Our kids had their first Disney experience (WDW/cruise package) last November at ages 9 and 11. It was the perfect time for us. Old enough to do just about everything, and young enough to still enjoy being with their parents. Our ds 11 had the right to sign himself out of the Lab, but we did opt to sign our dd out. We allowed our ds to travel the ship alone only when he was on his way to a specific activity. I thought of the ship as a big, floating hotel filled with strangers. OK, some of them dressed in funny costumes!
We relaxed a little on our second cruise in March. We allowed the kids to go about more alone, but required frequent check-ins at our cabin. We constantly left notes (including the time!) for each other when we left one activity for another, so we always knew where we could find everyone. We read each days' Navigator and highlighted some activities so we had an idea of where everyone was going to be at a particular time. Our paths also crossed frequently. We always met before meals, even if the kids were going to eat with the kids' club.
We are going on our third cruise next month, and will keep this routine, I think, since it worked well for us. Our kids are now 12 and 10, and will be in the same age group in the Lab. We'll see how THAT works out!!
At first I felt guilty that we waited so long to give our kids a Disney experience. But I saw far too many little ones experiencing total melt down, probably due to exhaustion or overstimulation. Not my idea of a good time. I also experienced some unsupervised younger children (maybe 6-7 or so) thundering down the ship's corridors making far too much noise. Now I'm happy we waited until ours were older.
Karen
Wonder 11/01
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P.S. You're never old enough to be "too cool" to enjoy Disney!!