What would he want you to do???????
Well, what does he expect? What else would you do?
It's a loooong story but basically we had a not so nice divorce battling mainly over custody. He comes to
everything. Don't get me wrong. I want him to be involved in the kids lives. But I don't want him in my life and it seems I can't have both with him.
WARNING THIS IS LONG:
Chi was cheerleading for basketball and it was a very short season lasting only 6 weeks. The first practice the cheer sponsor said to all the parents look, we don't have a lot of time. We prefer for you to just drop your DD off but if you need to stay then please stay out of the way and let us do our job (they said it nicely I was just paraphrasing). Well DH came to every practice driving me nuts in the process. Once the sponsor called me and asked if I Could handle practice because she had a sick child and I said yes. Apparantly everyone was sick because when we got there Chi was the only girl there and we stretched and went over her cheers and there was XH just staring at us. Made me feel Oh so uncomfortable.
Now there is cubscouts. Omicron is a tiger cub and for those not familiar with the tiger cub program it is set up for a child to do activities with their adult partner, or Akela (usually their parent but some come with their grandparent). So I tell XH I am going to be his Akela and he says OK. Yet he shows up at every darn scout meeting. Seeing how this is just making everyone uncomfortable I offer to alternate with him. He says ok and I even let him go first. Well the next week when I was going with him he shows up again. Now remember this is setup to doing one on one activities with your Akela and when I ask him about why he is there during my week he says that he just wanted to come and watch.
Finally I get all that explained to him in a way that a third grader could understand and we start alternating. For a whole month. Well then his den leader suddenly quits and they ask me to be his den leader. I talk to XH about this first and even offer to let him be the leader. He says no. I offer to continue alternating with him and we be co-leaders. He says no. So I then tell him OK then I am doing this by myself. This means that I will be his Akela every week. He says ok. And has been to every darn meeting since just to watch.
I can tell that my son feels like he is being pulled because here I am trying to show him something or do an activity with him and his dad is sitting across the table telling him to do it another way. Yet I can't make him understand that this is not helping. After talking to other scout parents they say that it is hard on the child with two married parents to come to all the meetings - it is really meant to be one on one not one on two.
Did I mention he lives an hour away? So he is driving an hour just to annoy the heck out of me.
I am seeing though that it is not me. A tball mom that doesn't know me, my XH, or anything about our divorce came to me and asked why he comes to all the practices. I tried to play it cool and say oh he just wants to help. She said she thought it was weird and that I should watch my back. She said she thought he was being fake and just wanting everyone to think he is a great, devoted dad.
Cheernastic moms said that he gave them the creeps because they felt he was watching their daughters. Again, this is without me telling them anything about him.
So back to my story. I told XH last night that we were just doing cubscouts at home and he was mad because that gives me control since I wont let him in my house. Omicron is tired of scouts but I am making him finish to the end of the year and I think that us doing stuff alone is going to help him because he wont feel pulled anymore.
Sorry for the long story. WOW! I feel better after getting that out though.
Morning... I'm around. Thanks for missing me, Janet. 
The kids are having a snack and then it's back to school. Thank goodness this is the time of year that we start having shorter days as books are finsihed up. Bayie finished at 9:30! I made her come back to school and do more math. She was thrilled. Not. I reminded her that should could do it while everyone else was swimming this summer and that got her moving. 
on KC finding the ice cream
on the crazy laundro-woman. You are a much nicer person than I would have been.
on no ex's. 
Needless to say I'm not doing much.
) And my sister asked if I wanted to go. 
it's like a care home ward, Mum's off to see Em in NYC tomorrow and she was trying to get care for Nanny whilst she was gone. Well she has some nasty sores on her feet that won't heal so the Dr said she needed to be admitted, the only good thing though is that she'll be there till at least after Mum gets back so we all know she'll be safe and cared for!!!!
