Talk about murphy's law-pregnant with 18 days to go

[cgbsilver@hotmail.co]

This is just going to sound wrong anyway I say it so I will just say it and asked.

We have been planning this trip to Disney for quite some time, a couple of things have happend but the trip is still on. Now yesterday we just found out DW is pregnant. We were not expecting it, trying for it or even wanted a third child, but things happend. It is not that we did not want another child at this time but we really did not want more children. Now the question is:

Should we just cancel the trip?
My DW gets real bad morning sickness during the first months, Will she really be able to enjoy the trip feeling sick and not being able to ride some of her favorites?

The only thing really keeping me from cancelling is my promise to DD8 and DD3 who are really excited about this trip and who have been waiting all year for their vacation with daddy and mommy.

Any advice???

 

[Evil Queen]

I think wife should decide.

Also, could you do a Daddy/kids trip, if she doesn't feel up to it?

 

[tms295]

I'd let Mommy make the call considering she will be the one with the twisting tummy.

If it were me (not that i ever dealt with morning sickness) I'd go and RELAX. The trip would be about the children... not what rides I want to go on. Maybe plan a special afternoon for her to get a massage at the spa while daddy plays at the pool with the kids.

With the new family addition it could be sometime before you have the chance to go again...

 

[WDWorBUST]

Honestly - I wouldn't cancel the trip. I think a new baby is going to be hard on your children as it is so - and it's only MHO - but I wouldn't cancel because I wouldn't want the kids resenting the baby. Of course you could cancel and not tell them why I suppose - but 8yo's are pretty with it and might figure it out. I went at 32 weeks pregnant and had a great time - there are still so many things you can all do together - and unless you have a really tall 3 yo almost anything the 3yo can do your wife can do too. (if she feels up to it) So I really think I would base the decision on whether your wife wants to go still and if she feels up to it.

 

[PeachesDoesHair]

There is a lot of stuff her ob can give her to help with morning sickness. I had it very badly with both kids (lost 10 pounds with the first). I would talk to the ob and see what they can do/suggest for it.

 

[Zoemakes5]

I've been "newly pregnant" for three trips to WDW. The first one was for our honeymoon. After 18months of planning our wedding and being told I couldn't have children for about 10 years, and during my first semester of law school, we found out we were expecting. I was nauseous all the time. Day and night. No "morning" about it for me! Other than me feeling bad because I was so tired, and religiously avoided certain (well lots!) of food, we had a great time.
When I was about 10 weeks pregnant with DS2, we took DS1 to WDW. I worked at Disney store and got a lot of discounts. We were stressed and still in school and it was the best trip! Unlike with my first pregnancy, I wasn't terribly nauseous, but I threw-up a lot and at the drop of a hat. I was also tired. This trip went pretty well, too, but I was SO glad that we were on site. We went back to the hotel every afternoon and I napped when DS did. Oddly enough, I wasn't quite as exhausted with this pregnancy. I made sure I had a lot of water all the time. And, I had to avoid certain rides, but DH went on them with DS1 when we needed to. He also took DS to the pool if I still needed to rest. I was still limited in my food, but had more than enough options. I do have to say, though, I was SOOOO Sick on the plane. I've flown all my life and never gotten sick, so this was very surprising. I was completely useless dealing with DS!
We found out we were very unexpectedly pregnant with DD (child no. 3) while on our two week family graduation/wedding/Disneyland trip. Other than craving lots of foods and being tired and a bit uncomfortable and peeing alot, I was fine. I did, however, get very sick on the car ride home.
Even though I had various levels of comfort/participation, I enjoyed every one of those trips. I'm so glad to have spent the time with DS1 at WDW before his brother was born, and so glad we were able to experience DL with the boys before baby sister came along 5.5 years after DS2.
I'd say GO. It is something you've been planning for a long time, and you're kids will be heartbroken about it. Let your DW know that she can set the pace, that you can take the kids if she's not feeling well. If she primarily gets sick in the mornings, then maybe you can plan around it. See if you can talk to the OB about meds/foods that will help. With DD I was so sick that they gave me vitamin b6 and unisom to help with the nausea, and it sure did help.

 

[mask_w03]

I would first ask your wife and see what she thinks. I had bad morning (all day!!) sickness when I was pg with my DD and I'm not sure i could of handled being at disney since certain smells set me off. Maybe she can go and just relax around the pool and if she feels up to it go to the pack and feel free to return if she needs a rest or just can't handle anymore. But talk to her and maybe just take the girls on your own so they still can have their trip! Good luck and enjoy

Also have your wife ask her ob if there is anything they can give her. I was given a pill that dissolved in my mouth and really helped with the all day sickness. Maybe she can look at getting a pill or something to help and I hope it does help her!

