Team Focker Watch Chat - Version 7.0: It Slices, Dices and Rolls Up Socks

[Goofyluver]

Oh no!


How's your poopy phone doing?

Well, I'll tell ya'...it's sorta crappy.

 

[englishrose47]

Read all the way back, but to many to quote !!
Jo So glad your'e back and can't wait for the Mom's Panel TR !!
I cracked up about the tire marks on '****s after new age mammie jammie !!!I"ve had somany my ****s are conformed to the shape you now flat and saggy !! That's my story and I'm stickingto it !!
Dawn You go girl keep hitting that ignore button!!
Did anyone hear the rumor about closing a Value and a Moderate due to the economy??????

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Girls, I'm so stressed about some decisions I'm weighing. I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to who's been where I am.

I'm so frustrated after talking to K, because he sees things black and white. He also pretty much can't make the decisions for me, but support me with whatever I decide is best. So, I feel like all the stress is on me.

If we eat healthy or crappy- it's on me.
If the kids get enough exercise/socialization/time with family members- moi.
If my kids are smart or not- it's on me.
If my kids love each other- it's on me.
If my kids behave/have good attitudes/are grateful- me.
If my kids live a life of faith- me again.

Me, me, ME, MEEEE!!!

I'm so overwhelmed and I don't know if that's my hormones or not. I feel messed up and broken.

I know it's so dumb to dump this right now when I won't even be around again until Monday, but I won't be able to talk about it this weekend with my SIL around. I wouldn't dare talk about these decisions in front of any of our family. I'll just decide and tell them what's going to happen. YKWIM?
So, I needed to vent. Even if no one's here.
Thanks girls.

 

[Goofyluver]

You a wonderfully, beautiful, amazing woman Dawn.

But, you are only one woman. Who cannot possibly hold herself to such high standards without cracking.

Do you try to be the best mother/wife/friend/woman/etc. that you can be for your loved ones?

The answer, of course, is absolutely.

That's enough. It will always be enough.

Perfection is unattainable. But, we can work to be loving, kind, wonderful people. And in that...OUR perfection will come. Whatever that may be.

You're amazing. We all see that.

Love ya'.

 

[carrieannie]

Dawn,,, I`m still here. I`m sorry you are feeling this way. it happens to all of us. You are doing a terrific job with your children. I`ll trade you mine for a week to prove it!! you cant do everything. you will be fine.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

You a wonderfully, beautiful, amazing woman Dawn.

But, you are only one woman. Who cannot possibly hold herself to such high standards without cracking.

Do you try to be the best mother/wife/friend/woman/etc. that you can be for your loved ones?

The answer, of course, is absolutely.

That's enough. It will always be enough.

Perfection is unattainable. But, we can work to be loving, kind, wonderful people. And in that...OUR perfection will come. Whatever that may be.

You're amazing. We all see that.

Love ya'.

Dawn,,, I`m still here. I`m sorry you are feeling this way. it happens to all of us. You are doing a terrific job with your children. I`ll trade you mine for a week to prove it!! you cant do everything. you will be fine.

You guys are so great.

I'm just struggling with this school stuff. Am I doing a good job? Is my kid going to need more than I can give her? Should I put her in public school?

I just feel like I can't school all of them and do a good job. I feel like I want her to be smarter than me. Am I neglecting the other kids needs to get her taught at the level she needs.

Even thinking or voicing these thoughts makes me feel like a failure and a traitor.

 

[Goofyluver]

You guys are so great.

I'm just struggling with this school stuff. Am I doing a good job? Is my kid going to need more than I can give her? Should I put her in public school?

I just feel like I can't school all of them and do a good job. I feel like I want her to be smarter than me. Am I neglecting the other kids needs to get her taught at the level she needs.

Even thinking or voicing these thoughts makes me feel like a failure and a traitor.

The parent who doesn't worry is the parent who should take a look at their priorities and their family's needs.

If you didn't have doubts as a mother...then I'd be worried.

I always tell Jon...I make mistakes as his mommy almost every day. But, I try my best. I love him more than ANYONE in this world could ever love him. And nothing or no one will change that.

You are doing what you need to do. Your children will be great...because they have you as their mother. Would you trust your children to be with any other mother but you? No. Because you were meant to be their mother. You are the one who has been given these children as a gift to nurture and care for. They are yours. No one else's. Therefore your decisions will always be the best for them.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

The parent who doesn't worry is the parent who should take a look at their priorities and their family's needs.

If you didn't have doubts as a mother...then I'd be worried.

I always tell Jon...I make mistakes as his mommy almost every day. But, I try my best. I love him more than ANYONE in this world could ever love him. And nothing or no one will change that.

