Taralyn spoke to her mother

[JennyMominRI]

I'm sure some of you know about our situation with Taralyn...Basically her mother abandoned her and her father about 9 years ago. She has only seen Taralyn once in that 9 years and that was when she was in kindergarten. She's now in the 6th grade.. The other half and I have raised her for the most part..Her dad lives with us but is on active duty in the navy and was gone most of the time for a lot of years.When he is gone we are her legal guardians
Well her dad's ex wife had to get a hold of him for reasons not related to Taralyn..She didn't even ask to speak to Taralyn, but Bobby offered..Can you imagine not even asking to talk to your daughter after nearly 6 years.
They did speak and Taralyn was very happy.I really wonder what's best for her at this point.. I hope she doesn't get her heart broken by her bio-mom

 

[RitaZ.]

I'm sure some of you know about our situation with Taralyn...Basically her mother abandoned her and her father about 9 years ago. She has only seen Taralyn once in that 9 years and that was when she was in kindergarten. She's now in the 6th grade.. The other half and I have raised her for the most part..Her dad lives with us but is on active duty in the navy and was gone most of the time for a lot of years.When he is gone we are her legal guardians
Well her dad's ex wife had to get a hold of him for reasons not related to Taralyn..She didn't even ask to speak to Taralyn, but Bobby offered..Can you imagine not even asking to talk to your daughter after nearly 6 years.
They did speak and Taralyn was very happy.I really wonder what's best for her at this point.. I hope she doesn't get her heart broken by her bio-mom

I'm not aware of the situation with Taralyn, but it sounds sad. My friend's twins are adopted, the boys are almost 14 yrs. old. Their biological mother kept in touch with them until 2 years ago, she hasn't been heard from again. My friend has called her and her family without success. The boys are definitely affected by her rejection.

 

[Lachesis00]

I always wonder if it better not having contact at all vs sporadic contact never knowing when or how it will go.

 

[drakethib]

I'm sure some of you know about our situation with Taralyn...Basically her mother abandoned her and her father about 9 years ago. She has only seen Taralyn once in that 9 years and that was when she was in kindergarten. She's now in the 6th grade.. The other half and I have raised her for the most part..Her dad lives with us but is on active duty in the navy and was gone most of the time for a lot of years.When he is gone we are her legal guardians
Well her dad's ex wife had to get a hold of him for reasons not related to Taralyn..She didn't even ask to speak to Taralyn, but Bobby offered..Can you imagine not even asking to talk to your daughter after nearly 6 years.
They did speak and Taralyn was very happy.I really wonder what's best for her at this point.. I hope she doesn't get her heart broken by her bio-mom

How sad

 

[Pooh93]

That sounds like a very tough situation. I hope the little girl doesn't get her heart broke. My MIL is raising her own dd's (not dear) child and the mother keeps in contact just enough to keep things stirred up. If the mother sees this girl six times a year, that's alot. I've often thought it would be best if she'd just step out of the picture totally and quit messing with the kid's mind. Now, this same woman has married and had a child with someone else and is "raising" (I use the term loosely) it. MIL swears she's not going to raise it, but I figure the day will come and she'll have this one too. And how does that make her first child feel? She wants this new baby, but doesn't want her. (the nine year old)

 

[Holly]

My adopted daughter is 11 (adopted at age 4) and has just finally come to her own conclusions regarding her biological mother.
We have an open adoption so mom can call, but she doesn't. She has called only once in the past two years.
It actually took my daughter getting her heart broken for her to realize that it wasn't her fault, but that her mom just isn't capable of a normal relationship. She finally realized that her bio mom "is what she is" and is never going to change to be June Cleaver.
I have never said one negative word to my daughter about her mother (even though I could tell you things that would make you want to rip her bio mom's hair out), and it has been such a relief to me that she is seeing her mother for what she really is.

You are in a tough situation, but it sounds as though Taralyn is very lucky to be living with such a loving family.