 

[ukwildcat]

I'm with the others that say to let your wife decide.

We were in the same situation last year. My wife had terrible morning sickness that lasted all day (oxymoron anyone?). She decided that she could be sick at home or sick at WDW.

We ended up having a great trip. Good luck with your decision.

 

[Patsfan7]

I have been pregnant four times at Disney and enjoyed each visit, (we have two kids, but we go twice a yr). Although I do miss Rockin' Roller Coaster, and Mexican Margaritas, all else has gone well. They way I looked at it, if I were to feel ill, I would rather be sick in my Disney room than in my own room! haha But really, if your wife didn't feel well enough to go to the parks on some day(s), then she may be more at rest with you occupying the kids at the parks, and get some alone time at the room, or by the pool relaxing, whereas at home, she may have more responsibility for the kids which would be harder on her being sick. Just a thought. Good Luck, and I hope you go! (We are also Murphy's and this also happened to us!!!)

 

[Laurabearz]

This is just going to sound wrong anyway I say it so I will just say it and asked.

We have been planning this trip to Disney for quite some time, a couple of things have happend but the trip is still on. Now yesterday we just found out DW is pregnant. We were not expecting it, trying for it or even wanted a third child, but things happend. It is not that we did not want another child at this time but we really did not want more children. Now the question is:

Should we just cancel the trip?
My DW gets real bad morning sickness during the first months, Will she really be able to enjoy the trip feeling sick and not being able to ride some of her favorites?

The only thing really keeping me from cancelling is my promise to DD8 and DD3 who are really excited about this trip and who have been waiting all year for their vacation with daddy and mommy.

Any advice???

I could have written this 3 years ago... when I too found out I was pregant with child #3 (not planning on it loved 2 kids didnt want 3 lol) We opted to go.

I did throw up all over Epcot, and the only food I really enjoyed was cheese fries... but the trip we great. Kid's had a great time.... I was tired. lol

It was a great trip, and I still point to all the bushes where I left my 'mark' So there were great memories to be had.... depending on how you look at it. lol

Welcome to the world of Family of FIVE! Where travel is more expensive, but the the abundance of hugs never ends.

 

[scraptoons]

Our 3rd child came along the same way...unexpected, unplanned, total surprise. It took me until my 7th month of pregnancy to finally let go of the fact that I wasn't in total control of my life. We have to take what life gives us. Our third child is so wonderful. Can't imagine life without him now.

Pregnancies are all so different, even with the same woman. Some women may be sick as a dog in one pregnancy, but feel fantastic in another.

The bottom line is that you can't let things stop you from enjoying life and making memories. It may slow you down, but all you have to do is pace yourself.

I have a dear friend who is like a mother to me. She is a true servant. She always has a smile on her face. She always shows up to help and to serve. She is always blessed from it.
All the while she suffers from kidney disease and cardiovascular issues, has basal cell cancer spots occassionally removed from her skin. She doesn't stop because she feels a little bad. (she does listen to her body and says "no" when feeling ready bad and tired so that she rests).

She makes the most of her life. She is a great example.

If it were me, I would go on that trip.
If I felt too sick, I would hang out in the room while the others went to the parks. I would join the others during the hours that I felt good.

I would also get a non expiring hopper option added on my ticket (if if wasn't already) just in case I couldn't use all the days.

 

[karmom27]

I am so excited to hear this has happened to so many people. We are going next month. We have had this trip planned since Feb. In June I found out I was pregnant. I will be 1/2 way when we go, I thought briefly about cancelling it, but only briefly. I have never been so I think I am more excited than my family. I also looked at it as a great thing for our DD4. A new baby will be such a change and now she will have this special time with mommy and daddy before the rush of a new baby! Good luck to you!

 

[mom*to*2*princesses]

What's the issue for her? Morning sickness? Not being able to ride rides? Exhaustion? If it were me, I'd go and have a blast. I was newly pg the last time we went and rode everything, inlcuding SpaceMo, SplashMo, BRMRR, Dinosaur, RnR. Didn't have nausea until about 2 weeks after we returned. It was a great trip. If you've got little kids, you most likely can't tour commando all the time anyway--just make sure to take breaks as needed. I agree to let your wife call the shots. There are worse places to deal with the beginning "symptoms" of pregnancy than WDW!