You are doing what you need to do. Your children will be great...because they have you as their mother. Would you trust your children to be with any other mother but you? No. Because you were meant to be their mother. You are the one who has been given these children as a gift to nurture and care for. They are yours. No one else's. Therefore your decisions will always be the best for them.

Yes, but my heart hurts. I just don't know what's right.

 

[KatGarcia]

I just have to say Jen you sure know the right things to say!

Dawn , Jenn's totally right! I can only hope to be as good a mom as all of you fockers, I truly admire you all!

Speaking of Mom's, today would have been my mom's 53rd birthday. It's a hard day, always is, so we just kinda kept busy in the house. I'm fine tho, just thought it was worth mentioning.

Anyways I am off to read some and hope KC can get of the XBOX soon. LOL.

I won't be around tomorrow due to our date...so everyone have a wonderful day!

 

[KatGarcia]

I just have to say Jen you sure know the right things to say!

Dawn , Jenn's totally right! I can only hope to be as good a mom as all of you fockers, I truly admire you all!

Speaking of Mom's, today would have been my mom's 53rd birthday. It's a hard day, always is, so we just kinda kept busy in the house. I'm fine tho, just thought it was worth mentioning.

Anyways I am off to read some and hope KC can get of the XBOX soon. LOL.

I won't be around tomorrow due to our date...so everyone have a wonderful day!

 

[Goofyluver]

Yes, but my heart hurts. I just don't know what's right.

Maybe not today...but you'll know when you know.

All of us have been there babe.

The achey mommy heart is a disease that can last forever. Lovin' those darn kids and trying to do what's right is enough to give the strongest person fits.

You'll know Dawn. I swear to you. You WILL know. Whatever you are supposed to do...that is what you will do.

You don't need our advice. Because YOU alone will know the path to take.

What you need is hugs. And a shoulder. And we're good for that.

And maybe a and a .

All of us are huggin' you darlin'. Tightly. Errrr...virtually.

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Katt...have a wonderful date.

 

[Miz Diz]

AAAAAAAAAAARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Remember D's stepdad's party thing?

Now his mom has offered to pay for our flights.

Have the boys missed any school this year? I think I would go if they are paying for flights.
Last year we had to go to Illinois because my fil and his brother wanted everyone to get together for their parent's anniversary. We went in August and the anniversary is Oct 30, but Mr diz's grandmother was in bad health and the dr told them that they needed to do the party sooner than October. (By the way, she is still alive, but has had another stroke and is in an assisted living center.)
Anyway - Mr Diz told his dad we couldn't afford to go because I had just quit my job. Mr Diz's dad paid for all of our airfare and his uncle paid for our hotel. They also paid for dh's brother and a friend to go.
We didn't spend any money. They paid for all of our meals. Mr Diz loves to tell people how he actually came home with $20 because his uncle has a slot machine in his basement that pays out.

I am SOOOOOOO tired of all this stuff. Ok, rant over.... I think.

You have been through so much! I would be tired, too!

Well, I'll tell ya'...it's sorta crappy.

You guys are so great.

I'm just struggling with this school stuff. Am I doing a good job? Is my kid going to need more than I can give her? Should I put her in public school?

I just feel like I can't school all of them and do a good job. I feel like I want her to be smarter than me. Am I neglecting the other kids needs to get her taught at the level she needs.

Even thinking or voicing these thoughts makes me feel like a failure and a traitor.

I second everything Jen said.
At least you have the self confidence and patience to homeschool. A lot of people don't.

Being home with the kids is not all fun and games. I have now experienced both sides and honestly, it's easier going to a job every day. Being home - you never really get a break. I tell dh that I'm glad I'm not dealing with some of the junk at work, but it's also stressful being home with the kids.

You are doing a great job! I know it is stressful. Maybe you need a day at the spa or a girls weekend away.

 

[lazydoxy66]

It's late night time with the lazy doxy again! Man we've been busy here at work.

Rachel - Here is the link to Scott's TR: 4 days, 1 park, lots of resorts and some Ip-Dips How ya' holdin' up?

Kat - Your anniversary date looks great! and Yummy! Happy Anniversary again!!!
I'm sorry you are missing your mom.

Jodi - I'd love to meet up with you some time when I don't have to get back to work!

Rosie - I'm sorry about February.

V - Pink eye just made a debut here about a month ago. I was afraid to touch anything. I even wipe down the shopping cart handles with a dissinfectant "Wet One" towellette now. The situation with work is just nuts.

