CE:

for your family on that difficult decision
Thanks, Z.
missed this post earlier
Talk to her doctor about her social anxieties--she may certainly need some meds which can improve her quality of life greatly. Also I would speak to the activities director---I talk to ours daily and we work out plans for specific residents--some are very social and never miss BINGO or my classes! And others like small groups---we have volunteers that come and read to them in small groups or individually and we have church singings every night so many enjoy that. For our memory impaired, we have diversional activities more suited for them---oddly enough, the ladies in that group enjoy sorting laundry! Tell your mom not to feel guilty either--it's often harder on the family when their loved one is in a facility--but 9 times out of 10, they do much better and are more socially active than they would be at home. Make sure she has a good room mate too---ours form lasting bonds and they look after each other (and then sometimes they annoy the crap outta each other!)

Social workers help with that!
Thanks, hon. She's on "mental meds" already - has been for many years... She was actually hospitalized in a mental unit for a bit when I was in college and really hasn't ever been the grandma I remember ever since...

We were really close, but now she's nervous to even talk too much to me, because "well, CE knows that I have problems, what must she think about me?" Sigh. For a while, they had her overmedicated and she was really, really not there, but for the last five or so years, it's been better.
It's a really small facility in a town of 1100, but it's her hometown that she's never lived outside of, so it's OK. I just don't know how much they get volunteers and stuff. Mom goes about every day.
She doesn't have a roommate right now - her previous one died around the first of the year (happened to be my h.s. sweetheart's grandma - like I said, it's a small town.

) She's been in the nursing home since, what? July? She was there when I was home in August. She definitely has been better off there than home, because she does actually interact there - like I said, I half expected her to "give up and go" not long after my grandpa, because he was the one to make her get out in the world before he died. She's done better than I figured, that way.
In some ways, I feel so sad about the idea of her being gone, on the other, as I said, she's been gone in some ways for 15 years, so...
oh yeah! senators have only 6 years! I'm pretty sure I knew that....just like I was pretty sure I knew the capitol of Canada on the quiz today.....had no clue about the prime minister or chief export tho!
Anyone???
Hmmm. I saw the PM on the opening ceremonies, but can't remember his name - Michael something? Chief export... Oil, maybe? The Yukon surely is full of it. Maple syrup? (JK, Lessa... Sorry!

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D decided to go out to eat/drink with a fellow pilot (nice guy, no worries.

) and so the boys and I did fast food after their tennis and I'll use the defrosting meat for one of my "make ahead, take to Maine" dinners.

However, I told D that I thought I needed some wine tonight, and he agreed that it was a fine night to break our weeknight rule (especially since he was going out.

) I've been sitting messing on iTunes and being here for a bit now, watching the Olympics and enjoying some wine.
Woody talked to the friend upon whose recommendation we depended for the karate dojo, and he's decided to do karate and baseball, too. I was very bummed thinking that tonight was the last tennis (there's nothing next week due to the vacation, then a new session starts) but I have a feeling we'll be back to something with it once baseball ends. Still hoping to find a smaller group for what they call the "semi-private" lessons that would be nearly as cheap, but much more instruction, either for summer or fall.

And if not, it's not like I'm giving it up, so it's all good.