, and I think he knew it

But really, think of how many times others have said your kid is great, a pleasure, or whatever. You are thinking "you talking about MY kid?" because they aren't like that at home, BUT they are like that with others, and THAT proves they are listening, even if the play like they aren't at home with us...right?

 

[joyah]

right and I do hear it from other parents. L has one house he's the only friend allowed over there to visit so I know he's a good kid.

Wish my DH got that hint. Oh well somedays I shrug it off better than others. Today wasn't that day.