G-Luv - I'm sorry Jon is not eating. Rachel's advice sounds good. My brother went through a stint where all he would eat was peanut butter. It scared my DDad but the doc told him it was one of the healthiest things a kid could eat.
I hope the teacher's DW will be OK. Seizures are very scary!

T - How do you do it all??!!!

Katt - I have trouble with wrinkling/creasing on the chest crusher.

Brack - I just hope they don't find any reason to double dunk spelunk!

Mel -

CE - If it is going to cause a problem with your hubby, I'd just do it. However, I would darn sure make my opinion known on the school thing. I'd make a few other things clear too...But I'm not as nice as you. You'll be fine and the kids will survive.

Dawn - Please have fun!
I think we all go through the 'Why do I have to do it all' phase. I know I feel that way about once or twice a month, and I don't have any children! I know I've said it 100 times and I'll say it again - I can't believe how you guys do it!!! You are all great moms!

Here's a sample of how my mind snaps:
I work,
I clean,
I pay the bills and manage the budget,
I make the appointments,
I plan the vacations,
I take care of the dogs'
Why can't things be perfect, darn it!
I get tired of being in charge!
I get tired of Doug's clutter, everywhere, his half finished projects, his abuse of the debit card, his total cluelessness when it comes to spontinaity or surprises, his magazine piles, his stinky shoes etc. blah, blah, blah.

That ugly side comes out. The one with the big hairy moles and jagged teeth. Ugly decides I should have never gotten married. Ugly says I was fine until 'He' showed up. Ugly says I would still be in my nice little home in town if it weren't for 'Him". Ugly will lash out at Doug if he is close by when it's about. Doug knows Ugly quite well and dosen't like her.

I know the truth, though. I have a blessed life. Doug is a great guy that I love and trust. I should be thankful that the worst problem I have is some clutter. Ugly is usually gone by the end of the day.

Bottom line - things just pile up on you and you finally break. I think it's human nature to take on the world and then go mental when it just isn't working. You just have to take a step back, take a deep breath and let go of the things that are not important. If you need help with some of it - ask.

And believe me, I'm better at talkin' than walkin'.

Now I'm exhausted.

Chat at you all tomorrow during the vampire hours. (Thanks Kat!)

PS - Scotty just told me they is not happy about the cloud that we is all sportin'. So it has to go before da popo gives me a citation!

 

[Muffinygood]

Oh Dawn!

Listen, you are doing a great job. I cannot imagine taking on 3 kids FULL time and expecting to educate them also! If you are concerned about how much you need to do curriculum-wise, perhaps you could make an appt with a public school teacher in the oldest's grade? Most of the teachers I know are kind WONDERFUL people. They'd surely hear your concerns and be able to give you feedback! Gus' 5th grade teacher is amazingly intuitive when it comes to him. Emotionally and Educationally! I know if someone contacted her she'd help.

As far as being worried if they are kind, spiritual, neat, etc. Girl, you have given them the foundation. That's all you can do. Roots for stability and wings to fly! They need you to love them and teach them right from wrong. You're doing that.

We're here for you. You know that. If you want more one on one, just call! (By the way, we all feel like this. You aren't alone. When SD was struggling, I was a mess. You aren't superwoman. You're only human!)

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SO, now the eye pressure is too LOW. I can tell because my vision is all wonky again. I'm hoping for a Christmas Miracle. Eyes that work!!!

Today is a day at home! Thank Goodness! I'm exhausted, blurry eyed and I have to clean my house. Later, I'll grab some groceries. That's all though. Whew! I really need to finish my cards, get the kids photo and get mailing!

Have a great day Peeps!

MEL

 

[askelton]

Speaking of Mom's, today would have been my mom's 53rd birthday. It's a hard day, always is, so we just kinda kept busy in the house. I'm fine tho, just thought it was worth mentioning.

V, G-Luv, Dawn, Mel, CE and anyone else I know it sucks, but like others have said, you are all strong women and can get through anything. Even though no one wants too!

I know the truth, though. I have a blessed life. Doug is a great guy that I love and trust. I should be thankful that the worst problem I have is some clutter. Ugly is usually gone by the end of the day.

You're so right!

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Maybe not today...but you'll know when you know.

All of us have been there babe.

The achey mommy heart is a disease that can last forever. Lovin' those darn kids and trying to do what's right is enough to give the strongest person fits.

You'll know Dawn. I swear to you. You WILL know. Whatever you are supposed to do...that is what you will do.

You don't need our advice. Because YOU alone will know the path to take.

What you need is hugs. And a shoulder. And we're good for that.

And maybe a and a .

All of us are huggin' you darlin'. Tightly. Errrr...virtually.

I second everything Jen said.
At least you have the self confidence and patience to homeschool. A lot of people don't.

