Tennis shoes at a funeral?

[mdsoccermom]

Linda, this made me smile.

We played Jimmy Buffet at my dad's viewing. We knew some people were probably surprised (to say the least) but we wanted to celebrate his life (he died young of cancer.)

OP: I think that it is respectful to dress for a funeral, but that doesn't mean suit and tie. Your son's attire sounds very appropriate. Sorry for your loss.

We sang a Ladino (language of Sephardic Jews) drinking song at my grandfather's funeral. We also got the rabbi to say Jesus and **** during his remarks, so we felt pretty darn pleased at the end. We know Grandpa was smiling.

 

[lillygator]

I think he'll be fine.

Personally at my funeral I hope people wear whatever they want...wearing dress clothes and being uncomfortable is overrated and who came up with funeral dress code anyway?

 

[kaytieeldr]

The last two funerals I attended - an aunt and a cousin - I wore Crocs. A sibling drove a bright red car to one of the cemeteries. Nobody complained.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

I don't think there's anything wrong with the tennis shoes/sneakers in this case - especially since he doesn't have dress shoes. However, I do think some people cross the line- case in point: a black and white corset top/bustier at a wake. I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't seen it.

 

[NotUrsula]

Did she have a cold recently, by chance? 2 people in my life have died recently - both developed cirrhosis/liver cancer after having a cold/taking cold medication! The doctors of both said it is a lot more common than one would think - that cold medication really messes with the liver!

It isn't so much the cold medicine, it's the acetaminophen in the cold medicine. It is horribly hard on the liver, and lots of people pop tylenol like chiclets. The problem with the cold medicine is that many people overdose on acetaminophen when they take it because they don't know that it contains acetaminophen, and then they take an additional dose of tylenol on top. Vitamin A, and acid blockers for heartburn such as ranitidine and/or cimetidine can do it, too. (Also, the risk of medication-related liver damage is higher in smokers, because nicotine also stresses the liver.)

OP, I'm very sorry for your loss, whatever the cause. I think your son will be fine in sneakers; it's almost a sure thing that the older folks will remark on his growth, and that gives you the opportunity to mention how difficult it is to find things to fit him. People understand when teenage boys are not sartorially perfect. Just make sure that the clothes are clean and in relatively sober colors, and it will be fine.

 

[disneyismyname]

It's fine to wear tennis shoes.

I've seen some of the worst "dress" when it comes to funerals and I'm not a stickler on dress codes either. Two words .... booty shorts.

 

[tomthebarncat]

Once I am dead I don't really care what people wear to my funeral, as they are for the living anyway.

 

[klmall]

We had a dear, elderly relative pass away a couple of years ago and several of her teenage grandson's good friends stopped by to attend the wake. Each was dressed in clean khaki type pants or suit pants and clean shirts but it was July and very hot and no one had on Sunday-best shoes it seemed even for the funeral. A couple did have black sneakers on if I remember correctly and looked fine. What I remember more about them is their courtesy and grown-up behavior which was greatly appreciated!

 

[TheIncredibles!]

If people are focusing on shoes or what people are wearing in general while at a funeral, they are focusing on the wrong thing!!!

 

[Owl's Friend]

What is impt is that he is there.

When my Grandma died (she lived with us) the morning of funeral a man showed up after having worked all night delivering goods (I think he was a bread man). Tired, slightly dirty. I thought it was so cool that he came back to pay his respects and tell us how wonderful my Grandma was.

 

[C.Ann]

One of my aunts just passed away this afternoon Her funeral will be this weekend. Of course, DS and I plan on going to the funeral. The problem is that my DS has no dress shoes. He wears a size 16 and I don't even know if his foot has stopped growing yet. Would khaki pants, a polo and tennis shoes(clean, mostly white ones) be appropriate or should I try and find dress shoes somewhere? I had a heck of a time even finding tennis shoes in his size.

I would have no problems with that whatsoever.. The important part is that he cares enough to be there..

So sorry for the loss..

 

[castmember19]

I am another who doesn't see the problem. I can't say I think I would mind anybody wearing tennis shoes to a funeral regardless of the reason why. Your presence should be enough.

Sorry for your loss.

 

[scrapquitler]

One of my aunts just passed away this afternoon Her funeral will be this weekend. Of course, DS and I plan on going to the funeral. The problem is that my DS has no dress shoes. He wears a size 16 and I don't even know if his foot has stopped growing yet. Would khaki pants, a polo and tennis shoes(clean, mostly white ones) be appropriate or should I try and find dress shoes somewhere? I had a heck of a time even finding tennis shoes in his size.

I think that when I am at a funeral, I am happy to see the people, not the shoes they are wearing. I would just let him wear whatever shoes he has, and don't stress out about it.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

One of my aunts just passed away this afternoon Her funeral will be this weekend. Of course, DS and I plan on going to the funeral. The problem is that my DS has no dress shoes. He wears a size 16 and I don't even know if his foot has stopped growing yet. Would khaki pants, a polo and tennis shoes(clean, mostly white ones) be appropriate or should I try and find dress shoes somewhere? I had a heck of a time even finding tennis shoes in his size.

Tennis shoes should be fine for him to wear. I doubt many people will be looking at his feet.

Sorry for your loss.

 

[LJC1861]

So, at Mom's service yesterday there was everything from khaki shorts and a nice polo shirt, to suits and ties, dresses, skirts, pants, flip flops, Crocs, dress shoes.....and VERY little black.

So may people honored Mom by wearing pink or other bright cheerful colors, including her minister who wore a white robe and a beautiful peruvian patterend stole in pink, mint green, purple, blue and white. It was stunning. I was thrilled to see the sea of color when I got up to speak, and it brought tears to my eyes.

Linda