 

[TBGOES2DISNEY]

It depends on how early she gets morning sickness. Mine usually starts around 6 weeks. Disney might actually be a better way to get through the morning sickness. She'll have food readily available to help keep the tummy filled and not queasy (if she can keep it down). She'll have distractions. She'll get plenty of exercise. I know - easier said than done (I have 2 kids). Take one last trip as your family currently is, and celebrate the new baby you made together instead of worrying! Truly, I'm not being harsh, because DH and I have tried to be very careful so we wouldn't get pregnant for our trip too (I can't be on birth control, so it's solely up to us!).

 

[glass slipper girl]

Our 3rd child is due in about 7 weeks. He is a "party crasher" as well. As a matter of fact we were so sure we were done DH had scheduled a vasectomy. The surgery was scheduled for end of February and I got pregnant early February. Considering that it took more than 2 years of trying and lots of fertility treatments and medications to get DS #1 here and then significantly less time but still needed help for DS #2 to find out that DS #3 is on his way was not so much a surprise as a shock! It took us a while to accept as well since we were so positive we were done and happy with our family of 4. I didn't tell anyone for the longest time because I needed to be able to say "I'm pregnant" without fighting tears. I can understand the "Murphy's law" feeling with all of this!

That said, I'd still try to go. The older kids have been looking forward to it. How far along is your wife? I know you said you just found out but I know with this one I didn't find out till later than with my others so I was more like 6 weeks before I found out. If she found out early and is still only like 4 weeks, then there is a good chance that morning sickness won't really start for her before the trip. I think I'd call my OB and explain the situation. that you really don't want to cancel because the older kids are so excited and you know travelling with a baby won't be easier so you want to go now. Ask if there is something they can give her to help with the nausea if she gets to feeling really bad while there.

Good luck with your decision and congrats on your own little "party crasher!"

 

[my2minnies]

I would probably go too since life will be more demanding with the new baby. We got the surprise of our lives when our unexpected and completely unplanned pregnancy with my third child turned out to be twins. We still hadnt gotten used to the idea of having a third when we found out at 19 weeks we were having twins. The twins are now 13 months and we are still shocked but love them to pieces. I am so glad we got two trips in before we were born however because things are certainly crazy now!

 

[MinnieGi]

I was 11 weeks pregnant with DS and nausous 24 hours a day during a trip to WDW. No way was I going to cancel!!!!! The trip was planned and DD was excited and we were going with friends and I was very excited. Actually through all the weeks of constant sickness the Disney trip really helped get me through mentally. I could look forward to it even though I knew it would be a very different trip for me. It was but it was also great and my nausea actually eased up a bit or maybe I was so distracted and excited to be there I didn't let it bother me as much.

I had the kind of sickness if I ate I felt totally awful and usually threw up. Lemonade seemed to be the only thing that would stay down. So I drank Lemonade and didn't eat much, I didn't ride anything either. But it was great being there with family and friends.

Is your wife looking forward to the trip? How is she doing so far? Ask her what she thinks. It might be a fun last trip as a family of four! We relished our trip as a family of three one last time and looked forward and talked about the new baby while on the trip.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well I am preggers now and a simple trip to visit my mom in her new home in the keys resulted in my dehydration and we weren't park hopping.

My morning sickness is bad enough that we don't plan real outings the first tri. Disney is local to us, so had it been a planned trip, it is easily postponed for us.

I just get too sick.

You will really have to check with your wife on this one. I'm part of a pregancy board and most of those that are where I am at time ways (within 1 week either direction of me)--most of us feel like slugs and are darn near worthless. It just wouldn't be worth the discomfort to go to a theme park for me.

Just my $.02.



(Though one in our group did go to Disney and one did go to Europe despite M/S and both had a relative good time--but that was a few weeks ago).

 

[studentmom]

Just wanted to say, that I can relate. We had planned on going to WDW this December (had put down a deposit, dh scheduled those days off work,etc), but then found out that I was pregnant and actually would be due in December. We weren't planning on having anymore kids, but I guess God had other plans.

Well after we got over it a little, we rescheduled for Sept when I'd be 6 months pregnant. I was kind of nervous because while I don't really get morning sickness in my first trimester, I tend to get dizzy or light headed off and on around this time in my pregnancies. I decided to go ahead an still go, but I'll have to really make sure to drink a lot of water and not over due it. Dh has offered to let me get a wheel chair if it gets bad.

I figure if I really don't feel good I'll just take a bus back to the hotel for awhile until I feel better (and enjoy the air conditioning), and then meet up with my family later.

Hope everything works out. Please, let us know what you decide.

 

[mommy*RN]

If I post here will I be pregnant for my trip too??? I hope so!

To the OP - I agree with all the pp who said to see what DW wants to do. It might be nice to take a family trip before the arrival of a new baby. Only your wife knows how truly miserable she feels during the 1st trimester.

Congratulations - you'll see that this baby will be a blessing to your family too!