Being home with the kids is not all fun and games. I have now experienced both sides and honestly, it's easier going to a job every day. Being home - you never really get a break. I tell dh that I'm glad I'm not dealing with some of the junk at work, but it's also stressful being home with the kids.

You are doing a great job! I know it is stressful. Maybe you need a day at the spa or a girls weekend away.

Dawn - Please have fun!
I think we all go through the 'Why do I have to do it all' phase. I know I feel that way about once or twice a month, and I don't have any children! I know I've said it 100 times and I'll say it again - I can't believe how you guys do it!!! You are all great moms!

Here's a sample of how my mind snaps:
I work,
I clean,
I pay the bills and manage the budget,
I make the appointments,
I plan the vacations,
I take care of the dogs'
Why can't things be perfect, darn it!
I get tired of being in charge!
I get tired of Doug's clutter, everywhere, his half finished projects, his abuse of the debit card, his total cluelessness when it comes to spontinaity or surprises, his magazine piles, his stinky shoes etc. blah, blah, blah.

That ugly side comes out. The one with the big hairy moles and jagged teeth. Ugly decides I should have never gotten married. Ugly says I was fine until 'He' showed up. Ugly says I would still be in my nice little home in town if it weren't for 'Him". Ugly will lash out at Doug if he is close by when it's about. Doug knows Ugly quite well and dosen't like her.

I know the truth, though. I have a blessed life. Doug is a great guy that I love and trust. I should be thankful that the worst problem I have is some clutter. Ugly is usually gone by the end of the day.

Bottom line - things just pile up on you and you finally break. I think it's human nature to take on the world and then go mental when it just isn't working. You just have to take a step back, take a deep breath and let go of the things that are not important. If you need help with some of it - ask.

And believe me, I'm better at talkin' than walkin'.

Now I'm exhausted.

Chat at you all tomorrow during the vampire hours. (Thanks Kat!)

PS - Scotty just told me they is not happy about the cloud that we is all sportin'. So it has to go before da popo gives me a citation!

Oh Dawn!

Listen, you are doing a great job. I cannot imagine taking on 3 kids FULL time and expecting to educate them also! If you are concerned about how much you need to do curriculum-wise, perhaps you could make an appt with a public school teacher in the oldest's grade? Most of the teachers I know are kind WONDERFUL people. They'd surely hear your concerns and be able to give you feedback! Gus' 5th grade teacher is amazingly intuitive when it comes to him. Emotionally and Educationally! I know if someone contacted her she'd help.

As far as being worried if they are kind, spiritual, neat, etc. Girl, you have given them the foundation. That's all you can do. Roots for stability and wings to fly! They need you to love them and teach them right from wrong. You're doing that.

We're here for you. You know that. If you want more one on one, just call! (By the way, we all feel like this. You aren't alone. When SD was struggling, I was a mess. You aren't superwoman. You're only human!)

MEL

V, G-Luv, Dawn, Mel, CE and anyone else I know it sucks, but like others have said, you are all strong women and can get through anything. Even though no one wants too!

You're so right!

Thanks everybody. I'm up way too early and went to bed way too late.

I better shower real fast so my hair can start drying. I'll check back in.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Wow. This just helped me get it figured it out...
I don't know her, but it remided me of my reasons for doing what I do and gave me renewed resolve.

I know there are curriculum solutions out there for me. There are DVD curriculums that can teach her if I feel I can't and co-ops I can use...

 

[kykatt2]

Wow. This just helped me get it figured it out...
I don't know her, but it remided me of my reasons for doing what I do and gave me renewed resolve.

I know there are curriculum solutions out there for me. There are DVD curriculums that can teach her if I feel I can't and co-ops I can use...

Morning Dawn...

I just got caught up on the events of the evenng... about had a coronary when I saw you had posted SOOOOO EARLY

I was about to offer an example but I think you found it. I also personally know a lady that home schools her 8( yes I said 8) children.
She really pushes her Older kids.... and they HELP HER teach the younger ones which also reinforces the things they learned when they were younger and actually helps them stay focused on their current work.

When her kids test using the Va SOL state testing... they always get at and above.

How would B feel ?? does she WANT to attend Public school ?? have you talked to her ??

Some of the things you struggle with I also struggle with. And honestly.. Dawn... It does not matter... I'll PM you the rest.

Love ya

Katt

 

[englishrose47]

Good Morning Ladies !!and Gents !!!
Hugs to all who need them !!
Have a Good Day will chat later after work!!

 

[brack]

Good morning

DISing early 'cause it going to be a very busy three days. I might not get back on line until Monday. Have a good weekend.