Taking my trip alone, separation

[fizz13]

Hi everyone,
Don't know if its something in the air at the moment, but me and Dh have decided to separate. It was long overdue, but still a bit much to get my head around.
Anyway, I have bravely (or stupidly) decided to take my August trip alone, but will cancel all the romantic bits like California Grill, couples massage etc. Am I crazy? Will I be ok? I feel pretty confident getting around and am sure I'd get a lot more done in the parks with just me, but the thought of eating alone freaks me out. I know I could eat counter service but I don't want to do that for a week. I'm sure once i get there it will be ok but its scary to think about.

Feeling all over the place at the mo, and not sure what to say to the kids at this stage as DH will still be with us for a couple of weeks while he gets something sorted. Any advice about any of this people? HELP!!

Claire xx

 

[carolfoy]

Could you persuade a girlfriend to go with you instead? just for the company really, You'll be fine safety wise and its nice having the freedom to pick and choose where YOU want to eat and go rather than trying to please other people but WDW is the sort of place where its nice to share 'hey - look at that!' moments.
Emotionally I'm unsure whether it would be a good thing as you'll still be a bit raw and WDW is such a romantic place you may feel its rubbing your nose in.
either way I hope things turn out for the best. Please don't let your worry over the kids reaction colour your decision, its a tough one but they WILL be alright.

 

[mandymouse]

Oh Claire, I am so sorry to hear your news, I am absolutely useless with giving advise on this kind of thing ~ but just remember we are all here and we'll all be here to support you in whatever way we can

Good luck

Love Mandy x

 

[natalielongstaff]

claire, so sorry to hear your news. i had some wonderful msgs of support from the lovely dissers just recently

i think a trip on your own will be great fun, you can please yourself with what you do and eat

all the best for the future

 

[happytraveller]

Hi, i went through this 3 years ago and i can tell you-you will get through this It's hard at first because everything that made sense to you-even in the difficult times-is not a part of your life/routine anymore.I'm not sure if when you say alone, you mean with the kids or just by yourself,but i've done both and you automatically grow in confidence,just by doing it as you realise your capable of so much more than you've given yourself credit for to date!So no your not mad-your taking your life back and i for one as will everyone else ,applaud you and wish you all the luck in the world and a brilliant holiday.

 

[fizz13]

Thankyou everyone. I did look in to taking a friend but I spoke to BA and the plane ticket is non-refundable and non-transferable so it has to be just me. maybe some nice DIsers who are there in August will take pity on me and have dinner with me
Claire xx

 

[wideeyes]

sorry to hear your news, good luck for your future and I hope you have a lovely holiday.

 

[gilld]

I don't have any advice for you but want to send you my best wishes. I'm sure you'll get through it and make a happier life for yourself.

 

[wilma-bride]

Claire, sorry to hear about you and DH. If I'm honest (and you know me well enough to know I am ), I would have to say that it's hardly surprising. You've had a pretty traumatic few months and I'm sure it has put a lot of pressure on you both. How are the kids holding up? Do they know? As always, feel free to PM me if you need to chat

I just know you will be fine going on your own. You are a pretty brave person and I you'll have a fab time. I'm sure there will be DISers there in August who you can meet up with for a drink or whatever. And, just think, you'll be able to have the solo trip you were planning for October - doing whatever you want, whenever you want, with only yourself to please

Pity about the ticket being non-transferable otherwise I would have selflessly volunteered to go with you

 

[ely3857]

I cant empathise with your situation as it's foriegn to me however please dont worry about your kids, 2 happy seperated parents is far better than 2 unhappy together parents. I come from a VERY broken home and have grown up into a well rounded happy adult (and I'm not a bit modest about it!)



Jodie

 

[Cyrano]

I cant empathise with your situation as it's foriegn to me however please dont worry about your kids, 2 happy seperated parents is far better than 2 unhappy together parents. I come from a VERY broken home and have grown up into a well rounded happy adult (and I'm not a bit modest about it!)



Jodie

Good advice there Jody

 

[kristieuk]

Just wanted to send you some and big hugs for what you are going through.

In terms of your trip, no, I don't think you are mad at all. You will be absolutely fine. As soon as you get on that plane, you won't regret it one bit. I'm sure you will have a fabulous holiday, and I'm sure you'll find someone who is there at the same time as you more than happy to meet up. Good luck

 

[alisonbestford]

No real advice but lots of

Personally I'd take the trip and have fun but we're all different

 

[jen_uk]

Really sorry about you and dh but as the others have said its better to split up than be totally miserable.

I think you will have a great time at WDW by yourself! If I was going in August I would love to meet up for a drink (or drinks!! ) but Im not going till October, I bet you will have loads of offers from other people tho!

 

[florida sun]

So sorry to hear your news Claire Ive been there, I know what it is like, but you will cope and so will the children, good luck to you on whatever you decide to do

 

[Queenie]

So sorry to hear your news, if I was in WDW then I'd invite you to meet us for dinner and drinks. I'm sure you'll really enjoy your trip. Whenever I've been in a park alone I've never felt at all threatened and I've made friends with lots of people and cast members in queues so I've had people to chat to. It's the friendliest place on Earth so I doubt you'll feel too alone!

 

[KayleeUK]

So sorry to hear your news Don't for to check out the Adults and Solo Travellers board here on the DIS. I am sure you will have a fab time!

 

[jns]

So sorry to hear your news Don't for to check out the Adults and Solo Travellers board here on the DIS. I am sure you will have a fab time!

Good advice

sending you lots of

 

[jockey]

so sorry to hear your news Claire.

 

[wils]

Claire - I am sorry you are going through a bad time.

I would take the trip to get a bit of rest and relaxation (well maybe not but "a change is as good as a rest" )

All the best to you and your family